January 2013 Moms
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this is super hot button but i thought i'd just say it...don't forget FFFC!
i don't understand or believe in the family bed or co-sleeping. i just don't see how it makes a difference or what the point is.
i do feel that my children do come first and marriage second or at least 50/50 BUT...i don't think my sons and i would be any closer or have a stronger relationship if we slept together. I feel like my marriage would suffer because of it.
and with cosleeping I guess it's so you can sleep and feed but i don't think it's safe to BF while i get to sleep nor would i imagine I'd actually sleep well while I'm BF in case I'd suffocate LO...
just my opinion!
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Re: FFFC
I think people with this opinion probably haven't had a higher needs baby or one that really needed contact to sleep early on
With that said, neither have I and although I DO see benefits to be sharing, I prefer not to have my babies sleep in my bed. We do co-sleep (room share) for a good amount of time though.
Some people sleep just fine with their babies in the bed and you can definitely have sex places other than your bed. Just so ya know :P
My confession is: I never have good confessions and I wish I did. I feel lame for never really participating in FFFC threads.
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Before I conceived and during my pregnancy I was in 100% agreement with you. I'm still not a fan of the 'family bed' and DS will be in his own bed/room when he's a year old.
That said, I LOVE co-sleeping right now. The first two months I did it out of necessity and was scared to do it at first. I practice safe co-sleeping habits and have learned to trust myself and my LO to be safe. I very easily fall asleep during BFing. Here's what happens. I go to sleep with DS sleeping in his PnP next to the bed, he wakes and cries to eat, I pull him into bed, give him a boob and angle him/me so that he can breathe, go back to sleep. If I don't fall asleep before he's done I put him back in his own bed, if I do fall asleep while he's eating I wake up on my own a few hours later and put him back or he wakes me up wanting to eat again.
My FFFC is a big one: Twice while using the co-sleeper instead of the PnP I had fallen asleep with DS in his co-sleeper and woken to him asleep next to me. I don't remember the pulling him into bed and nursing steps. Sleep nursing, auto pilot, or just not remembering details (like can sometimes happen when you're driving)? I don't know, but it was kinda scary. Glad DS outgrew the co-sleeper and is in the PnP now. It's a little more work to pull him into bed but that means I'm AWAKE to do it.
I have never sterilized anything for DS2.
I also never wash new clothes before he wears them ... rip off the tags and ready to go.
He still sleeps in his swing (usually turned off) most nights.
He watches TV with my toddler. Mommy needs to get things done around the house, and he is a non-napper.
He spits up so often that I don't even think twice about what I wipe him up with. My hand, my shirt, his blanket. We end up with a lot of laundry.
I've occasionally not washed clothes too, but after having dealt with thrush the past 6 weeks, going through nystatin and diflucan and still can't get rid of it, you bet your bottom dollar I'll be sanitizing every single bottle and nipple we get from now on. No flames, just advice. :]
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Diagnosed PCOS '03, TTC #1 Since March '09
BFP - 10/20/10, M/C - 10/29/10
June 2011 - 50mg Clomid = No O
Dieted and exercised my butt off for PCOS = BFP 5/7/2012
Due 12/29/2012
I had thrush for 5 weeks. I tried just about everything too and finally got rid of it by drinking grapefruit seed extract oil in my water and eliminating all sugar in my diet. GL thrush is terrible!!!!
Is what bad? Showering while she naps? How else are you supposed to shower? I do it all the time. If he wakes up crying during my 5-10 minutes in the bathroom, then he can cry for a few minutes. It's not the end of the world.
Maybe that is a confession?? I don't let me kid CIO, but there are definite times when I let him cry for a little while. If my hands are full with my one-year-old, sometimes Cole has to wait a minute. He hates the stroller. He hates the carseat. He only likes his bouncer/playmat/swing for very short periods of time. There are times when he is going to cry and I can't get to him right away. He is a fussy baby, and it is not practical for me to have him in my arms 24/7. Of course, I try to pick him up as soon as I can, but a few minutes is no big deal in my opinion.
If I had an issue, I would definitely sterilize things. I am not anti-sterilizing. Good luck with the thrush. That sounds awful.
I also just rip off tags as DD wears things.
DD sleeps in her bouncer every night. We tried crib from day 1 but she has only ever been content sleeping in my arms or her bouncer.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Oh, I don't have it, just him. He's FF. I got some genetian violet the other night to start him on, so hopefully that does the trick!
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Diagnosed PCOS '03, TTC #1 Since March '09
BFP - 10/20/10, M/C - 10/29/10
June 2011 - 50mg Clomid = No O
Dieted and exercised my butt off for PCOS = BFP 5/7/2012
Due 12/29/2012
These both could be mine. My MIL was kinda giving me a hard time about the swing thing today...and I basically said "look, until I am done with work in 4 weeks I'll take my sleep anyway I can get it". Ours is only turned off because the motor broke!
I don't follow the "throw away breast milk after four hours out" rule.
I shower with him in his bouncer every morning and now he expects it... not sure how this will work when he's mobile.
My LC said 8 hours is fine. I pump before bed and leave it out overnight. I've been doing it since she was born and she's never gotten sick from it.
Huh. I've never had enough breastmilk that it sits around, but I've read that it can sit out a lot longer than 4 hours, even 8. I'm trying to remember what it was that I read, but it was like a lot longer than I would have thought. I was surprised. But it also makes sense with the properties that BM contains. So yeah, no worries
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Hah! Now that's presumptuous of you because we bed share with DS and did with DD until she was two, we all get lots of sleep and DH and I have lots of sex. Really. It works for us and we all love it.
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I missed a week somewhere. I wrote 15 weeks earlier, but he is really 16 weeks. In real life, I always say 3 1/2 months or "almost 4 months". I am just more specific here because everyone else is.
Also... (I've never been able to successfully edit a previous post, hence a new one)
I always swore we wouldn't bedshare and we did with DD and we do with DS. And it's never once gotten in the way of sex. Better sleep for everyone!
Whew, I thought I was the only one. I think I lost count around 12 weeks too. Going by months is so much easier.
The only reason I "remember" correctly is because I get the weekly, "Your baby is _____ so many weeks old" emails from TB and Baby Center. Otherwise, I'd never remember anymore. I was trying to remember yesterday after reading that last post and then I got my weekly email today!