So sick of the word SPOILED...

beckpreg · April 2013

I might vomit if one more person uses this word in my presence. I dont know why so many people in 2013 think this is the reason why infants cry, want to be held, love their parents, etc.

My LO is going through a clingy phase and sometimes will get very fussy if a friend of family member wants to show up unexpectedly at our house and hold him (imagine that!) or sometimes even my husband gets the shaft and LO will really prefer to be held by me......but he's a BABY! Why does everyone keep saying "you've spoiled him rotten, thats why he isnt adjusted to other people" or "oh this little baby is so spoiled, you held him too much"

UGH!!

vettymama · April 2013

I feel the same way! I've also been told by my BIL, who doesn't have kids, that Irreally need to "ferberize" my LO!

*LrCg* · April 2013

THANK YOU!! I have 3 kids and I just cringe when I see moms post that they have to hold their babies for them to nap (how awful right???) or they want to sleep train them because they have to rock them to sleep. I just want to shake them an

Wild_flower25 · April 2013

*LrCg*:

THANK YOU!! I have 3 kids and I just cringe when I see moms post that they have to hold their babies for them

TaylersMommy · April 2013

I'm glad that you have the right perspective on this OP. You are doing exactly what your baby needs. Anyone insisting differently can just suck it. Hah. Sending hugs!

beckpreg · April 2013

Thanks Ladies. I nearly punched my BIL Last night b/c he said my LO was spoiled when he picked him up and he started to cry and was looking in my direction...Um....I would cry too if someone I have hardly ever seen and was 85 times my size picked me up, s

EPQueen · April 2013

beckpreg:
I would cry too if someone I have hardly ever seen and was 85 times my size picked me up, started blowing his bad breath

g8trkim · April 2013

I agree... it's stupid. I really don't think this applies until kids are toddlers and even then I wouldn't dare tell someone their child is spoiled even if I'm secretly thinking it.

sschwege · April 2013

Wild_flower25:
*LrCg*:

*LrCg* · April 2013

I'm a SAHM as well with 3 kids under the age of 4. I figure if I wanted time to myself, I shouldnt have kids. Parenthood is a selfless job. They are asleep by 89 pm, that's my time. I could never make my kids CIO, its cruel. Like OP said, you cant spoil

sschwege · April 2013

*LrCg*:
I'm a SAHM as well with 3 kids under the age of 4. I figure if I wanted time to myself, I shouldnt have kids. Parentho

this decaf life · April 2013

DD is a little on the colicky side, cries for no reason for 1-2 hours in the evening and trying to let her CIO only ends up with her in full meltdown mode. My family doesn't seem to understand that I didn't actually make her that way. My sister has 2 r

veggie04 · April 2013

Yeah I get a lot of that too. People tell me it's unhealthy how much I hold my DD. Quite annoying, but it IS hard to keep quiet all the time. Sometimes my grandmother will say she acts "bad" ?! I don't get how a 3month old could act bad! Anyway I get how

bgf1 · April 2013

*LrCg*:
THANK YOU!! I have 3 kids and I just cringe when I see moms post that they have to hold their babies for them to

mamaHippo23 · April 2013

CIO is not cruel and it is a very rude thing to say to a parent. I take time to myself every day and guess what?.....I am a loving, attentive, and involved mom doing the very best I can for my son every day. Taking a few hours to myself is no reflection o

dmhrn13 · April 2013

Agreed! I am so inundated with the concept I find myself doing things that prevent "spoiling" then I'm like, DD's only going to be this little for this long- I'm just going to love her & enjoy it. That's what she needs!

Empireceo · April 2013

It's just as rude to tell a mom that CIO is cruel as it is to say her baby is spoiled. Everyone does what's best/working for them. Let's tone down the judgments, shall we?

gingerfamily · April 2013

*LrCg*:
I'm a SAHM as well with 3 kids under the age of 4. I figure if I wanted time to myself, I shouldnt have kids. Parentho

Pokedot · April 2013

gingerfamily:
*LrCg

Hyaline · April 2013

*LrCg*:
I'm a SAHM as well with 3 kids under the age of 4. I figure if I wanted time to myself, I shouldnt have kids. Parentho

beckpreg · April 2013

Ladies, I am sorry this went off course and turned into a debate about CIO. Not my intention. I was really just frustrated at my local friends/family for thinking my LO is spoiled b/c he is used to me rather than strangers. So sorry! Hope everyone has a g

Eastie156 · April 2013

*LrCg*:
I'm a SAHM as well with 3 kids under the age of 4. I figure if I wanted time to myself, I shouldnt have kids.<

hansonam446 · April 2013

LoisLayn23:
Aw, bless your hearts. You are so misinformed. Have fun living with your blinders on. I look forward to dealing wi

Everyusernameistaken · April 2013

OP, you shouldn't feel bad. You were just venting and I agree that it is hurtful for your family to call your baby spoiled. It`s also hurtful for moms to put each other down for using CIO.

Moms shoul

BLPL101 · April 2013

My MIL's favorite thing to talk about is spoiling children. I remember when DH and I were first married, she would ask me constantly if I was spoiled as a child because I was a brat when I was a kid. WTF? I finally said to her one day "You've asked me thi

mommiehaley · April 2013

*LrCg*:
I just cringe when I see moms post that they have to hold their babies for them to nap (how awful right???)
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