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Early ultrasound for gender determination... good idea?

All was well at my 12 week appointment today, and the doctor told me I would be back again for a routine check at 16 weeks and then the next ultrasound would be at 20 weeks. Then we had a conversation that went something like this:

Me: How would you feel about me going to one of those 3D ultrasound places at 15 weeks for a gender determination?

Dr: I am strongly opposed to that. They are going to make you sign a bunch of paperwork stating that they will not tell you if anything is wrong with the baby. They will just tell you the gender. So that ultrasound tech could be looking at something wrong with the baby, and then not tell you about it. Which I understand they have to do that to protect themselves, but the whole reason you will have your next ultrasound is to check anatomy-- not really gender. That's just a plus. Your insurance company does not pay for that ultrasound to tell you the gender. It's for anatomy. 

Me: I understand. But they are not a doctor's office.  I would not want them to tell me if something is wrong with the baby. They are not my doctor. I simply just want them to tell me the sex of the baby. And even if there were something wrong, if I don't go, I still won't know if something is wrong until 20 weeks when you do the ultrasound. So what difference would it really make as long as the extra ultrasound doesn't hurt the baby.

Dr: I still wouldnt do it, but you do what you want.

 Yikes! Maybe I just should not have asked and just gone ahead and done it. What would you all do? I see her point she is making, but either way I won't know if something is wrong with the baby until 20 weeks, whether I go to the 15 week gender determination appointment or not. This would just simply be to find out the sex. Plus, sometimes they are wrong. I thought by doing this 15 week appointment, and then confirming the sex at 20 week appointment would be a good thing before I start decorating "all boy" or "all girl."

  

Re: Early ultrasound for gender determination... good idea?

  • Also need to add--- that I already had made a 15 week appointment at that early gender determination ultrasound place, and I asked them If I needed something signed from my doctor saying I could come. And they said "No, but when you check in we will as

  • 15 weeks is really early to be able to determine the sex of the baby. If you only need to wait a few more weeks for your anatomy scan, I wouldn't waste my money. Then, after your a/s, if you want further confirmation or were unable to see the sex of the b
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  • Yeah, I agree with your doctor. I would listen to him.

    Also, the accuracy is suspect to me on those early elective scans. Why would you ask your doctor then argue with him about it? If you didn't want his opinion then don't bother asking, KWIM?


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    Yeah, I agree with your doctor. I would listen to him.

    Also, the accuracy is suspect to me on those earl

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  • Wow PrimRose-- I've seen you a lot on here, and you always seem to be a very negative person. I am very accepting of people's opinions on here, but I think it's best that everyone give theirs in a kind way. 

     I am not gender obsessed, I

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    Wow PrimRose-- I've seen you a lot on here, and you always seem to be a very negative person. I am very accepting of

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  • Jackson-- Thank you! That's a good idea.

  • FWIW, I did not have to sign any paper work.  Also, many of the elective u/s places will not see you until 16 weeks.  

    It's your decision if you want to spend the extra money and go.  I would have waited until my 20w anatomy s

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    I wouldn't do it at 15 weeks.  I had an appt. at 16w5d where we got to sneak a peek at the sex and it stil

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  • I am super impatient so if my U/S tech can't tell at the 12 week scan then I will probably pay for the 3D scan. I can't wait to start shopping for nursery items!

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    We will be doing an elective scan to determine the sex. It is not that we can't wait until the A/S, it is that our 2

  • i found out at 16 weeks but only because i am high risk and has an u/s to check on other things .. but i think u should do what u want if u want to spend the money on it go for it ;) good luck and congrats !
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    We will be doing an elective scan to determine the sex. It is not that we can't wait until the A/S, it is that our

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    Yeah, I agree with your doctor. I would listen to him.

    Also, the accuracy is suspect to me on those earl

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  • I think you're missing the point of what your doctor is saying.  Something that no one has mentioned is that ULTRASOUND WAVES ARE KNOWN TO ALTER CELLS.  The reason why most women only have a couple of u/s is to minimize the potential impact t

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    I think you're missing the point of what your doctor is saying.  Something that no one has mentioned is

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    Wow PrimRose-- I've seen you a lot on here, and you always seem to be a very negative person. I am very accepting of


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    I am super impatient so if my U/S tech can't tell at the 12 week scan then I will probably pay for the 3D scan.

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    Wow PrimRose-- I've seen you a lot on here, and you always seem to be a very negative person. I am very accepting of

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  • You could also look into the blood test that let's you know the sex. It is very accurate and not harmful at all to the baby :) 
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  • Although I wouldn't trust the training of most elective u/s places, sex determination at 12-13 weeks is very accurate when done by someone with proper training.  There is a peer reviewed study done on sex determination this early to rule out the n

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  • I found out at 13 weeks, then reassured at 16! I recommend it!!!
  • You're welcome.  No, they're not safe, but doctors and radiologists are trained on how to mitigate the risk.  Under certain frequencies and for short periods of time, research has proven that next to no harm is done to cells and doctors know

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  • I did say TO ME they are ridiculous.  I may not be a trained doctor, but I have a brain that I use to critically think with and I strongly believe in doing your own research and being your own advocate.  I've read a lot of information on all

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