Brother and sister bathtime?

meganandchase · May 2013

A couple of weeks ago, DH had a business dinner, and I was running late getting the kids to bed, so I bathed them together. DD is 10 months and DS is 3. DS thought this was awesome and he asks to take a bath together almost every night. DH doesn't outright say no, but he doesn't like the idea. DS is often around when we bathe or change DD, so it's not like he's seeing her naked for the first time. At what age do you think a brother and sister sharing a bath is inappropriate?

PepperStick · May 2013

My DD is 2.5 and DS is almost 9 months. They've been taking baths together since DS was 2 months old. (When we finally had a bathtub, prior to that, DS took baths in the sink and DD took showers).

I have no idea when it's considered "inappropriate." I'm thinking when DD is closer to four or five?

BluEyedGrrl · May 2013

I'd say when it starts to get "weird". You will know. At such a young age, I personally don't find anything wrong with it.

BelhurstBride · May 2013

It wouldn't dawn on me NOT to do it.

I agree with the PP, when it starts to get weird I'm sure you'll know it.

rnbeth477 · May 2013

BelhurstBride:
It wouldn't dawn on me NOT to do it.I agree with the PP, when it starts to get weird I'm sure you'll know it.

This. DS1 is 2 DD2 is 7 months. They have been bathing together since DD2 was 4 months. Bath time would stink if I had to bathe them separately. It saves so much time!

Cherryblossoms07 · May 2013

My DD and DS bathe together and have since DS started taking baths in the regular bath tub. I plan on stopping when DD starts wanting privacy. She has yet to show any signs of modesty.

RayRay007 · May 2013

Well DD bathed with her 5 y.o. cousin the other weekend.

dragon_chica · May 2013

DD is 3.5 and DS is 1.5 and they've been bathing since he was around 4 months. They love it and it definitely cuts bathtime in half! I don't plan to start separating bathtime until DD starts having a problem with it. I think your DH is unnecessarily sexualizing this innocent activity.

ncbelle · May 2013

My kids bathe together still - I don't have a cutoff age but will follow their lead as to when they'd like privacy.

kpips20 · May 2013

DS is 4 and DD is 2 and they've been taking a bath together since she was born. They both love it. I think maybe when he's closer to 5 I'll start giving him seperate bath/showers but for now I'm comfortable with it.

WestCoastMommy · May 2013

My DS is almost 5 and DD is 2.5 and they bath together.

Wulfgar · May 2013

I think my sister and I started to bath separately around the time that she was 5ish. We stopped sharing a bed at my one Grandparents place around 7 (it was a full size bed) and she didn't move to a different room until almost a teenager.

Vespah · May 2013

My brother and I shared a bath until I was in grade 3 or 4 ish....he was 1.5 years older than me. So how old are you then, about 8? I still remember making deals with him debating who got the deep end. We had a great time playing together, eventually we stopped when we wanted to, I think because we discovered showers instead.

Jelliebean1982 · May 2013

My kids still bathe together or with me. There is no way that my DD can wash her hair independently, so until that point baths are done for my convenience. She has not requested any privacy and things are not weird. So I say until you kid can shower completely independently without supervision then you should put them together if it makes things easier for you.

mavs_girl07 · May 2013

I don't see how it could possibly be inappropriate at this age. DD is 4.5 and DS is 2.5. They bathe or shower together every night. They have a blast playing in there together. Once one of them starts to feel awkward or embarrassed about it, we'll end it. Until then I see no reason to stop their fun.

kristennd · May 2013

My younger brother and I shared a bath until I was 6 or 7, and shared a room until I was 12.

Meeshe · May 2013

My 5.5 YO and 2.5 YO still take baths together. I'm dreading having to end it because it's so much easier. I do think we will end it soon though. It's "weird" only in that it's so not weird to them, they don't think anything of climbing on top of each other. At 5.5 it's starting to get a little "weird' to me to see that. I'm hoping in the next few months I can transition my DD to doing more of her bath/shower on her own.

12bailey18 · May 2013

BelhurstBride:
It wouldn't dawn on me NOT to do it.
I agree with the PP, when it starts to get weird I'm sure you'll know it.

This. I can't imagine bathing separate right now.

carlab44 · May 2013

DD is almost 7 and DS is 4 and they still bathe together. They love it so I see no reason to put an end to it. I'll take my cues from them as to when we should stop.

leebi07 · May 2013

I have 2.5 yo twins and they always take a bath together. They are just starting to realize that they have different parts, but I think that discovery was more during potty training then at bath time. I will probably continue for a couple more years unless they want to stop sooner.

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