Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
PsyDr04
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Feel like a horrible mother
PsyDr04
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So DS had his 15 month well baby checkup today. Everything is fine except....he hasn't gained any weight since the last time I brought him in. In fact, one of the times I took him in recently when he was sick he weighed 19 lbs 15 oz and today he only weighed 19 lbs 11 oz. So he has now dropped from the 3-5 percentile to 1.53%. His height and head circumference are good. He is 30.75 inches (30.97%) and head is 18.25 inches (23.17%). But the weight is pathetic. Now we have to try to supplement with Pediasure which is expensive. I am not optimistic about that working because the whole problem is he hardly drinks anything during the day (e.g. milk, which is where a lot of calories would come from). We are off bottles completely and sometimes he will drink a good amount of milk at dinner time out of his sippy but I would bet he's only getting at most 6 oz on a good day and he should be getting closer to 18-20 I bet. He's always been small and has never been above 5% weight wise but this has me concerned. I really expected that he would be closer to 21 pounds.
I'm really frustrated and feel like a bad mother. I just don't know what to do. He eats pretty well, but I guess we need to try more high calorie/high fat/high protein foods. I'm just not sure what else to give him besides what I already do. He is picky sometimes, especially at home. My neighbor's son is 6 weeks younger than DS and weighs 23 lbs. The doctor said DS may just be a small kid, but they do get concerned if their weight drops below the 3-5 percentile and that is where we are at. I just feel like crying. He's healthy, he's happy, he's developmentally on track, but I worry that he's starving and not getting the fat he needs for proper brain development. I can't force him to eat or drink so I'm sort of at a loss.
I bought some shorts for him this weekend in 12 month size and put some on him Sunday and they fell down because his waist is so small. Ridiculous. I'm racking my brain trying to figure out what I can do. Ladies, if you have any ideas as to how I can help my son gain weight, I would appreciate any suggestions.
TIA.
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Re: Feel like a horrible mother
We often find that we can get him to eat much more if we take him out of the high chair. I always start meals in the high chair and then try to offer more while he is playing. People might flame me for that, but I'm of the same mindset as you are - wha
I just wanted to tell you that my son is a little portly (22 pounds but he's short), and his 15 month appt he had actually lost 1 pound. I think at that age they get more active and that helps them not put on weight so much. So anyway I don't htin
my kiddo is on the same track. she's still below 22lbs at 19mo, but i stopped worrying about it. she does drink a pediasure a day (we call them milkshakes, and she loves them).
is your son in daycare? or around any other kids?
Sometimes I wonder where all the "percentile" info these doctors speak of comes from.....it always seems to be different.
My DD was only 20lbs at her 18 month appt. I was told this was the 10%. No one was the least bit concerned.&nb
DD is 19 months old and still just under 20lbs. My pedi always says as long as she gains and follows her own weight curve there is no need to worry. She's lost at a couple appointments (always after an illness/ear infection) and when that happens we go
I may be the lone wolf here but why not go back to a bottle? Just one a day? At bedtime? We still do one a day and it helps DS slow down, take some quiet time, etc. Plus, I get to hold him and he NEVER lets me hold him anymore.<
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Do not feel bad. Is he eating well with solids? There are ways to get fat into him that aren't just from milk. PP gave great suggestions, but another would be to cook things in coconut oil to add a little extra fat.
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You are not a bad mother, but I know exactly how you feel. My son is small and from 6-12 months went from the 70%s in weight down to below 10%. My son, at almost 21 months just now broke 23 lbs and just still wears a lot of 12-18 month clothes.&n
Ditto the Carnation Instant Breakfast. I have used it with my DD since she turned one. She is below the 1st percentile (17lbs at 20 mos) and has always had trouble gaining weight. As long as she seems healthy, try not to worry.
We are in the same boat. DS2 had his 12mo appt today, and he only gained 11oz in the last three months, weighing in at 17lbs 12oz. He went from 12% to 6%. I feel even worse because I bf and he was not getting enough calories from me. Part of it too is
First, you are not a bad mother! It's hard not to worry about growth and weight gain, especially when you have a peanut, but it's one of those things that is for the most part out of our control so do not feel like this is in any way your fault.
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I really appreciate everyone's words of advice and encouragement. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one in this boat! The biggest problem as I see it is that DS simply does not drink much of anything, no matter what it is - water, milk, juice. I tried