Babies: 3 - 6 Months
carmenlarue
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Who else will baby let hold him?
carmenlarue
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My MIL is determined to say we have "spoiled" our DS. We only see her once a month maybe. So whenever I take him to see her, he cries...loudly. Ive had to tell her several times she has to smile and talk to him sometimes to get positive energy back from him, shes always whining about how he's looking for me, well why wouldnt he? Oh and 'he doesn't know me' is the big line because she wants to be his sitter. (not an option) He's only 5 months, theres not a lot of passing around the baby during the week, so he knows his sitter, his parents and his big sister. He actually will let other people hold him when they are smiling and cooing with him, so if she didn't waste time baulking about whats not happening, maybe she would have a better reception? IDK. -vent over.
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Re: Who else will baby let hold him?
DS will let anyone hold him, but stares at me the whole time. Unless the person turns him to face them and engages him. I like that for right now he is easy going. I want him to be able to be comfortable with people, because both our families 2 hours or more from us, so he won't see them often enough to know who they are right away.
So if he will be handed off to anyone without a fight, I don't have to worry about discouraged feelings from family members when we travel to see them or they visit and DS doesn't want any part of them.
MIL was like that with DS1. She would flatly say, "smile at me, Nolan" with no expression on her face. Umm, yeah, not going to work. Luckily, she seems to have wised up with DS2.
But, to answer your question.... DS2 doesn't really like to be held by anyone for long periods of time, even me or DH. But for short amounts of time, he'll go to anyone.
Maybe she needs to read up on normal development and separation anxiety.
My LO is 5 months and will cry shortly after being passed to anyone other than DH and I, including my mom. My kids see my mom every week and we're all very close with her, but DD still cries after a minute. It's the age (well, in your case, probably your MIL's attitude, too).
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
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IMO, I think her MIL is saying "spoiled" in an attempt to spread her feelings of being hurt. Almost like backlash. OP is her scapegoat.
My family is constantly comparing my cousin's baby to mine (hers is 11 months older)...oh your baby will let us hold her, while cousin's baby won't because they do this or this or that..
I always try to tell them babies are 1. different and 2. different at different ages...
SHe might let you hold her now but in a couple of months everything could change.... people are annoying and being a parent I am learning sometimes takes some thick skin!!
I have a Daughter born 2/26/2013. She is pretty much amazing!