Started TTC 2/2009
Started fertility treatments 11/2010
Ovarian dysfunction, LPD, male factor
6 failed medicated IUI's
Pregnant 5/2011 - Miscarriage at 6 weeks due to triploidy
Decided to adopt - 6/2012
SURPRISE! Pregnant without intervention - 7/2012
Sweet Baby James Born 3/2013
Decided to be "One and Done"
....OR NOT.
Pregnant 12/2018 despite birth control pills
Here we go again...
Due 8/26/19!
Re: First day back - how to survive
6 year old daughter
Fraternal boys born on May 11, 2013 at 36 weeks 4 days
I think there is kind of a natural grieving that happens the week before you go back. It's closing one chapter and moving to the next. The build up to going back was more emotional for me than my first week was though. And you have to know that next chapter is not worse! It's the first step of many to your child's independence. I think your first day will go really fast.
I sobbed so much the week before and I actually didn't cry at all on the drive from daycare to work! And I'm a total leaky faucet! You will do great, and LO will too.
In the days leading up to the return I began to think of all the things I enjoyed about working - coffee with co-workers, interesting cases, getting dressed up and getting out of the house. I took a little time to pamper myself - haircut, massage, new work clothes.
I went back on a Thursday and worked from 8-12. Then on Friday I worked from 12-5. That was a nice, gentle transition - and the anticipation of going back was so much harder than the reality. There are days I don't want to leave him because he's so cute and fun. And then there are days he's fussy and grouchy, and it's a lot easier to leave the house!
You'll do great.
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This exactly. I went back to work three weeks ago and looking back I think it was dealing with one chapter closing and another one opening that made it the hardest. the anticipation was definitely much worse. What helped my first week was having my husband drop her off. If you can do that at least a couple times it helps. As other posters have mentioned it also helped to drop her off a couple times at daycare before I started work. I took her for half days the Wednesday and Friday before I went back and I used that time to shop for some new work clothes and run some errands. When I was staying home I couldn't wait for my husband to come home and give me a break. Now I practically run to my car and enjoy my evenings with her. I guess I've noticed that even though I am spending less time with her the time that I so spend with her is more focused on her. I also noticed almost immediately that she was learning from her time a daycare.
LIke PPs mentioned, the anticipation was worse than actually going back. And if people didn't keep asking, "Do you miss LO?!?!?" I would've been happier lol.
The first few days go by in a sort of weird blur, then you get into a routine and things get good and it's just life, kwim?
I've had days that sucked and I wanted to just call/quit and stay home, and days when I can't wait to leave because LO is driving me bonkers and I just want to drink a cup of coffee in peace.
PPs suggestion of focusing on the positives - getting to eat lunch warm, pee in peace, adult conversation, money , personal accomplishment/fulfillment, LO making friends at daycare, etc.
Good luck, you'll do great, and LO will be well cared for!
I think I remember you from about a year ago on TTGP. Belated congratulations.
I agree with PPs - if it's possible to do a couple hours at daycare here-and-there before you go back full time, it helps. (It helped us). Helped her get used to new people, helped me not have a breakdown on the first real day, and helped her teachers get used to her needs.
Also, if it's possible (and you're breastfeeding), go nurse her during your lunch breaks. I go every day at lunch to nurse her and play with her for an hour or so - and it makes my days go by much faster.
Also, not sure your views on this, but we also co-sleep. I feel that it really helps us bond at night to make up for missed time during the day. Just a suggestion.