curious people
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Just thought I'd share a little experience I had. So....a couple weeks ago in the morning when I got to one of the schools where I work, one of the yard duties asked me how I was doing, just like a normal day. I hadn't started my B6/unisom routine yet & was feeling particularly crappy from the nausea, so I said "eh, my stomach is kind of upset today", thinking it was no big deal. Then the very first question she asked me was "are you pregnant??". lol...I was not expecting that to be a first reaction, so I was kinda surprised, & first answered with "I don't think so..."...& she said "you don't KNOW?"...I then played it off & said "maybe someday" & that I was pretty sure I just had a stomach bug. The next day she asked how I was feeling & of course then I said fine even though I wasn't cuz I didn't wanna start that up again! lol.
So then today another yard duty that was with her (& this one doesn't usually talk to me as much) made a point of asking me how I'm doing lately, etc. & it really stood out. Then the originally lady asked again if I was feeling better, etc, (lol), I said yes of course. And the other lady says "well, we were hoping you'd be pregnant". my goodness! I'm not ready to tell so all I said "that's sweet" & left it at that. I'm not offended by the way, just surprised at how curious/nosy people are & how much they want to know these kinds of things! lol. I thought it was kinda funny yet ridiculous at the same time.
Anyone else have super curious/nosy people in your lives?
ETA: the nosiness too. It's strange being this kind of entertainment for people!
Re: curious people
lol, funny about your neighbor. People are such busy-bodies!! the thought did occur to me, that it's part curiosity/part pure nosiness, lol.
I totally agree. And I don't know if I'm the only one, but I really DO find it strange that the first thing someone would say/think of when you mention something like being tired or having an upset stomach is that your pregnant?? I guess I never think like that.
omg, how crazy! luckily none of the kids I work with have asked (middle & high school)...I feel like adults are more inclined to think that way. do you know what made your kids think that?
I understand both sides, I mean I think if someone is ready to tell, that's great! It took us a while to conceive & we had some difficulties (pcos diagnosis, anovulatory cycles), so for that reason I felt extra cautious in the beginning. From the beginning we planned to tell "the world" so to speak, around the end of 1st tri. Lately I'm starting to get excited for that!
When I was about 6 weeks along, I went to a retirement party for a co-worker. I commented on how great the chocolate cupcakes smell (and I love chocolate cupcakes, so it wasn't at all related to being pregnant) and one of my co-workers immediately smiles and says, "You must be pregnant." I laughed it off and she hasn't said anything since.
Now, one of the other teachers at school who I am close with and got married at the same time I did, just announced that she is pregnant to the rest of the staff, so I now have various staff members telling me it's "my turn" and telling me they are waiting for my announcement. Little do they know I'm already pregnant but waiting a few more weeks to tell them! I just keep replying that they should keep waiting - that way I'm not lying or denying being pregnant, I'm simply waiting to tell them.
omg, the chocolate cupcake thing is crazy! lol. Seems like people just hear what they want to I guess! Yeah I feel weird totally denying too. I think that's why I initially said "I don't think so" rather than "no"...I just feel weird saying that for some reason. Normally when people ask if/when I will be pregnant, I just still say "we're trying", cuz hey, we had been, lol.
My cousin, starting after we got back form our honeymoon, kept posting on my fb page "are you pregnant?". In response to some totally unrelated status, or comment, or just out of the blue. It was really annoying, until bestie and I made a game out of it lol. But now that I actually am, nothing!
Someone did notice that I wasn't myself on Sunday so I said I'd had a migraine the night before and I'm always nauseous the day after a migraine (which is true, I just didn't mention that I hadn't had a true migraine since grad school!). I feel bad when a lie inspires people to start commiserating over whatever fake ailment I come up with, but oh well, it'll only be for another month and then I'll tell the truth.
omg, every week? that is bad. why are people so obsessed with this?? lol. you're right though, it's a really insensitive, as well as personal thing to ask someone about, esp so often!
haha I didn't even think about the "you're gonna pop" comments...oh fun! I feel like I will end up coming up with some silly response for these.
Now I tell people who ask unless I really don't want them to know x
YES to the bolded. for real. The ladies that were asking me, it's not like they know me super well or anything, we rarely talk except the "how are you" thing in the mornings. I haven't even told my actual co-workers yet, who I'm actually friends with, so I feel no need to tell the hall monitors & let this thing spread around the school. That said I will prob tell them right at the end of the year, after 13 weeks, since I know they'll get a kick out of it, & though they're nosy I think they'll also be genuinely happy for me.