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Working Moms of Three
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Can I get some insight? I work outside of the home full time and have a four year old and a 2.5 yr old. We are thinking of having a third and just want to hear some other experiences from those in the same boat.
thanks!
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Re: Working Moms of Three
We have three (almost 1, 4 and 8 yrs old). DH and I both work FT outside the home. The first couple of months back after maternity leave and trying to get everyone out the door was a little crazy. Our little ones go to daycare (and get dropped off at 2 different buildings) and the older one is in grade school. Now it is soooo much better. The two older ones know what they have to do to get ready. The 4 yr old packs up her backpack (using a picture chart) with a sweatshirt, tennis shoes (if she wore sandals), and water bottle. The older one packs up her backpack also and gets her lunch ready the night before. The little one just sleeps until about 30 min before we leave and his bag is packed up the night before. He gets breakfast at DC so we don't feed him before we go.
Pick up is good also. We have still not perfected getting homework done, eat dinner and playtime with everyone. But we do a pretty good job of making sure everyone gets attention. The slow cooker is our best friend for dinner, we plan one night out for dinner and we have no qualms about having breakfast for dinner either. You do get into your groove and things honestly just work themselves out.
Good luck with your decision!
I'm leaving my job, so maybe I'm not a great case study.
Really, though, I have wanted to leave or cut my hours for a long time, even with 2 kids. My husband works a lot of long hours plus weekends and I just feel like things are way too crazy and messy. So, I decided to go part-time at work until the end of the year and then SAH for awhile. My job wasn't willing to do part-time longer term. I think I would love to work part-time if I could find something that would pay enough to be worth it, but for me, full time is just more than I want/feel we can really handle right now.
Anyway, the third baby wasn't really a huge factor. If you are making it work okay with 2, you probably can with 3. It does add a layer of complexity just having one more person, and I always think that everything is harder with a baby until the baby is a year old or so.
So much depends on your baby. My second was SUPER hard with reflux and eating aversions (wouldn't take a bottle) and so when he was a baby that was our hardest stage. Our third baby has been wonderful, so that has made this transition a lot easier than it could have been.
We just knew that we wanted to have at least 3 kids, even if it meant a rough patch at the beginning. I really love having three so far. Our little one is now at that super cute 6 months old stage and she's such a joy. It's awesome watching the older two interact with her.
We have a 3yo DD and 6mo old baby boy so not interested in trying anytime soon, but I find myself much more baby crazy now than I was when my daughter was a baby. Weird? My husband is on the fence, so we will see.
Yes! Definitely a sign!