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# of future children?

I tried putting a poll together but TB isn't cooperating. Has your loss(es) changed the number of children you're hoping to have?

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  • I had always imagined having 2 kids. DH always wanted 4. We agreed that in a perfect world we would compromise and have 3. Well IVF and our second tri loss have changed everything for me. I know that more kids won't bring back my sons but I'm in the camp of having sometimes like 5 or 6 kids now. Crazy, I know and highly unlikely that we'll get there but that's where I'm at right now. 1 happy healthy baby would make me happy right now.

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    IVF #1: Dec 2012 16m/15f 12/9: 5dt of 2 beautiful blasts and 5 frosties
    TWINS!
    15w4d:baby a-pProm
    March 25: 18w...2 baby boys born sleeping
    July 29: FET-BFN

    Sept: TAC placed

    Oct 27: FET #2-Cancelled-monster cyst producing insane amounts of estrogen

    Nov 13: FET #2-take 2
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  • SerenlaSerenla member
    Nope it hasn't changed, 2 kids. We are going to have our replacements and no more lol.



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    I had always imagined having 2 kids. DH always wanted 4. We agreed that in a perfect world we would compromise and have 3. Well IVF and our second tri loss have changed everything for me. I know that more kids won't bring back my sons but I'm in the camp of having sometimes like 5 or 6 kids now. Crazy, I know and highly unlikely that we'll get there but that's where I'm at right now. 1 happy healthy baby would make me happy right now.

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  • I've always wanted 4 and so does DH.  We would like to still have 4 but I'd be happy just to have one.  We are getting older and I'm starting to realize it isn't as easy as I thought to have kids.  I'm not sure we will get to 4 before we are too old now :(
  • I've always wanted two, but if anything this journey make me want a bigger family and more children rather than less. One healthy baby would make me happy, but ideally? I don't know, 3 maybe 4? I'm also cool with adopting or a combination of biological children and adopted children. We've talked about it a bit, but I don't think my husband is quite there yet.
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  • Yes.

    DS mentioned

    Before the first pregnancy we'd thought 3. Now we would be thrilled with 2 and content [blessed beyond words, really] with the one we have. Having already had a loss before DS we've always been incredibly thankful for him. As each month goes on TTC after this loss we realize more and more what a miracle he is.

    ETA:My age is a big reason why it has changed our number. If I were 26 instead of 36 it probably wouldn't have changed.

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  • I'd still like 3 total.

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    Nope it hasn't changed, 2 kids. We are going to have our replacements and no more lol.

    i know what you mean but I'm sure they aren't really 'replacements' 

    I think she means population replacements for herself and her dh, not replacements in terms of lost angels.

    I'd also like two. I'd be happy with just one now, though.  

      

     

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  • We always talked about 3 or 4. I think it's made us worried that we won't get to the 4th. It's definetely made us reconsider the amount of time that we will wait between each child... I think now it will be a smaller gap.

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  • imageJunebug060609:
    Yes. DS mentioned Before the first pregnancy we'd thought 3. Now we would be thrilled with 2 and content [blessed beyond words, really] with the one we have. Having already had a loss before DS we've always been incredibly thankful for him. As each month goes on TTC after this loss we realize more and more what a miracle he is.

    This is similar to how I feel, except I know DD would not be content. She prays for a little sister every night.


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    We always talked about 3 or 4. I think it's made us worried that we won't get to the 4th. It's definetely made us reconsider the amount of time that we will wait between each child... I think now it will be a smaller gap.

    I definitely think the TTCAL journey has made us reconsider the gap between each child.  My siblings and I are 3.5 years apart and I thought that was a good spacing but now I think I would try for them closer than that for two reasons, one we are getting older, and two it isn't a guarentee that things will work out as planned for.

  • In a way.

    This has always been an area of debate for me and DH. I wanted 2 and he wanted 4 or more. He always imagined we could compromise and do 4. LOL. With the losses its kind of made us both appreciate what the other wanted. Like, he could be happy with 2. And me? Well I realized I wouldn't mind having a house full. At this point I am wondering though. I feel like a complete failure.
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  • Not really. I always wanted 4 and I still do.
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    Nope it hasn't changed, 2 kids. We are going to have our replacements and no more lol.

    i know what you mean but I'm sure they aren't really 'replacements' 

     

    Oh jeeze I just reread that post. Sorry if I offended it was meant to be tounge in cheek in regards to our, meaning dh and meself, mortality. I probably should put a disclaimer when I'm being a bit snarky.




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    We've always been in the 'one and done' crowd, and our loss hasn't changed that.

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  • *DD mentioned

    I always wanted two or three, ended up with my daughter from my previous marriage being an only child as her dad and I split when she was young.  She always wanted siblings, it's just sad that she's now moved out and in college so won't really get to enjoy sibs if they do happen.  I think hubby and I would still like two, I'd rather not have another 'only', although given my age and my one remaining tube I'm not sure we'll ever even get just one.  Blah! 

