How much time do you spend with LO?
happy_un-bride
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DH made a comment that I spend an excessive amount of time with DS. I don't think that's right, or fair for that matter. I'm on mat. leave, so my day job is to look after DS. Other than that, I don't really have too many places to go. DH and I have gone out twice, I've left DS with DH a few times; I don't feel the need to leave DS with someone for no reason. It's not like I'm turning down invites to stay home with him.
i might be more apt to want dates with DH, but my i have little interest in being intimate with him; plus he wants us to leave with his dad and step mom and I'm just not confident in their ability. Not to mention that DS is EBF, and I don't like him having to take bottles, so I can usually only leave him a couple hours at a time.
Tell me I'm not super crazy....
Re: How much time do you spend with LO?
I'm with DS literally 24/7. Though unlike you, it's more by circumstance than by choice. We have no family around for many miles, and those are pretty much the only ones at this point I would want watching him for extended periods. His legal guardian lives near us, but I hate always asking her, because she's single and has a life of her own. My husband has a pretty wonky work schedule, so he's really only available to help on weekends Even then I do pretty much all the care.
You're not crazy. It's natural to want to be the one caring for your own child. But I think it's also natural to want a break from time to time. If you don't, that's great! But coming from someone who gets very little time with her DH, if you can grab some alone time with him, I'd capitalize on it. One of the hardest adjustments for us was the lack of time and my lack of energy that we have for our marriage since DS has come. It's something I think we really need to start prioritizing or we are going to start living separate lives in the same house. I hate the idea of that.
The EBF thing would be my biggest hang-up, and for that reason alone I don't think you're crazy. ;-)
Seriously though, I'm back at work part-time, and pumping 3 days a week is a pain in the butt. It's just sooooo much easier to pop out a boob. There's nothing to store or clean and it's so much faster. Quite frankly, I prefer not to leave DD for long periods of time for the simple fact that I am lazy and don't want to pump if I don't absolutely have to!
Me, too. And I'm also with LO 24/7. He never gets a break from mommy. Poor kid
Yeah sister, you're crazy alright ... crazy about that baby of yours! I have spent every single day with DD since birth and have only been away from her for maybe an hour, tops. I've had a few offers from friends and family to watch her, but I have no reason to be away from her now.
I agree with PPers; they're only infants for so long and they only really need to be around mom and dad.
But for reals, you're not crazy. It's normal for some mommas to want breaks, and it's normal for some mommas to never want to be away from their LO! They change so much and this is time you'll never get back,
I second this.
I think it's completely natural to want to be with your baby constantly. He needs you. You (your boobs) need him. We're built to be with our babies!
I have to leave my baby for a couple hours here and there for work, and I can't stand that time. The only time I'm totally fine leaving him is after he goes to bed and I know he won't wake up for 6-8 hours. That's date time, girls' nights, or whatever.