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Post Adoption Blues

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I took this book out of the library today to just read about this topic.  Any of you moma's who have already adopted, have you read this or did you experience any post adoption blues?  Just in the first few pages, I can see how this could be an issue for some.
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  • crene84crene84 member
    Hmm, I may need to check that book out.  I definitely experienced something...it was a much bigger transition for me than I realized to go from working full-time to being a SAHM full-time.  I didn't feel like a mother for a long time (maybe I st
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  • KimmypooKimmypoo

    I can totally relate! The first year after I adopted. I felt so depressed at times because I couldn't come.and go like I wanted. I was 39 yrs old and always had freedom. Me and hubby fought over stupid stuff like nap time, what the baby wore and.nap ti

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  • erinmc1erinmc1 member
    I wouldn't call it blues, per se. It's more like a feeling of confinement. I'm a creature of habit, and routine, and there is no routine when you first have a baby. It's a difficult adjustment. And I'm an only child and a bit independent and enjoy sol
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  • crene84crene84 member
    I also wanted to add, to make matters worse, I felt guilty for feeling the way I did because we had the most amazing adoption story.  When I told people, they'd be like "are you totally on cloud 9 right now?!" and I'd pretend that I was...because I f
    Married Since 09/2006, TTC Since 09/2010 
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I did not, but I know of a couple of people who had post-adoption depression on some level or another. I was a bit on the lookout for it because my mom had PPD and PPA for a pretty significant period of time.
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  • Mush-TasticMush-Tastic member
    I think it's safe to say I might be dealing with some of this right now.
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  • mtenderemtendere member
    I have not yet adopted, but I did experience PPD and my husband dealt with depression in the months following the birth of our daughter. As older, independent parents, the adjustment was definitely harder than we realized. I was really hesitant to get hel
    ***************************** Our beautiful daughter was born in October 2009. Turns out she was quite the miracle. After two years of TTC, diagnosed with DOR. A couple of failed treatment cycles later, we decided to let go of our hope for more biological children and explore adoption.
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    imageMush-Tastic:
    I think it's safe to say I might be dealing with some of this right now.

    Oh Mush, H

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I went through something that wasn't quite depression but was certainly more severe than just the blues.  In addition to adjusting to parenthood and never having a free moment ever, I was completely overwhelmed by my inability to converse w

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    imagecrene84:
    I also wanted to add, to make matters worse, I felt guilty for feeling the way I did because we had the most amazing
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  • lizlemon2lizlemon2 member

    I think it was a big lifestyle shock for us.  We went from no kids to very active 2 and 4 yo boys.  It is very demanding, they constantly test our patience.  D and I are going to do some couple sessions with the family/ind therapist for

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  • IRRIRR member

    imageNariaDreaming:
    What an amazing coincidence- this was in my newsfeed after lunch

    https://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/
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  • jenbabejenbabe member

    I second everything crene said.  It took me about 7 or 8 months to really get the feel for it.  Now that J is more active its definitely got easier.  I just wrote a blog post about this.  I feel so bad about how much I resented

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