What's next?
ZAngel
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So, two weeks ago I hurt my foot in what I thought was one of my usual running injuries. After it got worse, I decided to go see the sports med doctor. He told me that it looked like sesmoiditis but he wanted to run some blood tests to check my uric acid. My uric acid level was perfect BUT unexpectedly, the results showed positive on the ANA porition (anti-nuclear antibody) which means I could have some type of autoimmune issue. My mother has Graves disease so I knew I was at higher risk, but I never imagined it would come up so soon.
Anyways, the test was at the lowest level possible (while still being positive) so we decided not to have any further testing done at this point. Since I don't have any other symptoms, I would basically be their lab rat so they can go searching for something wrong -- if there is even something wrong at this point.
So, add this to my already current high risk diagnosis and what does DH do? He answers with, "Okay, maybe we can go get more testing when we start actively trying again?" My head whips around. WTF, did you just say....my first thought. I responded with, "Uhh, well... when do you think that is?" Ready for it? His response, "I don't know... I don't like to put a date on things". My mood changed pretty fast and I said, "Well, after our discussion a few weeks ago I was under the impression that we are starting next month". He didn't say much after that. To say I'm pissed doesn't even start to cover what's going on inside me right now. I'm glad he didn't say no... but I didn't really get a yes either.
I get it. I'm high risk. I've got a lot of things going against me. He's scared (so am I). However, it doesn't give him the right to mess with me like this. I've been so patient and tried to be so understanding over the past 7 months but I feel like I'm hanging from a thread. Now, it's possible he's just freaking out and not wanting to feel like we're "planning" things. Maybe it will just happen. However, I'm getting real tired of all the guessing games. We've never had a problem with communication. He's my best friend and we've always talked openly. Now all of a sudden he's crawling into a shell. I just don't get it.
Sorry, I know this is really long. I'm just having a hard time because not only is this happening but tomorrow is the day I was supposed to be scheduled to deliver via c-section... so it just adds to the pile. I really just need to scream and yell to get it all out... so thank you for listening.
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Re: What's next?
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I'm really sorry you are going thru a hell of a lot
ttc is hard enough some days, but dealing with other issues and not feeling like you are on the same page with DH is really difficult. Can you guys schedule a weekend getaway and leave everyt
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Thank you so much ladies. I really
y'all! We still have about 3 weeks until my next FW, so I'm hoping he will talk to me before then. I'm trying to let him process everything from yesterday... I know it's a lot. I wish we
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
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Big ((((HUGS)))) Z! I'm sorry your H is being so wishy-washy on you. From everything you've said about this situation, is it possible that maybe he just doesn't want to be the one to make the ultimate decision to either start or not again? If I'm remem
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I am sorry ya'll are going through this. Me and MH had a difference of opinion at 1st as well. He wanted to wait longer, but then he came over to my side of thinking
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