    ETA Sorry this turned into a pity party! lol


         

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  • We wanted to have 2 or 3. We haven't really talked about it since the mc. I still would like to have 2, but I just want to make it through getting 1 here safely.
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  • I'm still wanting the same amount. I think now I'll be happy with whatever I get. I realize now how long it takes to grow a baby and how dangerous it can be for my body. I know it's worth the risk. I'll probably still have 3 or 4. Depending on how the next pregnancy goes.

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    DH always wanted two, and I wanted three. I don't think his feelings have changed, but I'm definitely the more pessimistic one in this regard. I haven't changed my mind, really, but I just try not to ever think about it. A few weeks ago, he showed me a list of names he had been making for "our future children." It was like a sucker punch to my gut. I used to make lists, but I stopped that after our first loss and haven't been able to think about it since. My philosophy is avoidance, because, as someone said, "Expectation is the root of all heartache." 

    I used to doodle the boys names on everything and make lists too. I've caught myself getting read to make a list and then stop. I just can't bring myself to go there.

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  • I agree with several of you guys - this journey is making me lean toward the high side.  We always wanted at least two, maybe three.  I am an only and knew I wanted our kids to have siblings.  Now, I would really like to have three.  I think what has really happened is that everything is put into perspective about timing.  I was planning to try to time them out every two years and God has taught me that his timing has nothing to do with my plan!  If we don't get to three, that would be ok, but I sure hope we get to one soon!

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  • L&C2010L&C2010 member
    We still want 2 but will be happy with 1.  As others have said, we are planning on shortening the gap between the 2 and will probably start trying within a year after our first.  But if we only have 1, we will be greatful.  DH and I are both only children and I think we turned out ok Smile

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  • DH and I want to have two to three of our own and then want to adopt one or two in addition. That hasn't changed yet.
                               
                  
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  • DD Ment. 

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    Growing up I always said I wanted four children.  I was a middle child and hated it so I knew I didn't want there to be a middle person.  When DH and I were starting to get serious about dating we talked about kids and he has always wanted two so we decided to stick with two.  After our third loss, the first after DD was born, DH said he would be ok with not having any more kids...  I took the loss so hard DH never wanted to see me that way again.  Now with having four losses and trying for so long I'm not sure we will have another one.  It absolutely BREAKS my heart to think we might never have a sibling for DD because she frequently talks about her "brother" and asks for a sister.  (We don't know what any of our losses are and have not talked openly to our DD about them so it always makes me tear up hearing her say "her brother".)

    Sorry, that got long and kind of turned into a Pity Party for me...  Just been a tough week and emotions are high...  Sad 

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    DH always wanted two, and I wanted three. I don't think his feelings have changed, but I'm definitely the more pessimistic one in this regard. I haven't changed my mind, really, but I just try not to ever think about it. A few weeks ago, he showed me a list of names he had been making for "our future children." It was like a sucker punch to my gut. I used to make lists, but I stopped that after our first loss and haven't been able to think about it since. My philosophy is avoidance, because, as someone said, "Expectation is the root of all heartache." 

    I used to doodle the boys names on everything and make lists too. I've caught myself getting read to make a list and then stop. I just can't bring myself to go there.

     I had kept file on my computer at work, I still come up with names every once in a while but I cannot bring myself to add them. 




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    DD Ment. 

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    Growing up I always said I wanted four children.  I was a middle child and hated it so I knew I didn't want there to be a middle person.  When DH and I were starting to get serious about dating we talked about kids and he has always wanted two so we decided to stick with two.  After our third loss, the first after DD was born, DH said he would be ok with not having any more kids...  I took the loss so hard DH never wanted to see me that way again.  Now with having four losses and trying for so long I'm not sure we will have another one.  It absolutely BREAKS my heart to think we might never have a sibling for DD because she frequently talks about her "brother" and asks for a sister.  (We don't know what any of our losses are and have not talked openly to our DD about them so it always makes me tear up hearing her say "her brother".)

    Sorry, that got long and kind of turned into a Pity Party for me...  Just been a tough week and emotions are high...  Sad 

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  • I hope to have 4
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    DD Ment. 

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    Growing up I always said I wanted four children.  I was a middle child and hated it so I knew I didn't want there to be a middle person.  When DH and I were starting to get serious about dating we talked about kids and he has always wanted two so we decided to stick with two.  After our third loss, the first after DD was born, DH said he would be ok with not having any more kids...  I took the loss so hard DH never wanted to see me that way again.  Now with having four losses and trying for so long I'm not sure we will have another one.  It absolutely BREAKS my heart to think we might never have a sibling for DD because she frequently talks about her "brother" and asks for a sister.  (We don't know what any of our losses are and have not talked openly to our DD about them so it always makes me tear up hearing her say "her brother".)

    Sorry, that got long and kind of turned into a Pity Party for me...  Just been a tough week and emotions are high...  Sad 

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    DD Ment. 

