When was/will be your first date after LO arrival?
VPGIRL06
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Hi ladies,
so, my DH has brought up when we should go on our first LO-less outing (not counting the OB appointment we had to go to thanks to my split open stitches...). He wants to go to a baseball game-and my grandparents have gladly offered to watch LO while we go. I guess I feel like it's still a little early for us to go do a 3-4 hour thing, and i'd rather our first outing be something for 1-2 hours. Her naps are pretty crappy, and the only way she gets a decent nap is if i hold or wear her. not to mention, thanks to reflux, she doesn't eat well and there are certain ways to feed her to make sure her reflux isn't aggravated. I know you have trade offs when someone else watches your baby, but reflux is different than just a cranky baby-she chokes and what not if she isn't fed the right way.
So my questions for you mommas is when did you go on your first date without LO, how long and what did you do? Any advice and past stories (especially with babies who aren't super easy going) will help. I do want to go on a date with my husband and establish at least a bimonthly date night- I just don't know a good age to do this or how long the first few outings should be!
Little Riley-our first little girl coming March 1st, 2013 (or sometime around there;)
Re: When was/will be your first date after LO arrival?
Oooh, good post! I just told my DH we have GOT to go out! We still haven't DTD yet even! We will probably go out to eat for a couple of hours. No more than 2.5 hrs, as I'm not dragging a pump with me and I'll be uncomfortable at that point. I'm actually thinking a hotel with room service sounds nice for two hours! LOL Food, sex, nap all in a childless quiet place where other people do the dishes!
Our anniversary was a week after I had DD, so we went out for dinner that night (I had an easy recovery so I was feeling fine). My mom and dad watched both kids. DD is very easy, but I remember back when we'd leave DS when he was little (not as easy of a baby) and it was always stressful because I'd be nervous he'd scream the whole time for whoever watched him. One time we went to a movie and as soon as we got there, we got the call from MIL to come back because she couldn't get him to stop crying.
My biggest suggestion would be to take the baby outside if they have a hard time and it's not too cold. My kids always do good if you go for a walk outside. Usually they'd end up falling asleep outside in the fresh air or calm right down if they were crying.
I went out for my 21st (didn't really plan a baby into my 21st but it happens), which was 3 days shy of a month later. With DD1 I didn't go out until my 19th birthday, which was 3 months PP. We were out for 4 hours without DD2, and it was more rough on me than anyone else. All I wanted was to cuddle her, and my boobs did not like me at all, since she was normally feeding every 2 hours towards her bedtime.
That said, she did cry a lot, and hated taking a bottle, but my MIL is like the baby whisperer, so she didn't mind any fussiness.
I think by the time DD1 was 6 months we were going out every 2 weeks for a movie or dinner, and it really helped to bring back our love life. Do what your comfortable with, but being away for a long period of time is ROUGH on your boobs.
we did this a lot too. We called them our lil "2 people parties" haha
that's a thought. She's definitely the fussiest late afternoon/evening and i agree i don't know if i want someone else doing bedtime...
My parents live 40 minutes away and have been offering to babysit so we could go out. We ended up having our 1st date night when our girl was 3 weeks old. We were out about 3 hours. Long enough to get in dinner and putt putt golf. I was completly comfortable living her with my parents and so for us it wasn't a big deal getting a little "us" time.
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Not sure when DH and I will go out on our own together. Probably not for a long time because we plan to take LO with us almost everywhere.
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We've been out a couple times...we went out to dinner around 2 weeks, then again at 4 weeks for DH's birthday. We'll be going out in a couple weeks again for a conference/meeting.
My mom and MIL are great babysitters - things aren't done exactly the way I would do them when they're here, but both of the kids are breathing when I get home and that's good enough for me
And DH and I went away for an overnight when my DS #1 was 2 months old. It was hard to leave, but we had a great time. I'm thinking we need another outing like that - having two kids is tough on a marriage
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DS was born on 2/6. We went out to dinner and the mall on 2/13 for early valentine's day. Grammy watched him.
We went out for brunch (just under 2 hours, I think) when DS was almost 3 weeks old. My mom gave him his first bottle while we were gone (which is when the pediatrician recommended he have the first bottle-- between 2 & 3 weeks old).
I wouldn't be too eager to get out for a long outing, mostly because I'd have to figure out pumping and I'd really just rather not.
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