October 2013 Moms
MrsJohnnaJohnson
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Second shower
MrsJohnnaJohnson
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I'm expecting DS2 and do not want to have a HUGE shower like I did with DS1 . I still have most of the things I need except clothes. I trade his clothes in to once upon a child and buy more. I have always done that so I will have to buy him clothes. I was thinking of having a small shower for family and close friends or maybe a diaper and wipes shower. What is everyone else doing? STM for sure! Just looking for ideas. Thanks! :
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Re: Second shower
Second baby showers are a big no no around the bump, so just be forewarned!
Eleanor 9.30.13
And by I you mean throw yourself one?
Nothing screams "gift grabby" more than throwing yourself a shower for your second child. My suggestion: DON'T DO IT. If someone offers to throw you one, cool. But a shower is a gift, so whether it be diapers and wipes or a brunch with a few well wishers you should not dictate it.
Anyways my husband is having a BBQ type thing with all of his friends and we are asking everyone to bring a small thing of diapers in exchange for food and beer.
Exactly! I about choked on my water when I read that.
Sorry this has been posted so many times and everyone attacks the person for even thinking about having another shower. I don't just don't see the big deal.
The issue isnt the shower per say, the issue is your are throwing your own and asking people to bring you a gift. It just seems gift grabby. If someone else offered to do it for you and just requested wipes or diapers, that's one thing. But it's tacky and classless to throw your own.
We talked about it will all of our friends and family and that is just how things work in our family. We are all doing it together so I don't see it as us just asking people to bring stuff. I guess it could be weird to you guys but that is how we do it I guess.
Wow...if one of my friends did something like this I don't think I would go. If you are worried about cost, ask them to bring their own beer instead of dictating gifts.
Can I ask a question, why? If you are spending money on food in exchange for diapers, why not just skip that step? I don't really get the point of that. Maybe you should do a meet the baby party instead? With a BBQ or whatever.
I agree. If you're having a baby-focused party people will bring you gifts, but to me it is tacky to tell them what to bring.
My personal rules of etiquette for showers are somewhat relaxed, but I don't think it is ever okay to throw your own.
Burp...
I agree! That's one BBQ I would not be going to.
OP, thanks for PRing. It sounds like you want to throw your own shower. Please don't do that. Also. Selling DS's clothe was your choice. Just because you didn't keep them does not mean you are entitled to another shower and should expect people to buy you more. If someone wants to throw you a sprinkle or something, that's their choice and a very generous gift. Same goes for anyone that wants to give you anything.
Eleanor 9.30.13
I honestly thought this thread was DD'ed.
Anyways, your sisters can request diaper and wipes on the invite. Or you can make a simple Amazon registry for them to pass on to guests by word of mouth.