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Andrewsgal
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What were your marriage requirements?
Andrewsgal
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I could not think of a better way to word this. When it came to the type of man you choose to marry? What were your must haves? What were your deal breakers?
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Re: What were your marriage requirements?
I started dating the boy who would eventually become my DH when I was 14 (one day from 15) and he was 16 (three weeks from 17). So, at that point, marriage was the farthest thing from my mind. We stayed together through college at UVA, and
He had to be a Christian and hard worker. He had to be mature. There were a lot of obnoxious "drive through the drive through backwards" kind of guys my sister dated. I was not going to marry one of those. He had to be respectful to me and other women
Wants kids, cares about health/fitness, and the sex had to be good.
Deal breakers would be someone who didn't want kids, abusive...aside from that I don't really know.
I always thought I'd never marry anyone who didn't love to read as much
This question is so fitting for today LOL
I have a revision to mine:
*Once, just once, side w/ me instead of MIL, I AM YOUR WIFE ; )
Requirements - Kind, passionate/driven, succesful (I don't mean this in terms of making $, I mean this in terms of an ability to succeed and be happy with whatever his passion is, you know?), loves to travel, accepting, thinks I am the bees knees even
I wanted somebody I was attracted* to and would make a good father. Somebody I could have fun with and depend on. Oh and couldn't be a Republican or an Auburn fan.
***The type of man I am attracted to...blue eyes, dark hair, loves sports {footbal
I had very high standards because I wasn't going to just settle. I wanted to choose wisely. Good work ethic/job, same religion as me, would be supportive of me quitting my very good paying job to become a sahm once we had children, respectful towar
Someone who was driven and had a career and an education.
Someone who could make me laugh.
Someone who could provide a life of security.
Someone who respected me.
Things that attracted to me to my SO:
Good with kids. Happy with his job situation. Good family. Attractive.
I was married before and those were the things my ex-H was not.
DH and I met when we were in our early 30's, so I had lots of time and bad dates to figure out what I wanted and what I didn't want. I knew that to be in a successful long term relationship/marriage, I had to be with someone with a sense of
Must haves: Intelligent, funny, easy to talk to. Similar political and religious beliefs. Similar views on money. Similar views on future family. Steady employment history. I preferred someone who didn't already have kids but that wasn't a automatic de
I don't know if I ever had a list. I wanted someone who was kind and funny, good looking, close w his family and got along w mine, and laid back/easy going. Also someone who was supportive, liked my friends, and had ambition.
I was in a terrible
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I don't think I had a set list of requirements in mind. I met DH in middle school and we were high school sweethearts so it's not really something I was consciously thinking about.
That said, I certainly wouldn't have stuck wi
I would say my top factors were:
Motivated in a career path. We were still in college when we decided to get married, but he was completing a degree in engineering so I knew he cared about his future career.
Sense of humor. I can't stand pe
Must Haves: polite/gentleman-like, shares my sense of humor, hard-working, intelligent, must be going to college or have a degree (met and married him while we were in college), shares my religion
Deal-Breakers: smoker (I have asthma, so this
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I don't think I went into marriage with a strong list. I just wanted someone who loved me unconditionally. I was 18 when I met DH, and I knew he was the one from the beginning, so I don't remember having any qualifications he had to meet.&n
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Have the same general religious and political beliefs.
Someone who liked to travel and have the same interests as me. I would not have been happy with a homebody.
Someone who wanted several children as well as pets.
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When I was 15 I made a list of everything I wanted in a husband though it did get revised multiple times through my dating years. It was a long a very specific list. My friends used to lecture me on being so picky but I wouldn't budge on most of the th
I pretty much got them all when it came to Liam.
He is from a "good family"
Ivy League grad.
Tall 6'5
Really nice. Sweet. Thoughtful. Funny.
I hit the jackpot.
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natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
Must be kind.
Must put time with family first.
Must treat me as an equal in every way.
Must be liberal and love the arts.