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FFFC=Friday Flame Free Confessions though rarely flame free!  

For the love of all things holy, please don't make this about food or pets!

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  • It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library.  My list goes on and on.  I think it makes the person sound uneducated (I have someone "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

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    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library.  My list goes on and on.  I think it makes the person sound uneducated (I have some "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

    All of those things drive me crazy!!  

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    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library.  My list goes on and on.  I think it makes the person sound uneducated (I have some "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

    All of those things drive me crazy!!  



    My boss is in charge of over 200 people. Her memos always have typos in them and make her seem really stupid. I correct them with a red pen. She never seems to notice.
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  • imagesnow527:
    I strongly judge any woman who wears halter tops and mini skirts with high heels, regardless of if you're at the club or not. Same goes for low cut spandextight mini dresses and heels. Basically any outfit in that category.

    Why? Like what do you think about them?


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  • I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the (almost) full story:

    My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.  We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.  We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but it is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.  I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.  I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.  We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write (like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.)  I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life. 

    Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!

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  • imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library.  My list goes on and on.  I think it makes the person sound uneducated (I have some "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.
    it would drive you crazy being with my MIL!!! My dh calls her out on it all the time haha. Idea/ideal is the one she does the most!
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  • imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have some "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.


    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.
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  • imagesnow527:

    imageRondackHiker:
    imagesnow527:
    I strongly judge any woman who wears halter tops and mini skirts with high heels, regardless of if you're at the club or not. Same goes for low cut spandextight mini dresses and heels. Basically any outfit in that category.
    Why? Like what do you think about them?

     

    I just don't think anyone looks good dressed like that.

    Saying someone doesn't look good in something is not the same thing as judging them.  For example, I don't think khakis look good on anyone and are uncalled for, but I don't judge people who were them.  Like, I don't think anything about then as people except that they like ugly pants.  If you say you "strongly judge" women who dress like that, then what do you think about them?

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

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  • imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have some "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.
    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.

    I someone in mind that I wrote this about, she has none of those issues. 

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  • My confession is that I can't remember my confession.

    I'm pretty sure it was good too.


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  • imageMarcilene1:

    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the (almost) full story:

    My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.  We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.  We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but it is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.  I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.  I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.  We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write (like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.)  I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life. 

    Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!

    Hey I just wanted you to know your daughter may be more okay with it then you think. My folks had to tell me that I was born while they were both married to other people. My dad's ex wife wouldnt give him a divorce until I was 6 years old. My parents always told me the only thing that mattered is that they both loved me and we were always a family. I knew the whole time growing up because they were really honest with me so it was never an issue in my mind

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  • imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library.  My list goes on and on.  I think it makes the person sound uneducated (I have some "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

    I've got another one along this vein:

    I hate it when people judge and correct other people's grammar and feel superior to them because they had better English grammar lessons.  Please, people, stop it.  And watch this:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BY2lUnNrWUw

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

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  • imageMarcilene1:
    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the almost full story:My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.nbsp; We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.nbsp; We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but itnbsp;is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.nbsp; I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.nbsp; I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.nbsp; We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.nbsp; I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life.nbsp; Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!


    Why can't you share that stuff? You've nothing to be ashamed of. Are you happy and in love? If so it doesn't matter how you got there.

    You can tell your families to shove it.


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  • imagedragossoul84:
    imageMarcilene1:

    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the (almost) full story:

    My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.  We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.  We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but it is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.  I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.  I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.  We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write (like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.)  I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life. 

    Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!

    Hey I just wanted you to know your daughter may be more okay with it then you think. My folks had to tell me that I was born while they were both married to other people. My dad's ex wife wouldnt give him a divorce until I was 6 years old. My parents always told me the only thing that mattered is that they both loved me and we were always a family. I knew the whole time growing up because they were really honest with me so it was never an issue in my mind

    Thanks for this. I guess we will just play it by ear as to how we will tell her. And I know honesty is the best policy, but I am so afraid that she will be angry with us and think poorly of us and that our relationship will be irreparably damaged because of it :( Were you never angry with your parents about their past?

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

    All are welcome

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  • imageRondackHiker:
    imageMarcilene1:
    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the almost full story:My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.nbsp; We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.nbsp; We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but itnbsp;is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.nbsp; I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.nbsp; I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.nbsp; We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.nbsp; I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life.nbsp; Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!
    Why can't you share that stuff? You've nothing to be ashamed of. Are you happy and in love? If so it doesn't matter how you got there. You can tell your families to shove it.

