March 2013 Moms
MSW_721
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Fussy baby and development
MSW_721
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I feel like DD is either sleeping or fussing. She has her times when she smiles and interacts with us and when I can stick her in her play mat but a lot of our day is spent soothing her. As a result, I feel like she's not getting the chance to work on her milestones. She HATES tummy time so her head control isn't all that great. Since she cries a lot, she's not cooing much. That sort of thing. I look back on what DS was doing at this age and at other babies her age and they all seem to play more and interact more. I feel like DD is still like a newborn where a lot of our day is spent rocking and shh-ing her. I know I shouldn't compare babies and they all develop in their own time and I don't have that mommy gut feeling that anything is wrong with her, but I guess I was just looking to see if any other mamas of fussy babies feel the same way. Thanks ladies!
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Re: Fussy baby and development
DS falls asleep during tummy time so since about a month old we roll him up to a sitting position while holding his hands/arms after every diaper change. We stay like that for no more than a few seconds but now he can do that for a minute easy. We also just sit him on our laps and position our hands under his arms and supporting his chest and back. He's got pretty good head control now and when we hold him on our shoulder, he lifts his head and doesn't wobble too much.
Now that he doesn't fall asleep during tummy time, he is starting to lift his head when he's on the floor, but not pushing up yet.
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There are some days that I feel that way. Some days I have a happy little coo-monster and some days he is just not happy with the world and I am lucky if I get one smile out of him all day. I tell myself that he is learning and having all new perceptions/sensations that can be very overwhelming for him, making him fussier some days.
Hopefully once our LO get things more figured out and things settle down they will be less fussy in general.
As for tummy time, my little guy actually loves it for some reason. He tries so hard to wiggle and kick his legs to move around, I think I am going to have an early crawler. He also loves when we lean back as we are sitting and put him on our chests tummy down. He pushes up with his arms and looks at us and looks around. He also pushes up with his legs so he is kind of working on standing. Loves it!
I agree that oyu could try wearing DD. I didn't start tummy time really until 6-7 weeks, and at 10 weeks she holds her head up steady for a good amount of time. She practices every chance she gets! In the sling she'll push off me and look around, in the bath (I bath with her when she's being cranky) she'll lift her head and even when I'm holding her she'll try and push off my chest to look.
And she's not too fussy, but I do think a large part is because I spent her fussiest weeks wearing her (I wore her the most weeks 6-8). She enjoyed the contact during those times, but as she gets older she seems to prefer being by herself so I give her plenty of time in her activity mat, bouncer, under her mobile, etc.
As far as stimulating-listen, as a culture we put a big emphasis on stimulation. In other cultures where they wear babies, those babies get stimulated in the wrap because they can see, hear, and observe what you do! But also, some other cultures put a bigger emphasis on rest and relaxation for babies (there are other countries wehre babies spent 2-3 more hours a day sleeping than ours, other countries where babies cry on average maybe 15-30 minutes where as the average for the US is 2-3 hours) and not stimulation. Your baby is fine, and her development isn't stunted by being fussy. I would really invest in a wrap though, you will free your hands up, baby will probably fuss less AND she'll get stimulated.