TTC After a Loss
jasosho
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9 weeks pregnant and no baby in sac!!
jasosho
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i had my first ultrasound today and there is no baby in the amniotic sac. doctors dont know why and im frazzled and depressed right now. plus i broke the rule and told friends at 8 weeks instead of waiting. has this happened to any of you? plus how do i tell friends without having to talk about over and over again.
bummed!!
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Re: 9 weeks pregnant and no baby in sac!!
So sorry for your loss.
This was me 3 months ago. I was 8 weeks along and went in for my ultra sound and found the empty sac. It was heartbreaking and so confusing. There is nothing you did wrong and you have to keep reminding yourself that.
Please Please Please, take care of yourself, rest, CRY, heal!
I had not told many people, but of course my office found out as I was out of work for a week with my D&C. In my opinion, it was easier for me to be around the people that knew so they knew why I was crying or not "myself". GL and I agree with what others have said, post in the miscarriage/loss page as well
thanks madison..
i knew the rule but broke it anyway because i was soo excited. this is my second preg. i have 15 month old.
Sounds like a blighted Ovum to me. And many TTCAL'ers have unfortunately experienced them. Myself being one of them. I am so very sorry for your loss.
I only told a few people in my family, but that was hard enough. The other posters had great ideas. Another one is to send out an email with the news. A friend of mine did that.
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Current Status: IVF with ICSI and PGS
Genetic, RPL, SA and Fertility testing = Normal/Good HSG = All Clear
BFP #1 12.30.2012 || Blighted Ovum 02.05.2013 || D&C 02.11.2013
BFP #2 09.10.2013 || c/p 09.12.2013
BFP #3 12.1.2013 || mm/c 01.15.14 || D&C 01.21.14 chromosome abnormality
May 2014: Residual HCG and retained tissue found
05.13.2014: Hysteroscopy D&C to find and remove retained tissue
June 2014: Tissue sample results indicate a partial molar pregnancy
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08.21.2014: Hysteroscopy to remove minor scar tissue - the result of 3 D&Cs
Sept/Oct: IUI #1 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
Oct/Nov: IUI #2 Femara + Ovidrel = BFN
Nov/Dec: IUI #3 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
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All of this. I was also 8 weeks when I went in to hear the heartbeat but was diagnosed with a blighted ovum [empty sac]. The emotional roller coaster is tremendously painful, but it gets easier with time.
I also recommend having key people "untell" for you. We had only told our parents and his siblings, and it was hard to even have to tell all of them.
BFP on Mar. 4, 2013, DX with MMC (blighted ovum) at 8 weeks, D&C
TTC again as of May 2013
BFP on June 24, 2013, EED March 12, 2014
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All of this. I'm so sorry for your loss. This was me last August. I had one spot of blood and some cramps and rushed into the ER. They did an ultrasound and couldn't find a baby. I was supposed to be 9w5d. Welcome to the board. The miscarriage and loss board might be more helpful right now because everyone there is feeling the same way you are right now. When you are ready to ttc we are here for you. HUGS!
Like PP have said, this is the same story as many of us here. I had this happen as well at our 8 week appointment. It was our first, and we had been excited and told our parents, so the un-telling was heartbreaking.
As far as friends, most knew we were trying, so we felt the need to share the news of our loss in order to avoid the "any news yet?" situations. I have to say, that after some time had passed, I actually found it very therapeutic to talk about it. I found a ton of support, and even learned of friends and family members who had similar experiences. This approach isn't for everyone, I'm just sharing my experience.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please read the blog, and feel free to start giving/getting support here. These ladies are amazing, and have been a huge support to me. ((hugs))
I am sorry for your loss. I also told a few people who I am close too and then had to untell. We both called our parents but the few others who knew I texted because I knew I wouldn't be able to speak at the moment.
As for a rule about sharing I think you just have to go with what you feel is right. I knew I wouldn't be able to keep the news from close friends and family so I shared. I also know that they are the same group of people who support me when things go wrong too.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Welcome to the board. Check out our blog if you haven't already - it is in the green header on the front page. We are a tight knit community and that really cares about each other. These ladies are wonderful and have given me so much support.
As for your other question, we had only told our immediate families and two close friends, and DH called the family from the ER to let them know and he was in charge of telling the friends. Poor DH, I kind of threw it all at him.