    Yes, we are very happy and in love.  And, you're right, it shouldn't matter what others think, but it does matter to me.  I'm working on it!

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

    All are welcome

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  • imagesnow527:
    imageMarcilene1:
    imagesnow527:

    imageRondackHiker:
    imagesnow527:
    I strongly judge any woman who wears halter tops and mini skirts with high heels, regardless of if you're at the club or not. Same goes for low cut spandextight mini dresses and heels. Basically any outfit in that category.
    Why? Like what do you think about them?

     

    I just don't think anyone looks good dressed like that.

    Saying someone doesn't look good in something is not the same thing as judging them.  For example, I don't think khakis look good on anyone and are uncalled for, but I don't judge people who were them.  Like, I don't think anything about then as people except that they like ugly pants.  If you say you "strongly judge" women who dress like that, then what do you think about them?

     

    You seem to be fishing for something here? I strongly judge anyone who wears those outfits because I don't think they look good, so I side-eye them and think they have horrible taste. I don't know if there is much more to say about it.

    I suppose I am fishing for how you strongly judge women who dress like that. Curious.

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

    All are welcome

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  • imagefuzzylogic:
    imageKLN1179:

    imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have someone "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.
    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.

    I someone in mind that I wrote this about, she has none of those issues. 

    Then say, "There is someone I know who blah blah blah." Don't make blanket statements.

    I used to have a dyslexic student, a student with extreme reading comprehension issues, and a dysgraphic child on my yearbook staff. There were typos galore, I couldn't catch them all. A teacher once said something to me about it, and I told them I had three students on my staff with reading/writing IEPs and that we managed as best we could. The teacher backed off. You never know everything. 

    I said it in my original post.  The iPad ate my ( )s.

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  • imageMarcilene1:
    imagedragossoul84:
    imageMarcilene1:

    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the (almost) full story:

    My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.&nbsp; We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.&nbsp; We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but it&nbsp;is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.&nbsp; I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.&nbsp; I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.&nbsp; We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write (like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.)&nbsp; I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life.&nbsp;

    Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!

    Hey I just wanted you to know your daughter may be more okay with it then you think. My folks had to tell me that I was born while they were both married to other people. My dad's ex wife wouldnt give him a divorce until I was 6 years old. My parents always told me the only thing that mattered is that they both loved me and we were always a family. I knew the whole time growing up because they were really honest with me so it was never an issue in my mind

    Thanks for this. I guess we will just play it by ear as to how we will tell her. And I know honesty is the best policy, but I am so afraid that she will be angry with us and think poorly of us and that our relationship will be irreparably damaged because of it :( Were you never angry with your parents about their past?



    DH was conceived out of marriage too. He was well aware of it all his life. His parents never lied to him. He's not ashamed of them or mad at them.

    It was a jumping point for conversations with him and his sister about safe and protected sex.



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    June 2013: Femara 2.5 mg, Gonal F Injects 37.5 IU, Menopur, trigger + IUI = BFN

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  • imagefuzzylogic:

    Then say, "There is someone I know who blah blah blah." Don't make blanket statements.


     

    She did:

     

    imageKLN1179:

    (I have someone "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

    KLN is a good person. Clearly she wasn't using it as a blanket statement. I think you're trying to read more into this than there is.

     

                                       
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    imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have some "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.


    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.

    I someone in mind that I wrote this about, she has none of those issues.&nbsp;



    How do you know that? She might not even know. Adding and substituting letters are really common problems.
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  • I have a friend that competes with me on everything.

    She rushed her boyfriend into proposing when she learned mine was about to... even to the point that she sabotaged DH's initial proposal plans for me. She used a lot of my wedding details that I had already set with DH for her own wedding even trying to change her colors at one point to match mine. The list goes on... DH and I bought a house, they bought a brand new house. Which she would point out regularly even though our home was maybe 2 years older, lol! DH and I started talking about TTC so she insisted they try immediately. Then picked boy and girl names eerily close to my favorites.

    Well, DH and I discussed how quickly things happened in their relationship and speculated that things might go downhill at some point. So when she called me one day and told me things were falling apart I actually felt smug! She is usually the type to always brag about how perfect everything is for her.

    To be clear, a couple weeks later when I spoke to her she told me she had divorce papers in hand and I felt so guilty for having ever felt anything other than remorse. I had no idea things were actually that bad. I figured it was just a fight that would blow over in a day or two.



