So last night DH started to freak out about finances with the duo coming. He asked me a few questions but I couldn't give him definite answers.
The first thing he asked was if the twins could sleep in the same crib. I told him that I think they can share for a while but obviously not forever. Is this a common practice for twins to share? Is it healthy for them to share.
The second question that he had was about another shower. My first response "no this is baby 2&3 of course we don't" but then people started saying its ok to have a shower since its twins. What are your thoughts. I have mixed emotions about it.
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The girls did share a crib, but not terribly long, IIRC. I am pretty sure they were in their own cribs by about 4-5months.
As for a shower, it all depends on what's normal in your family/friends. FOR ME- I wouldn't feel comfortable with it- if I had other kids. You'll need a double stroller, and two more car seats, cribs/ someplace for them to sleep but that's really it. I'm sure your family will want to celebrate the babies though. Multiples tend to be a big deal, no matter where they land in the birth order. If it comes up that someone wants to throw a shower for you, maybe suggest a diaper party- where friends bring a pack of diapers in a variety of sizes?
As for a second shower, many people have mixed feelings about it. My MIL plans on throwing us a "sprinkle". While we will be getting big things ourselves and also getting hand me downs from friends who arent using things anymore, my MILs thoughts are the same as those who have offered to throw one for you. We arent going to make a registry well, not until after to see what we still need, then we will make one for the completion coupon...and it is going to be just family that is invited. Not even close friends of the family. Its going to be very small and informal but it will be twin themed so for "favors" they plan on giving out Twix, Reese's and Double Mint gum from what I have been told. Lol
Also, if someone wants to throw you a shower, great. If they don't want to come, they don't have to.
My pediatrician actually recommended DS and DD to share a crib until they started rolling around, at which point she stated they would need their own cribs. I tried to have them share a crib, but it did not happen for us.
I agree with PP. If someone offers or wants to throw a shower, thats awesome. If someone is invited, they have the option to come or not. If I was the one invited to a second shower, I personally would go-- but that's me, and I see nothing wrong with it- again there are mixed feelings on this topic.
Good luck to you with everthing.
As others posters have mentioned, it was the same for us as far as sharing a crib from the get-go, once they started to wiggle they slept in their own crib.
As far as baby shower goes, I also agree as others have posted that it depends on where you're from and how you feel about it. With that said, I did have the boys first so I was lucky in that aspect, I did not have a shower for DD and will not for this pregnancy either (another DD) as I have everything I need and I wouldn't be comfortable with it.
To be honest, whether you have a shower or not, I find that there are always people that want to buy a little something, we got a lot of gifts for DD from Church members and family, although it was never expected it was a nice gesture. The fact that you're having mutliples I think people would be EVEN more willing to want to gift something, but that's just my opinion
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