When are you trying again?

tetiananina · June 2013

How far apart are you wanting your Lo's? When are you going to try again? Are you considering a PgAL mind of loss or throwing that out the window? I originally said 1 year but now I am just loving my Jackson time that I think I would be taking from him? I have 6 months to decide I guess.

hopefulmom81 · June 2013

We are one and done, but if we weren't I would be trying at the end of this summer.

Albah · June 2013

It's too soon to tell for us...we always wanted 4 but things changed up on us with our 2 losses plus also thinking about the financials behind having 4 kids!

My first 2 are 23 months apart and baby #3 is 2 yrs 9 months apart from our middle son. So far, I am liking the almost 3 year gap better. The older 2 are more independent and it has been a smoother transition so far. So "if" we go for #4, I would want at least a 2.5 year gap between the last 2.

Your little one is 6 months old so you definitely have time to plan it. Baby fever didn't really hit for me until each of my sons turned 1. We always new we wanted more but it wasn't until then that we were brave enough to try again. Good luck!

Junebug060609 · June 2013

We started NTNP when ds was 4m. AF didn't show until he was 8.5m and I didn't get a BFP until just days after he turned one. Unfortunately that pg ended in a mmc and we've still not managed to get pg again. PgAL will absolutely be a factor for me if there is a next time. At this point I'm less concerned about timing [DS would be about 2.5 by the time a sibling would be due] and more concerned about being able to get another viable pregnancy.

tetiananina · June 2013

daylights1:
Obviously we waiting a bit for our second. We knew we wanted our children between 3 and 4 years apart. No more than 4. I magically made that deadline by 5 days lol. I didn't want 2 in diapers and I also wanted to be able to give them the right amount of attention. Honestly, so far it has been perfect! E was supposed to be our last but my H and I are really struggling with the idea. We talked about it a little last night and although neither have come out and said, "I want another child" I think we both do. It is complicated for us now though. MH just turned 46. I'm 31. He is in great shape but we both feel that window is closing. More because I want him around and active for our children. But we are both sad so IDK. Anyway I get my IUD put in Thursday so I guess no time soon and probably not ever. Sorry, I totally just made that about me but I'm having a hard time.

Nothing wrong with that. Yeah I never got on BC after I had Jackson so I guess anything really can happen. I have only had 1 AF though since I have been EPing. Good thing is you can still get your IUD taken out.

For me I would rather have both in the same stage but I don't know if it would be too much.

tetiananina · June 2013

mkc5869:

My siblings and I are all a little over 3 years apart and none of us were all that close. We were never in the same school together after elementary and we never had much in common, really. I think we are going to start trying when DD is a year old. My DH and his brother are a little less than 2 years apart and they loved being so close.

I definitely have anxiety about TTC again. The AL brain will always be with me. My thinking is if we start trying when she is a year we have a little time in case something happens again. I hate that I think that way.

My brother and I are 21 months apart and only a year apart and school and it was definitely nice having him close. I think about this.

Ps I love your Siggy.. What was she thinking? : )

MJM3108 · June 2013

I want to start trying again once DS is about a year. Ideally, I'd love 2U2 so we can get through diapers and all that relatively close together. Part of me feels like we should start trying sooner, as it took us almost 2 years of TTC after losing Grace to get a BFP. But then DH says what if we start trying at 6 months and get a BFP right away? Then I say, we both know that a BFP does not by any means guarantee a take home baby... In all reality, we will most likely wait until DS turns 1 to start trying.

As far as PGaL brain goes, I'm sure I'll have it to some degree, but I have enough anxiety surrounding whether or not I'll even be able to get PG again...

ProfessorPedals825 · June 2013

We always taked about having 2 kids, but now I can't imagine loving another child as much as I love P. But seriously, we're not that close (location-wise) to any family and I wouldn't want her to be an only child so far away from them. DH is back in school full time so we'll probably wait about 3 yrs when he graduates and gets a job. Then I'll get to stay home for a year with both kids.

JulyMomma2U2 · June 2013

We initially thought we wanted them to be ~18 mos apart.. so, start TTC when DS would be 9mos.. because we knew we wanted them close, I never went back on BC. When I went in for my PP check, my OB and I talked and she was perfectly fine with that.. she said their rec is for 12 months from birth-birth. I remember laughing and saying "oh yea, we don't have to worry about that".. because I thought to myself, that would mean getting pregnant RIGHT away after being cleared (my PP apt wasn't until 10wks or so!).

Well.. that first cycle we got a surprise BFP!

Obviously I can't comment on how difficult it is having them so close in age (yet!), but I will say the pregnancy part hasn't been nearly as difficult as I expected! I really thought exhaustion would be worse than it is, but so far it's been manageable. It's getting harder now that DS is mobile, but still doable with DH's help. (I also work FT, too)

Good luck with your decision!!

Gknauff79 · June 2013

I wanted my 1st and 2nd to be 3 - 4 years apart. We had 2 losses in between, so I missed the 4 year mark by like a month. I'm very happy with the spacing right now as DS is a great helper and very understanding of the attention she needs. I also got to shower him alone with love and attention for 4 years!

Mom2anAngel2 · June 2013

As soon as AF returns we will start TTC again. It took so long last time that we don't want to wait. We are both okay with them being close in age. As a matter of fact, DH told the nurses when we left with DS that we would be back next year. Granted DS was born on the 4th of January, so that gives us a 2 year window. I hope that comes true!

amidkiff · June 2013

So far DD1 and DD2 are almost 15 years apart, that I don't recommend. My kids will be like strangers. I want to NTNP once L is about 9 months, but my H isn't really on board. I'm hoping he'll change his mind. But I also worry I'll start freaking out again if it doesn't happen. We had to do IVF to get DD2, so I'm afraid it'll never happen because we can't afford to do that again.

