I am a previous poster on March 2013 but a family member I don't trust found me on the boards and so I needed to change my name so I can still complain about my in-laws.
Has anyone had a 'come meet the baby' party? My MIL is hosting one and I'm not sure what to expect. I'm just showing up on the day she picked. Will all her friends expect to hold the baby? I kinda want to wear her(moby) the entire time so she's not being touched/held by 20 strange women. Would that be rude? It would be different if it were family or my friends, but it's not.
Re: sip 'n' see
I wouldn't want a bunch of strangers holding my baby either but I do think it would be rude to wear your baby in that situation. Like the title, it's a sip and see, people expect to see the baby and probably want a chance to hold her or him. I don't normally have problems with a stranger here or there holding my baby but I can definitely understand your concern so I hope you aren't offended by that. I just think if you really don't want anyone to hold LO, you should have politely declined and explained why. Obviously it's too late so I would probably tough it out and deal with it.
Word for word what I wanted to say! Just remind ladies to wash hands. Also say that baby gets overstimulated and upset when passed too much so limit it to just a few ladies holding. You have to let people hold baby though, I think. My baby has been held by lots of people and she is FF and has never been sick. I think it's rude to not share especially when you're being thrown a party.
I declined the party politely but vehemently and received a phone call from my FIL yelling at me to stop being selfish and that "this party isn't about me it's about MIL and her friends." I am trying to figure out how to balance my desires with my in-laws expectations. I appreciate everyone's advice and opinions.
Well that's annoying! They sound like a real treat. I think your screen name is hilarious by the way. In that case perhaps you could say baby hasn't had her shots so you don't want her to be passed too much (even if this is a fib) or that she has stranger anxiety? I wouldn't wear her in the moby because they still want to see but I would just limit the holding to you and MIL since it is truly about her, obviously.