I love my baby but hate being a mom

rjk1029 · March 2013

I know I sound like and am the worst person in the world by saying this. I love my baby dearly but I absolutely hate being a mother. I wish my life could go back to the way it was before I got pregnant. I never envisioned myself being a mom and having kids because I always believed I would be terrible at it. Now I have this absolutely beautiful 2mo little boy and I feel like I'm screwing his life up. I finally tried to talk to my husband about it and he went off on me telling me I need to figure out what it is I need to make me happy because he's sick of my mopey behavior. He has waited so long to be a daddy and he doesn't understand why I'm having so many problems with something so simple. I wish I never told him how I feel but if I can't tell him then who am I supposed to go to?

Please no brash or rude comments I feel bad enough already. I just need to know if anyone else out there can give me some words of advice if they ever felt the same way. :,

ReeceFamily · March 2013

Just wanted to send a hug.

zonagirlie · March 2013

Not a fan of your husband but mist importantly you need to take care of you. Please talk to your dr. I have to fill out a ppd survey every visit. Are you? Full it out honestly. Blaming yourself, unfounded fears and crying, anger, all signs of ppd. Go talk

JennV514 · March 2013

What you are feeling is normal. Pregnancy and postpartum really F you up, and for a long time. Men don't get it. They thing you get pregnant, carry the baby for 9 months, birth it, and you're good to go. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that.
I a

ta78 · March 2013

You may be suffering from ppd. I would make sure to share w your dr these feelings.

It is a huge adjustment and eventually it will just become your life instead of seeing it as a job. While I still question at times whether I'm doing the right th

drpayne · March 2013

I agree with PP about possible PPD. Please talk to your dr. Also, the newborn stage is HARD and not particularly rewarding. It does get easier and more fun. I had to take my 2 year old to the doctor and to the grocery store today and we had such a good ti

Goldsgirl9 · March 2013

You should probably speak to your doctor about ppd. Babies are a huge adjustment and IMO even the most supportive husbands don't truly understand the day to day that goes into caring for a baby. It's not easy. They day it will get better so just hang in t

meggiev123 · March 2013

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this! I agree with other posters that you should mention this to your doctor. It sounds like you may have a case of PPD.

Also, you may want to try to get some baby-f

MelissaRae1525 · March 2013

I ditto everyone else. I don't think it was fair for your husband to say those things but he doesn't understand. It sounds like he wanted a baby and you didn't? Then he should be helping you out more you can have a little free time. If you don't have a

sbevmc09 · March 2013

PrivacyWanted:
You definitely need someone to talk to who will listen without passing judgment. Can you afford a therapist ? O

this decaf life · March 2013

Being a mother has been a lot more difficult than I expected. I get migraines and this extended lack of sleep is doing a number on me. Sometimes I wish we'd waited a few more years but I guess I don't really think time would change how I feel. I sincerely

giabean27 · March 2013

I agree with JennV514. My doc says you can have PPD for up to a year after the baby is born. I, personally, only had about a week or two of mopey-ness with my 4th (now 11 weeks), but I do know a lot of people who have had it for months and months.

82Sonia · March 2013

giabean27:
I also agree that it's normal to miss your single or pre-kid life sometimes. Those we

BLPL101 · March 2013

Certainly no judgement here! Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done. I have always wanted to be a mom, but I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I love my daughter very much, but it's exhausting. I am praying for you.

Wild_flower25 · March 2013

Its normal. I went through this bad with ds. Never diagnosed with ppd. I have it a little now but not nearly as bad as last time. The baby stage sucks. Its not at all rewarding. I got better when I got bacj to work and lo became more of a petson with a

jlynn917 · March 2013

Honestly, I have struggled with this feeling on and off since my son was born. He had really bad colic and remains a fussy/high maintenance baby.Due to the constant crying, I have been essentially housebound since we brought him home. I know exactly what

lafayettegirl · March 2013

Oh sweetie! I don't think there is amom out there who has not felt this way. We adopted, so I cannot speak to postpartum issues, but I can say that I have been where you are at times. I have a career I love, we were able to travel, go out to eat, do wh

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