Does anyone else feel like they really have no clue what they're doing with a newborn?
I'm a FTM, only child, and was never really around babies too much. We've got the basics down (aside from some BFing issues, but that's another story), LO is fed, changed, dressed, and safe, etc. But I still just feel like I really don't know what I'm supposed to be doing! I'm always questioning myself, Is she sleeping too long? Long enough? Eating enough and at the right times? Should we be doing this or that differently?
I'm sure it's one of those things that you figure out as you go, and your kid will be just fine, but I'm a little bit of a control freak and the whole thing stresses me out a little!
Re: Kind of clueless.. anyone else?
I'm lurking from the May board - but I could've written this EXACT post myself! I'm home from the hospital for 5 days, and thankfully have the luxury of a baby nurse, but I feel like I'll be completely lost when she leaves. I too am a control freak, and hate not knowing what's next. But I guess we have to let go a little bit and go with the flow!
I'm sure you're doing just fine, and as long as you keep doing what you're doing,making sure your LO is fed, changed, dressed, safe, baby will be great.
This is me. Exactly.
If you are a control freak, you might like the book Becoming Babywise. It's not super popular here on TB, but its all about establishing routines and predictability. I really found it helpful to have a structure that made me feel more in control and a lot less like I was always guessing!
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Every time I feel stressed, I say to myself "He's only a newborn once. Enjoy it as much as possible." I'm a FTM too and feel overwhelmed by all of the choices I can make each day. I think I ruin it for myself a lot of times by reading WAAAAY too much on different subjects. We had one rough few hours before bed the other night, and I swear I researched and read about sleeping routines for like 8 hours. Not a good idea.
OP, I'm sure you're doing a great job! You are definitely not the only one feeling unsure of yourself. Just keep doing what you're doing