    CLIFF NOTES: My confession is that for a time I was a terrible friend and felt happy that my friend had been dragged off her pedestal of joy only to find out she is getting divorced.
  • imageCatahoulaMom:
    imagefuzzylogic:

    Then say, "There is someone I know who blah blah blah." Don't make blanket statements.


     

    She did:

     

    imageKLN1179:

    (I have someone "specific" in mind) though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.

    KLN is a good person. Clearly she wasn't using it as a blanket statement. I think you're trying to read more into this than there is.

     

    Thanks!  I forget the iPad eats hyphens and parenthesis.  That would have made it clearer.

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  • My SIL's boyfriend hinted that he wants to propose. I will be livid if he does. I love my SIL and think so highly of her. He doesn't deserve her. I don't want her spending a life with someone who is going to wave her away from in front of the tv, throw a tantrum when he loses on a video game, and toys with her emotions like high school relationship in a Lifetime movie.

    I want to tell her to run. I want her to know her worth.

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  • imagekrptcmschfmkr128:
    imageMarcilene1:

    Thanks for this. I guess we will just play it by ear as to how we will tell her. And I know honesty is the best policy, but I am so afraid that she will be angry with us and think poorly of us and that our relationship will be irreparably damaged because of it :( Were you never angry with your parents about their past?

     

    She is only going to act this way if you treat it like a negative thing and something to be ashamed of.

    DH and I weren't married when we had DD, and there's nothing wrong with that, and she's going to know that.  If nothing else, you can word it that it's because of her that you realized that you wanted more from the relationship, so she brought you closer together.

    This is very true. I guess the other part of it is that we were drinking a lot at the time and were not being very responsible adults at the time. So, I think we did something wrong.  It's not like we were in a relationship and it was a surprise.  It could have actually destroyed our lives.  Long story short, I was married to someone else (we were separated though) and this someone else happens to also work in the same field as my husband.  It's a very messy situation.  It's better now, but the drama still sometimes flares up.  Like, when I was pregnant with my son my ex did some pretty nasty things to my husband and his things at work. 

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

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  • imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:

    imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have some "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.
    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.

    I someone in mind that I wrote this about, she has none of those issues. 

    How do you know that? She might not even know. Adding and substituting letters are really common problems.

    Clearly you are looking for a fight.  I know because I worked with her for 10 years, know her educational background, know for a fact she did not receive speech therapy, and she does not have a learning disability.  She CAN say the words correctly, I have heard her, she just does not.  I am not going to argue further with you.  I love the person I am talking about with all my heart, she is my mentor.  The way she says those words makes me crazy, nothing more, no generalizations, no blanket statements.

     

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  • imagevictoria+james:
    I have a friend that competes with me on everything. She rushed her boyfriend into proposing when she learned mine was about to... even to the point that she sabotaged DH's initial proposal plans for me. She used a lot of my wedding details that I had already set with DH for her own wedding even trying to change her colors at one point to match mine. The list goes on... DH and I bought a house, they bought a brand new house. Which she would point out regularly even though our home was maybe 2 years older, lol! DH and I started talking about TTC so she insisted they try immediately. Then picked boy and girl names eerily close to my favorites. Well, DH and I discussed how quickly things happened in their relationship and speculated that things might go downhill at some point. So when she called me one day and told me things were falling apart I actually felt smug! She is usually the type to always brag about how perfect everything is for her. To be clear, a couple weeks later when I spoke to her she told me she had divorce papers in hand and I felt so guilty for having ever felt anything other than remorse. I had no idea things were actually that bad. I figured it was just a fight that would blow over in a day or two. CLIFF NOTES: My confession is that for a time I was a terrible friend and felt happy that my friend had been dragged off her pedestal of joy only to find out she is getting divorced.

     

    Although it's not good to be happy about someone else's misfortunes, it sounds like she was not a very good friend either. I probably would have stopped being her friend during the wedding planning.

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  • imagesnow527:
    imageMarcilene1:
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    imageRondackHiker:
    imagesnow527:
    I strongly judge any woman who wears halter tops and mini skirts with high heels, regardless of if you're at the club or not. Same goes for low cut spandextight mini dresses and heels. Basically any outfit in that category.

    Why? Like what do you think about them?

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    I just don't think anyone looks good dressed like that.

    Saying someone doesn't look good in something is not the same thing as judging them.&nbsp; For example, I don't think khakis look good on anyone and are uncalled for, but I don't judge people who were them.&nbsp; Like, I don't think anything about then as people except that they like ugly pants.&nbsp; If you say you "strongly judge" women who dress like that, then what do you think about them?