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    Growing up I always said I wanted four children.  I was a middle child and hated it so I knew I didn't want there to be a middle person.  When DH and I were starting to get serious about dating we talked about kids and he has always wanted two so we decided to stick with two.  After our third loss, the first after DD was born, DH said he would be ok with not having any more kids...  I took the loss so hard DH never wanted to see me that way again.  Now with having four losses and trying for so long I'm not sure we will have another one.  It absolutely BREAKS my heart to think we might never have a sibling for DD because she frequently talks about her "brother" and asks for a sister.  (We don't know what any of our losses are and have not talked openly to our DD about them so it always makes me tear up hearing her say "her brother".)

    Sorry, that got long and kind of turned into a Pity Party for me...  Just been a tough week and emotions are high...  Sad 

    ((more Hugs)) I hope you do get your second and I hope it is soon!!

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  • imagePatientlyWaiting10:

    DD Ment. 

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    Growing up I always said I wanted four children.  I was a middle child and hated it so I knew I didn't want there to be a middle person.  When DH and I were starting to get serious about dating we talked about kids and he has always wanted two so we decided to stick with two.  After our third loss, the first after DD was born, DH said he would be ok with not having any more kids...  I took the loss so hard DH never wanted to see me that way again.  Now with having four losses and trying for so long I'm not sure we will have another one.  It absolutely BREAKS my heart to think we might never have a sibling for DD because she frequently talks about her "brother" and asks for a sister.  (We don't know what any of our losses are and have not talked openly to our DD about them so it always makes me tear up hearing her say "her brother".)

    Sorry, that got long and kind of turned into a Pity Party for me...  Just been a tough week and emotions are high...  Sad 

    I know that heartbreak well. (((HUGS)))

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    Unfortunately, yes. We both wanted 4 children but now with a diagnosis that puts us at 50% chance of miscarriage with each pregnancy, it's almost a certainty that we will have to face more miscarriages. God knows how many I would have to go through to get 4 kids when I've already suffered 2 m/c and have no living children. I still really want 4 but I don't know how many m/c I'll be able to take emotionally. I guess we'll just have to wait and see...

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    My RPL Testing: Homozygous MTHFR, normal karyotype

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    BFP #3 9.10.13 mc at 4 weeks~Our little May Flower~ 

    BFP #4 10.13.13- Our Rainbow Baby, a little girl, arrived June 25, 2014! 

                                                                              


     

     

     

     

  • DH and I both want 3. So far, we haven't changed out plan, but we've learned to stop projecting goals for things we don't have control over. I figure if we're meant for 3, it will happen whether they are biological or not.  

    BFP#1 8/3/12~EDD 4/1/13~Natural M/C 9/1/12-9w6d 
    BFP#2 5/30/13~EDD 2/3/14~Confirmed CP 5/31/13
    7/12/13 Hysteroscopy & Lap Lysis of Adhesions
    1st Cycle on Clomid Aug '13: BFP#3 8/24/13~EDD 5/3/14
    Hoping Third Time's a Charm!!- IT'S A GIRL!!!! 
    KAYLIE MARIE IS HERE! BORN 5/4/14

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  • I always said I wanted 4 and DH always said 2 or 3. At this point after a loss, I'm pretty sure we would be happy with however many we were blessed with. FX for at least 2 though.
    BFP #1 1/7/13***EDD 9/14/13*** MC 1/17/13
    ~*6/24/13 hCG #1-112 @ 13DPO, Progesterone-21.75*~
    ~*6/26/13 hCG #2-238 @ 15DPO, Progesterone-28.15*~
    ~*6/28/13 hCG #3-566 @ 17DPO*~
    BFP #2 6/21/13***EDD 3/4/14*** Arrived 2/19/14***Team BLUE

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  • I think having a full term loss makes this a more complicated question. I've already gone through 1 pregnancy and birth...but don't have my baby. I always wanted 3. So, do I have 2 more? 3 more? I agree with OP that now I want more babies!!! I'd go up to 6 no problem! haha. Which is weird...you'd think going through a loss you'd not want to risk it again but not in my case.

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    DH and I both want 3. So far, we haven't changed out plan, but we've learned to stop projecting goals for things we don't have control over. I figure if we're meant for 3, it will happen whether they are biological or not.nbsp;nbsp;
    I really like that way of looking at it

    BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11

    BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14

     

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  • both infertility and losses have changed our reality. we still want three, but now i am doubtful unless we can figure this thing out (and win the lottery)
    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

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  • We've always wanted 2. You may be surprised but I was always open to adoption from the start and my dh desperately wanted us to have at least one of our own. After I got pregnant, I now feel that way. I really want to be pregnant and have one of our own. But either way we will be parents no matter what avenue we take to get there.

    "It's, not, where you are, it's where you're going,
    And it's, not, about the things you've done, it's what you're doing, now"

    TTC Journey Began 8/12
    BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
    SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis
    Unexplained
     BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole) 
    BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
    Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
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  • It has for me. I always wanted 2 to 3 kids, but after 2 losses and no children, I will be so happy, grateful and blessed to just have 1 healthy child. That's all I want or need now, just 1, but I know that after 1 I would try for another.

    BFP #1 11/19/12  EDD: 7/25/13  Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d

    BFP#2 3/1/13   EDD: 11/5/13   Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w   D&C 4/11/13  
    Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.

    BFP#3 8/5/13   EDD: 4/13/14   Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14. 

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