2nd Trimester
Can people be nice?
I joined this blog a week or two ago because this is my first pregnancy and it is fun to compare stories and read about other women going through this.....but I have noticed there is a lot of negativity on here.
No matter what I say someone will have something nasty or sarcastic to say back. Is it the hormones or are women just mean?
This is suppose to be a place where women can get together and ask questions, I did not come here to be judged by strangers. So I ask, can people be nice?
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Re: Can people be nice?
It's the internet. There are a ton of different people and a ton of different personalities and people aren't always going to be "nice". My advice is to grow some thicker skin or maybe the internet isn't the place for you.
And it's a message board, not a blog.
Funny, you think the meanness hurts my feelings? No, I just don't see any reason for it.
This does not have to do with showing at 8 weeks, I've seen people be torn apart on about every post, but good to know you are following my posts and tracking what I say
Creepy.
I may not continue on this blog or message board, I don't really care about the difference, but I thought I would try.
Different personalities are great and so are respectful debates but being mean and judging people is different than being "honest", you can be honest without being a ***!
Plus this happens often and we posted on that thread. You didnt think we'd notice when you complain a few stories up? I've been the one that's been :attacked: I got over it. Grew some skin and realized I rather have people be honest then be lied to and told this experience is puppies. Sunshine and rainbows.
you come here for the truth don't you?!
In all honesty it is the internet. Not everyone agrees. We all have opinions and sometimes questions are pretty stupid and get snark.
Piiiiiiiizzzzza!!!!
I remember when I first came to the board I thought that people were being rude or a bit harsh at times. As you stick it out and just read what these ladies have to say you realize 99 percent of the time they are just trying to be helpful. That's not to say they don't jump at the chance to roast a good troll but who doesn't enjoy some good drama every now and then? ::mobile smiley::
Girlfriend, you shouldve joined a couple months back when others posted this same thing. You have to take it with a grain of salt, people have opinions and I am convinced some love to just stir the pot on here but let em! Confide in family and friends for things you take to heart etc. I find such awesome support here but I use judgement on posting if I think i am going to hear something I don't want to hear. You hit it right on the head when you said "judged by strangers"...it's exactly that! Try to look at TB in a different light or maybe find a different website that fits what you are looking for?
THIS.
I am all for truth and opinions. But there is a difference between giving your opinion appropriately and being a ***/snark about it. It is called tact and some ladies on here need to learn it. I believe you can be both nice and honest.
So my suggestion is to just ignore it, move on, and post only when you need to.
OMG this! If you are going to act like a whiny biitch, then own it and don't blame it on hormones!
As for the OP...this is the internet...welcome...
It says you joined 2 days ago.
Said no one ever on the Bump. This is who we are. Get over it, or leave.
Salad or subway! The only thing my child will let me keep down..
You can ask people to be nice. Others can choose to comply. However, if you post ridiculous stuff you are going to get told. You say your feelings aren't hurt but here you are whining. You have options: suck it up and quit whining OR peace out homeslice.
Either way this post and a thousand whiny, crying "omg can't we all just be nice" posts later won't change the way the boards operate. It just won't. Learn to cope or find another message board.
I hear babycenter or baby gaga caters to those that are allergic to reality and truthful/accurate information. They might be more your speed. Either way, cheeseburger yo.
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Loooooove subway
I really want to know what rock all the "can't we all just get along" chicks have been under.
OP, I have been flamed a few times myself. You put your big girl panties on, shake it off, and move on to the next post. It is the internet. I grew up in a small town and I have lived in a very big city. Women are the same everywhere, except in cults.
Lawlz QFT.
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OMG you totally saved the internet with this post!!!
Said no one, ever.
I have nothing to add in response to this OP, mainly because I don't are...
I just wanted to let you know, Huntjul, that I L-O-V-E the kitty shaming/announcement in your siggy! Still has me chuckling to myself, and made reading this whole mess totally worth it.
Not ALL strangers will be nice. Apparently, a lot of people here are set in their ways and no one person will be able to change the undertone of this community.
I feel a little sympathy for you because I too am a FTM and maybe you really did think you were showing at 8 weeks and maybe you didn't know any better. People should try to remember that your first time being pregnant is a strange, sensitive, often confusing time in a woman's life. I know it has been for me so far... Best of luck with your pregnancy OP.
Have you ever known someone that spoke JUST for the sake of hearing themselves talk? Same concept. Some of these women are pretty proud of themselves. It's sad.
Let them talk their sh!t and carry on with your pregnancy
Woah. It is one thing to complain about the people on here who are rude (I'd say a minority, loud, but you learn who to ignore), and it is another to complain about people not being "nice" and write rude, sarcastic comments yourself. Pot calling the kettle black, I'd say.
I've seen people get flamed on here a lot. Writing obnoxious comments back always makes it worse. Having a kind or humble response always quiets things down. Use some of your same advise and be "nice" and I think you'll have a better experience.
Good luck, it really is a great place!
sorry, but you came onto a VERY tame board... most of the internet is mean.
GBCB