Missed miscarriage?
AbbyBarnesRN
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I thought I was 10 weeks pregnant, and totally overjoyed, until my first routine OB appt. yesterday. I have had a miscarriage in the past, followed by the birth of my healthy son, who is now seven.
When my OB did the ultrasound, she looked confused. She said..."maybe you aren't as far along as we thought? When was your positive pregnancy test?" I told her March 28th. She said the baby looked far too small for 10 weeks...yolk sac still visible...and had me go to the hospital for a more detailed ultrasound.
The tech there found the same thing, fetal pole measuring only six weeks, yolk sac measuring seven, and no detectable heartbeat. Because six weeks is still so small, my OB wants me to go back in one week to see if baby has grown at all. But I am devastated. I am absolutely sure this was a missed miscarriage.
I have been feeling cramps all morning, which I now realize I may have been feeling all along, but just ignoring them thinking it was the feeling of my uterus growing. I am so sad and disappointed, and have been crying all last night and today. I hadn't wanted to tell anyone about my pregnancy for this exact reason, but my husband has been telling everyone, and I remember having to relive the pain again every time someone who hadn't heard yet asked "How's the baby?" last time.
I wonder if anyone has ever heard of this happening and the baby just being small? With my son I used a midwife, never had an early u/s, and he was born a week late, so I'm wondering if my babies just grow slowly? I feel foolish for clinging to any hope though. The worst part is I still feel so awfully pregnant; sore boobs, nauseated, fatigued, and having crazy dreams every time I sleep.
I have desperately wanted another child, and have waited so long for this, only to be disappointed yet again. I can't believe this is happening. It was like replaying a bad dream yesterday, and now I have to go back to the hospital tonight because I WORK there. I am wondering if anyone has had a similar experience, and how long it took for the m/c to be complete? Did you need misoprostol? I would prefer it over a D&C, but I know either way it will be emotionally traumatic.
So sad :-(
Not the way I had hoped to spend yet ANOTHER mother's day (my last m/c happened the day before mother's day, 8 years ago.)
Re: Missed miscarriage?
It's sad we were going to announce to the rest of the family on Mother's Day.
It's very tough news to hear, sorry for your loss.
Thoughts and prayers to you.. This board is a great support system though
I have been agonizing all last week and over the weekend, trying to cling to some hope that baby would be ok. I called the hospital three different times and each time they said they had no order for a followup u/s from my doc. I called the OB office Thursday and was told they would get back to me on Friday, but they never did. I was going to give them until today to get back to me, then call them AGAIN, but sadly I have been cramping this weekend and then started spotting today, so I don't think I will bother going through the torment of another invasive vaginal ultrasound, because I am pretty sure I know what they will tell me.
I am so very sad, but I guess not surprised, as I have had a week to get used to the idea that this pregnancy had very likely ended. I am troubled by the fact that it has been exactly 8 years (to the day) since the last one...makes me feel like I am cursed or something. I don't feel like I can immediately try to get pregnant again. This has been a really painful shock and I am just too upset. I have already put away all my baby things that I dug out of my boxes, which I had done hoping that it would make this pregnancy seem more real. The whole time I struggled with this depression, just a feeling that something wasn't right and I was destined to have another miscarriage. Now of course I can't help blaming myself, like I caused it by being so obsessed about it, even though my rational brain knows that is nonsense.
I am so thankful for my sweet seven year old son, and I keep reminding myself daily that if I had not had the first m/c, I might have some other child instead of him today. But it is little comfort, especially since he has just warmed up to the idea of being a big brother, and has been asking a lot about "our baby"..."How big is our baby now?" .."Can I see a picture of what our baby looks like this week?" etc. I don't even know how to tell him. I am crushed...I only told him because my husband had told so many other family members, and I didn't want him to hear it from someone else before he heard it from me. If I do try again, I will plead with my husband to respect my wish to keep it quiet until the 2nd trimester.
Thank you for your words of support. The worst part about our pain is that we are not alone in it. It hardly makes me feel better to know that others have been through this. Life is so unpredictable, and at times so unfair...
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