ChloBub · June 2013

The plan is to try again the summer after Z's 2nd birthday. Maybe I'll feel like having sex again by then.

Shaungela · June 2013

i'd like to wait till shes a year old

orangegoggles · June 2013

Probably start trying a year and a half To two years from now. L will be between 2 and a half and 3. Obviously with my history I don't plan too much of anything but that would be ideal.

jen629 · June 2013

Mine are 16 months apart..we started trying as soon as I got my period and got pregnant when A was 6 months old

mork · June 2013

We wanted them really close, obviously, since I was purposely pg again at 5mo pp! If we hadn't had all the losses, we probably would've waited just under a year, but we started earlier kind of expecting more losses. Sad that we did that, and even more sad that it became reality.

Anyway, we're back on the wagon once AF arrives again (which it may be doing, yay)! Technically, I'm still pg from the last one as I'm going through decreasing beta hell again, but my docs are good with me going ahead if I have a period and O, even if there's still HCG in my system. I'm already being closely monitored, and they took my history and age into account.

Sorry for the novel!

pnutg · June 2013

We want to start trying when our LO turns 1! I definitely want more kids close together but need a good break from pregnancy.

jen-dale · June 2013

I didnt want an only. With 2 losses before #1 wanted to start TTC when she was 6 months old. I assumed with a few more losses we would be lucky to have them 2ish years apart. I ended up doing a round with the RE for #2 diagnosed with 2IF due to my age. This 3rd was a total shock. Well, not totally. But we weren't preventing or trying assuming I would decide after 2013 ended if we wanted to go back to RE. Surprise BFP. I still kind of don't believe it.

tetiananina · June 2013

mork:
We wanted them really close, obviously, since I was purposely pg again at 5mo pp! If we hadn't had all the losses, we probably would've waited just under a year, but we started earlier kind of expecting more losses. Sad that we did that, and even more sad that it became reality. Anyway, we're back on the wagon once AF arrives again which it may be doing, yay! Technically, I'm still pg from the last one as I'm going through decreasing beta hell again, but my docs are good with me going ahead if I have a period and O, even if there's still HCG in my system. I'm already being closely monitored, and they took my history and age into account.Sorry for the novel!nbsp;

My fingers are crossed! I'm sending you lots of sticky baby sticking dust!

kwilson158 · June 2013

My husband and I talked about having 2 and being done. I had to have an emergnacy C-section with Cole and that was pretty scary for me so I am pretty sure that experience sealed the deal with us only having 2 kids...Everybody keeps saying we need to try for a girl...BUT...I am fine with having 2 boys.. We were extremely blessed that Cole's birth went as smoothly as if did considering the emergency that I don't think I want to try and attempt it again and I truly am afraid to miscarry again.

ashleyl31 · June 2013

The plan is to wait until DS is at least 3 or 4. We can't afford 2 in daycare at the same time right now.

ksyknelvr73 · June 2013

We are trying (well, right now we are TTA b/c of my miscarriage, but after AF we are trying again). We started trying back in March, so DS was just over 2 years old. I wanted my kids 2.5-3.5 years apart. Hopefully I'll still be able to do that but it all depends.

ct103 · June 2013

We may be one and done, at least that's what in feeling right now. Between the 2 years TTC and the loss, I finally feel like I'm getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating a "new normal" with DD and DH. DH and I haven't had sex for fun for close to three years, and we both miss it. Not to mention, I really want DD to have everything she deserves; healthy food, a good education, and the ability to pursue her hobbies. Finances play a huge roll in our decision.

I realize that my desire to be "one and done" at this moment may just be me trying to protect myself from more heartache. That tells me that I'm REALLY not ready. I've even thought that when we start DTD again, I want to use condoms in addition to the mini pill I'm taking. I just don't trust the pill alone.

jobiann · June 2013

We may be one and done...we are making up our minds by the end of this year so if we are truly done we can do a more permanent birth control.

JonathansMommi2010 · June 2013

Well my story is a little different because my son is adopted he is 3 years old now I would like to start the next adoption process soon which I know the kids will be close in age but they wont be going to school together since my son will be 5 in two years.

krwact · June 2013

dillngr9:
this pregnancy was cut shorter than I had planned so I kind of felt robbed.

I SO relate to this. I've always wanted two. DH is only just coming around to the idea of one (despite our two pregnancies), so I'm avoiding this conversation for now. I would really love for Malcolm to grow up with a sibling and I would selfishly love the chance to experience just one full-term pregnancy. Not that there are any guarantees.

tetiananina · June 2013

krwact:
dillngr9:
this pregnancy was cut shorter than I had planned so I kind of felt robbed.
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This is exactly how I felt with Jackson for a good 2 months. He was born at 35w6d but I loves being pregnant

FreyaWin2382 · June 2013

I think I'm definitely using my PgAL brain....a part of me wants to try again as soon as we can since it took us two years (and two losses) to have our little W. That being said, I think we are going to wait until he is 6 months old to stop preventing. I am still EPing and have not gotten AF yet, so don't know when I'll actually start ovulating.

ikissedthecook · June 2013

We are trying now as DS approaches two. I wanted them two years apart but we aren't quite ready for several reasons until just recently. I think all age gaps have their pros and cons and there is no right or wrong time, just whatever is best for you.

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