March 2013 Moms
SPIJaimie
member
Confessions Friday
SPIJaimie
member
One other March momma told me a name that another board does, it had alliteration and was all cute.. I don't want to look back and my creative juices ran out Wednesday so Confessions Friday it is until someone tells me a better name! Let 'em rip!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Confessions Friday
I am intentionally making Father's Day awesome to further make DH feel guilty about not getting me anything for Mother's Day or even cooking me breakfast! Muhahaha!
I missed a heat rash in LO's fat rolls. The dr. pointed it out at the 2 month appt and asked if we were treating... umm.. we are now?
Treating? I just try to keep him less sweaty there... which is hard.
I think you are referring to flame free Friday confessions, OP.
Anyways, I think mine would be I judge people a little bit for doing this. Maybe it's the SAHM in me that I do this every single day without a break and I think it's silly that just because other kids are a handful you pawn them off. That's what families and kids are. You don't get to pick which kid you feel like watching today and then have someone else watch the others because its too much work.
I would love to be able to sit on the couch and snuggle but I couldn't imagine having someone else watch one of my kids just because he's a busy toddler and I don't feel like it.. Especially when I'm not doing anything but sitting at home.
Well, there's one to get the flames throwing! Also, I promise this isn't a personal attack on you. I know a lot of people who do this and I guess I have always had strong feelings on the matter.
I'm a FTM mom but can totally get this! They are only this little once. DS1 got all of you when he was this age and DS2 is getting slighted. There's nothing wrong with spending a little extra time enjoying him!
I definitely agree about the Fathers Day thing!!! I wanted to see what he did before I figured something out for him. All I asked was for him to let me sleep. He did the 3am feeding and that was it. He didn't get up with her in the am. He only got up when I bitched him out which is why I think he then made me breakfast. I am slightly jealouse that he gets a whole day at the track for Fathers Day when we just sat at home for mothers day. We are going with his dad, brother and my stepfather so it is a nice fun day. I know it is stupid but still.
My confessions...
I'm also intentionally making DH's Father's Day better than my Mother's Day was mainly because I had already been planning to make a nice day out of it but now I'm also doing it a bit out of spite. I want DH to know how it feels to be truly appreciated.
My doctor, not a pediatrician but one of the only doctors where I live, wants me to make sure LO is only eating 30 oz. a day because, at two months old he is 15 lbs. However, he is also 25.6"! He's totally proportionate and healthy! I've been keeping track of LO's feeds for the last week to see how much he is eating and he is usually eating LESS than 30 oz! There have been a few days where he has had a few more ounces. Seriously, what does she want me to do? Not feed my baby when he is hungry and let him cry his head off when I don't feed him?! My public health nurse thinks this is ridiculous and keeps telling me that one cannot over feed a baby and to keep doing what I'm doing. So I am. Screw the doctor who is giving advice from a book. My public health nurse has two healthy boys of her own and works with babies every day, unlike my doctor who is young and without children. I am going to keep feeding my LO when he's hungry!
I am guilty of being a judgy mommy. Ugh. I've done soooo much research about everything baby related that, when I see one of my new mom friends doing something that's not advised to do, I want to say something. Sometimes I even do. Oops. I don't think that they're not good moms...just not informed. I really need to stop doing this because I'm no better. I've let LO sleep in my bed for short periods of time. I plan to take him swimming in a pool at 3 months old. I'm not perfect so I need to stop expecting my friends to be. We're all just doing what we think is best for our babies!
BFP #1 09/02/11 M/C 09/12/11 8w6days
BFP #2 07/18/12 Baby S born on his EDD 03/23/13
SS - age 12...SD - age 8...DS - 13 mos.
I totally kept DS in daycare during my maternity leave. He went 3 days per week and it was so worth it. I had already paid for it so why not? Besides, I was exhausted from taking care of a newborn that I felt like a sh!tty parent to DS when he was home with me. My patience with him was short, I yelled a lot and I didn't play much with him because I was constantly nursing DD. DS watched a lot of TV and was bored and acting out. Daycare kept us both sane. So don't feel guilty for "pawning" him off and enjoy your snuggle with with LO! And to those mamas who constantly have 2+ kids at home, my hats off to you because it is HARD.
Another confession... I see posts on this board and others, I'm a big lurker, about women struggling with the decision to stay home or not and I prob owe these ladies an apology for how much I judge them. If you can find a way to afford it, then do it! I would sell my kidney to be able to. I get its not a great fit for every mom but if it's something you think you might want to do, go for it! Plenty of us for kill for the option.
We all have to do what works best for our family so I do get it from that pojnt. But even still, I guess I can't help how I feel. I guess I just think its the easy way out and since I don't even have an option of someone watching my kids, I couldn't imagine having someone else watch them just because I was tired.
This one made me smile!
I hear ya
I am 30 lbs less than when I got pregnant and love it. I don't talk about it much outside of my immediate family... Friends are jealous and others judge like I did something wrong or something Which I didn't I promise. But I hate not getting to say anything because I'm proud and excited!
I am done with work now since school of out. I get to spend 94 days with my baby now. In terrified because last time I was solely in charge was 6 weeks and she was soo hard back then.
That first week after baby was born my husband came to the bathroom and held my hand when I pooped lol. It hurt and I was scared lol. Not sure what I was scared of but that was a whole new point in our relationship lol
I'm sorry, but this is too judgy for me. Its not our fault that you decided to be a SAHM and you are bitter about it. I could be a SAHM, but decide to work so I can have a paid for house and college education for LO. Everyone has to decide what is best for them and their family. We were all having fun and you come crash the party. So much for a fun confession or two.
Hey, that's what it's all about! You are right, we do what's best for our own families but that doesn't mean people don't ever side eye your decisions. I might side eye you for sending your kid to day care while you are at home and able to watch him or her, someone probably side eyes me because I'm formula feeding! As long as your kid is happy and healthy, I'm not going to waste my time being overly concerned which your choices.. But you are lying if you can honestly say you have never judged another moms [simple as they may be] choice or two.
For the record, I know SAH isn't for anyone and would never ever judge someone for working full time but I promise you I am NOT bitter. I don't know how that came across but I'm not.
This totally! The judgement takes all the fun out of it. At least save the judgement for another thread. One of the good things about this type of thread is it's supposed to be a relief that other moms aren't perfect either.
Moms already have a lot of pressure to do EVERYTHING right. The last thing we as mothers need is to bash each other about this and that. NONE of us are doing EVERYTHING right. Your right could be someone else's wrong and vice versa.
DS1 has gone to school during my whole leave and I don't feel badly about it at all. For one thing, he LOVES school. And right now he gets more attention and interaction there than he would at home while I'm constantly nursing DS2 or trying to get him to sleep, etc. For another, I had 1-on-1 time with DS1 when he was born and he had my undivided attention for those 13 weeks (well, for like 3 years actually lol). I wanted to give DS2 the same.
Oh my god that last one about the pooping made me laugh so hard. What a sweet hubby you have.
This. The best part about fffc is being able to say what's on your mind without others jumping all over you about it. No judgement is the point, lets not ruin it, everyone has their own opinions and none are more right or wrong than the other.
My DD is 9.5 weeks and I still totally do this when I want to take her back from my mom or my IL's. and I usually take my time bringing her back.
My confession is I NEVER answer when my MIL calls because I know she wants to swing by to hold DD and she tries to keep her awake because she thinks it will make her sleep better at night. I always tell her that doesn't work with babies, but she doesn't listen. So then my DD gets overly tired and my MIL tells me that she is colicky. It drives me nuts!! So I always just text her a few hours later and say I'm sorry I missed her call...