omg it is happening again...
Kota26
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So a few years ago I made a stained glass sun catcher for a cousin and his bride/wife for their wedding (in addition to money). It was a design from their wedding invitation in their wedding colors- I thought it was a pretty cool idea! Anyway, they live in the same town as I do and when the wife posted the sun catcher on craigslist I was pretty mad. I begrudgingly did not do anything about it and noted that they won't get anything from me in the future.
Fast forward to now and I recently had another cousin get married. I gave her a stained glass sun catcher with her invitation design in her wedding colors (in addition to money). Sure enough I just got a heads up from someone else that she is trying to sell it and I should ask for it back.
Next cousin that gets married will have a "Congrats" card and a gift certificate to Target. I quit!
Re: omg it is happening again...
I know that doesn't help hurt feelings so I really am sorry.
Right? Who buys sun catchers on CL?
At least they both thought they were nice enough to sell... better than going in the Goodwill bin.
love that! lol
This irritated the heck out of me! I don't know what goes into making a suncatcher, but I bet it takes some time, thought, and effort. Even if you don't necessarily love the gift that much, you never get rid of anything handmade or thoughtful that someone has given you, that's just common courtesy.
Sorry - I disagree. If you make something without the recipient's input, you're taking a gamble on if they'll like it or not. You lost - twice. Just because you gave it to them in no way obligates them to keep it if it isn't something they a) like or b)will use. Once the gift is given, it is theirs to decide what to do with and you don't get to be upset about it. It was a risk you took in giving them something they may or may not enjoy.
I don't want to belittle your efforts because I have no doubt a lot of time, thought, expense, and effort went into creating something you thought they'd appreciate. I get it. I really do. I like to crochet and like to give afghans to my friends who get married or for housewarming gifts. However, I know that homemade things like that are not everyone's cup of tea and I typically ask before I create. I don't want to waste my time on something they wouldn't use or like. Sure, it takes some of the surprise out of it but it gives them the opportunity to say "that is really sweet of you but we're all set."