Okay ladies, how much do your husbands help out with LO? Do they take a shift or feeding at night? Watch him so you can shower/eat/get out of the house for a bit? My husband is usually pretty good, in that he takes a shift at night so I can get 3 hours of sleep (LO refuses to sleep other than in our arms so we can't sleep at the same time). He also has been taking care of a lot of errands, and making dinner when I cannot put LO down. He is really irking me today though! I have literally not left our house since LO was born, other than for his two doctors appointments, and one dinner with friends last week that lasted under two hours. My husband was horrible when I got home, acting so put out that LO was fussy and he hadn't been able to relax. Welcome to my world. Anyway, I tried to leave again today to run an errand - specifically, to fill a prescription. I was gone 45 minutes, and it was soooo nice to be out by myself for even that length of time! When i got home, my husband was horrible again, whining and complaining thta he couldnt get anything done while I was gone. This despite the fact that he is out drinking with friends constantly (just a beer or two, but he comes and goes freely, several times a week), going to sporting events, and doing his Masonry stuff (weekly meetings, etc). I generally don't complain about it. Today though the imbalance is really really irritating me - mostly because of the attitude he gave me on my two brief trips out. He believes that the child should presumptively be with me, and that while he can come and go as he pleases, I can't go out even to run an errand without LO without giving him several days notice. I am so irritated by this right now! I love LO and I acknowledge that I am on mat leave and he is still working, but in my view that doesn't mean I am solely responsible for the child in the evenings and on weekends too! I don't mind having him most of the time, or even almost all of the time - but I should be able to get out briefly by myself once in a while, no?
Can anyone relate? How much do your husbands help out?
Re: How much does your husband help? *vent*
I can't complain as my husband certainly helps out but I can definitely relate in the sense that you're frustrated. I think it's easy to walk an hour or two in our shoes, but I tell my husband to try even a week, and then tell me how he's fe
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