How are the rest of the May mamas splitting up baby time with their DHs? (Especially MOTN, if DH is working?)
For us, so far what seems to be working is for us to head to bed around 10 so I can sleep... And DH is on baby duty until he goes to sleep around 1. Since he is a night owl anyway, it doesn't affect his sleep. Then I take the 3am feeding and 5:30 feeding and wake DH up for work.
Only thing is... What happens when I go back to work? Not sure exactly how things will change.
Re: DH's role in baby care
At night, it really helps when he does the feed and change while I pump. I may not be able to sleep through a feeding, but if we split it up, my job only takes 50 minutes instead of an hour and a half! [Using a single manual pump and desperately awaiting the double electric pump in the mail.]
If I were working, we would alternate nights so that one of us would get a good night's sleep. It's too much to expect a working Momma to do it all.
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We are similar to this. With our first, DH was great about getting me water, cleaning pump parts as needed, and doing diaper changes in the MOTN. Once I was able to stop pumping and EBF, his overnight role greatly decreased. There was frankly no point to him waking up with me. I was a little bitter at first, but it ended up being the best solution for both of us.
This time around, I do 90% of care for DS2 and DH does 90% of care for DS1. He gets to sleep through the night, but has now taken on most of what I used to do for DS1.
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Baby Boy #2: 5.6.13
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For the most part during the week, we stay up until about 10 and give DS his last feeding, diaper change and down for the night. DS usually wakes up around 2, so I will get up and feed & diaper change, then DS gets up again around 5:30, when DH is up for work. So it works out. Then at least 1x a week for both of us (usually the weekend) one of us will stay in the living room (where DS sleeps) and the other will be in the bedroom, so at least 1x a week we get a full night of uninterrupted sleep!
When he gets home from work he'll take over diaper changes and feedings just to give me a break to go take a shower, or run out to the store, etc. He's been great. I'm very lucky!
This is us. H has been very helpful with DD1 and has taken on a lot more household chores. But, until he grows lactating boobs, there's not much he can do with the little one. I might be alone here, but I kind love the 1:1 nighttime baby love.
Since I am EBF I am doing all the night care for now, he is working and I would rather he get his sleep since I can sleep during the day.
once I introduce a bottle ill probably give him the last feeding of the night.
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DH has been pretty awesome about getting up with LO at night for when he is just fussing or needs a change. He will only wake me when it is feeding time. But he is off this week so it is ok for him to be up a lot at night.
When he goes back to work I will take over all night time stuff.
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LO is breastfeeding, so at night, DH wakes up sometimes just to chat with me and be supportive, but I am usually feeding her. During the day DH is at work, so I hold it down from about 6am-4pm.
When we start bottle feeding, we will alternate nights.
It's his first so he's really nervous but glad I have been there before. I won't make him wake up with us at night since he can't feed her anyway.
This. Why should DH wake up, when it doesn't help me get more sleep?
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