May 2013 Moms

Passive aggressive much?!?!?

So, What would you say if....

....your spouse prepared dinner for himself and your child, but not pregnant you because he's currently mad at you because he can't understand your crazy mood swings?

Would you just let it go, or walk into the kitchen and ask him about it, calling him to the carpet for his petty behavior?

Re: Passive aggressive much?!?!?

  • To add: even though you've cried and tried to explain that you can't help these hormonal mood swings!!!
  • I'd probably do something stupid like hit his food into his lap or throw it out or something. That's just ridiculous.

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  • This is something my DH would do. I would ignore it and start making something for myself in front of him and eat it with them and pretend I didn't notice. It would bug him and make him feel stupid. Then later I would calmly say, "What you did earlier hur
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    This is something my DH would do. I would ignore it and start making something for myself in front of him and ea
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  • Wow...  someone has some growing up to do.  Not only is that passive-aggressive, it's immature.

    I'd be pissed.  Not sure how I would handle it but just here to say that what he did was wrong.

  • Oh I'd leave and go pick-up something delicious that he would want and then eat it in front of him.  That's BS though, he should know better!

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  • Thank you so much.
    I know I'm not crazy. Neurotic and hormonal yes, but I just wanted to make sure that I'm not totally crazy for thinking his actions are just mean.
  • I'd leave him and the kid and go get some tasty supper of my own!  And I'm sorry YH is being moody and not very understanding and pissing you off.  :-(
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  • I would make myself something, but I can guarantee you his plate would not be intact and his food would be on the floor :)
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  • Yeah, I would probably be a real b1tch right back. Don't men know not to pick fights with us? 
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  • As much as I would want to throw food at his face or one up him with take out, unfortunately it would only amplify his point. It sucks in this situation because the only appropriate way to act would be hormonal and crazy. Soooo, ugh... be the better perso

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  • Clearly, we're only getting your side of the story.  I'm curious about what you mean by "crazy mood swings."  Generally, I am not on board with using this as a line, but I don't have a clue what happened.  Yes, leaving you out of dinner is
  • I would order a ton of take-out, set up in front of the TV, and have a giant silent feast without sharing.
  • Well not only is he not feeding his wife, but he is also not feeding his unborn baby who no matter what doesn't deserve to be punished.
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    Oh I'd leave and go pick-up something delicious that he would want and then eat it in front of him.  That's B

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  • I can understand his frustration with the mood swings. I take out my crabbiness, especially when I'm physically uncomfortable, on DH sometimes. It isn't right, and hormones aren't an excuse.

    I would apologize for the moodiness, but tell him that

  • I can understand someone not enjoying hormonal mood swings but his actions were kind of mean.

    I agree with PP, I would get some amazing takeout or take myself out to dinner. After that I would talk to him about things.
  • Not including you in dinner is a low, childish blow.  I would cool off, make your own dinner, and have a serious chat with him when you're calmer.

     ETA: I don't know what "mood swings" means, but you may also want to ask him how your at

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  • That is absolutely ridiculous.
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  • There are some really calm, well adjusted women on this board.  Personally, I'd go postal on DH. 

    There was one time when I was pregnant with DS1 when DH did something along the same lines (he drove off leaving me in a parking lot beca

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  • I would be very annoyed but in the grand scheme of things it's not that important. If you agree and admit that you've been acting crazy lately then I'd apologise but I'd also tell him that it's not right to make something for himself and your DS but not y



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  • I would be mad. But two can play the game. I would go out and get me and the kid ice cream from DQ and not get him any. That's his favorite thing and I think that would prove my point enough.
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    Oh I'd leave and go pick-up something delicious that he would want and then eat it in front of him.  That's B

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