Adoption
Foster Care /FTP
I originally posted this on the baby shower board and it was suggested that I come here and ask as well.
So my friend and her H are becoming foster parents. They are unable to have their own children so they are starting from scratch. Does anyone have any ideas or etiquette on a shower or other type of event in this situation? They aren't asking for one. I was just curious if anyone knew of anything for an event like this or if it is even okay to do something like this. They do plan to adopt from the foster care system, but waiting to throw them a shower when they adopt seems odd since they would have all the stuff they need by then.
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Re: Foster Care /FTP
They plan to foster ages 0-6 and hope to adopt between ages 0-2/3.
I am sorry I didn't think of the wording! You are right, any child I love and care for is my own!
Coming up with a list, or an explanation of some sort could be helpful so people know what to buy. I'd do that with your friend. They may not want a bunch of infant stuff that they would have to store and may never use, but would want to have some things on hand.
Adoptive daughter born 08/07/13... growing so fast
BM due again end of March 2015 so any day!
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We are foster parents and originally were open to children 0-4. We were very fortunate to have two showers thrown for us. It helped us stock our nursery to be prepared for our first placement since you typically don't get much notice. Also, I was so thankful that we were able to anticipate our growing family much like those who are pregnant get to. While our intention isn't to adopt, we still felt the excitement of growing our family and was happy that the shower was a way to share that excitement with friends and family.
I would suggest just talking to your friends and see if a shower is something they would be interested in.
In case you are interested here are the links to my blog posts about our showers: First shower and Second shower
Things that may be helpful for a variety of ages: children's books, toys, storage bins, baby toiletries, first aid kit, bedding, convertible car seat, pack and play, booster seat for eating
If they are open to any race then ethnic hair and skin care products were especially helpful for us to have on hand. That way we knew we were using the "right" products on the children for their bath that first night.