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baby shower / MIL annoyance

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My MIL is very generous and thoughtful to throw me a baby shower, however I can't help but feel a little annoyed tonight. 

We talked on sunday and she asked me to send her a final head count this week so she can order invitations. I just got a very short & snippy text from her tonight saying "what is your final headcount. we really need to order the invitations by saturday." I was so annoyed! It's like giving an RSVP date for a wedding and then hounding people who haven't RSVP'd when they still have a few days left.

I know it's a small and stupid thing, but she's just irritating me. I swear, this is why a part of me doesn't even want a shower - I suddenly feel like my MIL becomes my boss and I have to report in to her! Last night she basically forced us into choosing where we are going to register so that she can put registry info on the invitation, which I don't even want. I'd rather people ask her. And I'd rather take more time to think about it.

Sigh. Sorry for the vent. Anyone else's MIL hosting their shower and annoying them in the process? 

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  • zoieglowzoieglow member
    You're overreacting. It's not easy to organize a shower and she wasn't rude in the text. And not everyone will think to take the initiative to ask her where you're registered. She's right, that should be on the invite. Just tell her BRU or whatever and bu
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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    none of that seems out of line to me. It's nice that she's throwing you a shower.
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  • NYHeelNYHeel member
    I get that I might be overreacting (and seriously, I really do appreciate that she's throwing me a shower). But it's wrong of me to be annoyed when she asks for a headcount "this week" - meaning by friday - and on wednesday she texts me acting like I've m
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  • zoieglowzoieglow member
    Meh. I guess. That's a blip on the annoyance radar if anything. I'd be more annoyed with myself for not being more on top of it and getting it right to her. I had 2 showers with my first and you better believe I bent over backwards to be helpful consideri
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  • happybride 276happybride 276 member
    My MIL likes to push crap on us. Like wall decals that cost $120+. That's just not necessary and not what we want.  Thankfully she said she didn't want to step on toes so she didn't offer to throw my shower. I know it is very generous to throw a show
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  • EllaBelle2010EllaBelle2010 member

    imageNYHeel:
    I get that I might be overreacting (and seriously, I really do appreciate that she's throwing me a shower). But it's w
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  • Luckymomma4Luckymomma4 member

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    Meh. I guess. That's a blip on the annoyance radar if anything. I'd be more annoyed with myself for not being more o
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member
    I can understand why you're annoyed if she's hounding you for things, but as someone who has hosted many baby showers, it can be stressful.  The last one I hosted for a friend who is very picky about stationary, so I planned to order nice invites on
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  • Mama3+1Mama3+1 member
    You can't read emotion in a text. She asked for a head count. Give her one.
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    It's a bit of overreaction on your part to be annoyed with such a small perceived slight- which I didn't see an

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  • foxyroxyfoxyroxy member

    Could you be annoyed? Sure.

    Should you be annoyed? Not really.

    She sent you a not rude reminder text, and then she said she needed to know where you will register.... and, as gifts are the point of a shower, is rather crucial. Why make your

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  • NYHeelNYHeel member
    imagefoxyroxy:

    Could you be annoyed? Sure.

    Should you be annoyed? Not really.

    She sent you a not rude reminder text, an

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  • NYHeelNYHeel member

    Ugh, posting fail. This is what I said in reply to foxyroxy. Anddd now it's time to officially call it a day:

     

    Yikes, your MIL sounds

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  • foxyroxyfoxyroxy member

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     Yikes, your MIL sounds awful. I know, agree with you all you are saying. I'm just
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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
    imagefoxyroxy:

    Could you be annoyed? Sure.

    Should you be annoyed? Not really.

    She sent you a not rude reminder text, an

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