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    You seem to be fishing for something here? I strongly judge anyone who wears those outfits because I don't think they look good, so I side-eye them and think they have horrible taste. I don't know if there is much more to say about it.

    I suppose I am fishing for how you strongly judge women who dress like that. Curious.

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    I answered the question, and then you asked again what I think of them? Well, you have the answer, again.


    I can't speak for marcilene, but it certainly sounded like you were very close to calling them slutty.

    And there is a HUGE difference between saying you think they look bad and judging them. Judging means you draw conclusions about someone. Like they are stupid and have poor fashion taste.


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  • imagesueann911:
    imageMarcilene1:
    imagedragossoul84:
    imageMarcilene1:

    I've mentioned bits and pieces of this in other threads, but here is the (almost) full story:

    My husband and I were not even dating when I got pregnant with my daughter.  We just had a casual thing going and the pregnancy was a HUGE oops.  We got married when I was 5 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier now, but it is, unfortunately, a spot on our record when it comes to some family and friends.  I feel like we will never be able to live this down and sometimes it really overwhelms me.  I also sometimes get really emotional thinking about how we will tell our daughter the story of her birth and how she came to be.  We bought a baby book for her and there are blank pages because I don't know what to write (like how Mommy and Daddy met, how we felt when we found out I was pregnant, etc.)  I feel such a huge sense of guilt over that period in my life. 

    Sorry this was pretty heavy, but at least it wasn't about pets or food!

    Hey I just wanted you to know your daughter may be more okay with it then you think. My folks had to tell me that I was born while they were both married to other people. My dad's ex wife wouldnt give him a divorce until I was 6 years old. My parents always told me the only thing that mattered is that they both loved me and we were always a family. I knew the whole time growing up because they were really honest with me so it was never an issue in my mind

    Thanks for this. I guess we will just play it by ear as to how we will tell her. And I know honesty is the best policy, but I am so afraid that she will be angry with us and think poorly of us and that our relationship will be irreparably damaged because of it :( Were you never angry with your parents about their past?

    DH was conceived out of marriage too. He was well aware of it all his life. His parents never lied to him. He's not ashamed of them or mad at them. It was a jumping point for conversations with him and his sister about safe and protected sex.

    That's a good point. I just love my daughter to pieces and the thought of her being angry with me and ashamed of me is unbearable.

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    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

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  • imagefuzzylogic:
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    imageMilagros315:
    imageKLN1179:
    It makes me mad when people say things incorrectly, ideal instead of idea, pacific instead of specific, liberry instead of library. nbsp;My list goes on and on. nbsp;I think it makes the person sound uneducated I have some "specific" in mind though she is very well educated and in a position of authority.
    You know some people can have speech problems or disorders right? This a crap thing to judge. It also annoys me when people jump all over grammar mistakes. You have no idea who struggles with disabilities.

    I someone in mind that I wrote this about, she has none of those issues. 

    Then say, "There is someone I know who blah blah blah." Don't make blanket statements.

    I used to have a dyslexic student, a student with extreme reading comprehension issues, and a dysgraphic child on my yearbook staff. There were typos galore, I couldn't catch them all. A teacher once said something to me about it, and I told them I had three students on my staff with reading/writing IEPs and that we managed as best we could. The teacher backed off. You never know everything. 

    Forgive me for my ignorance since I am in no way a teacher or pretend to be one on weekends.  Are you saying that you would stop correcting the students because of the disability?  (That is how I am taking the bolded).

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  • imageSarah52Beth:
    My SIL's boyfriend hinted that he wants to propose. I will be livid if he does. I love my SIL and think so highly of her. He doesn't deserve her. I don't want her spending a life with someone who is going to wave her away from in front of the tv, throw a tantrum when he loses on a video game, and toys with her emotions like high school relationship in a Lifetime movie. I want to tell her to run. I want her to know her worth.

    That's a tough situation.  I have no advice (because I suck at that lol), but I empathize.  On the one hand, if she's happy and in love,  you kind of just have to let it be and hope for the best.  On the other hand, if you suspect that she's not happy, maybe you should say something?  I don't know.  Tough call!

    DD born 6.13.11 at 37w5d

    DS born 5.23.12 at 36w5d

    BFP 6.9.13|heartbeat of 128bpm 7weeks|7.23.13 ultrasound revealed no heartbeat|natural m/c and d&c 7.25.13

    DS born 5.20.14 at 38 weeks

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