Trying to Get Pregnant

Friend Update

Remember my friend that told me she wanted to get pregnant before me? (then an old condom came out when she peed?) Well she did, and the way she told me was super sh!ty. I called to se if she could take a long lunch and she said she couldn't becuase she is taking Thursday off but didn't want to tell me why because I would be mad at her...I said, are you pregnant? She said yes. Are you mad at me? (sorry for not doing the whole dialog quote thing)

The details: she is a slut, its a different guy than the one she was with last month. I'm happy for her but yes I am jealous and hate myself for it. Ugh, and now I am judging her lifestyle I need to stop. I truly wish her a happy healthy pregnancy. 

But, I think she is lying. She said she is 3 weeks and 4 days, doesn't that seem early? And, she has a Dr. appt on Thursday. I asked her why and she said to make sure everything was ok. I told not to waste her money and (she doesn't have insurance) because I didn't think they would even see you until 8 weeks or something. Anyway, hearing her talk about it made me realize how much I have earned from this board. I just wanted to thank you all for teaching me so much and apologize for being a bi-ach to some of you.

I'm sure some of you can relate to how I feel, I also know I may be opening the flame gates. BIO!

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Re: Friend Update

  • It is too early for a dating ultrasound, but she could have her pap and bloodwork done, I guess. I wouldn't make such an early appt, but plenty of people do, and you might not know her medical history. Maybe there's a good reason why her doc wants to see her so early.

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  • imageEmerald27:
    It is too early for a dating ultrasound, but she could have her pap and bloodwork done, I guess. I wouldn't make such an early appt, but plenty of people do, and you might not know her medical history. Maybe there's a good reason why her doc wants to see her so early.
    She is fine as far as I know. She had her pap done in Oct. Her sister has PCOS. From what I gathered she just wants confirmation. I told her Planned Parenthood might be cheaper, I don't know if they do blood draw tests though or just use something similar to what we'd get at the store. Liars can only lie for so long, right?
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    imageCrayChristi:
    The details: she is a slut,

    This is where I stopped listening.

    People can have as many partners as they want. They can hump on the top of the tallest building, take it in the butt on their kitchen table, have sex with fifteen people at once while all underwater, whatever floats their boat. But, if they aren't hurting themselves or others, more power to them. This isn't for you to judge, to slut-shame, to even comment on, because it's none of your business.

    If she chose to get pregnant by some random guy, that's for her to deal with because (cue lightbulb moment) it's her life. You can go cry about it in the corner but, newsflash, it's not for you to judge.

    I know you're right. I shouldn't have jumped on TB with these weird emotions towards my friend. 
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  • I don't get why you say she is a friend. Neither of you sounds like a great friend to each other.

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  • imageMsCrispy:
    I don't get why you say she is a friend. Neither of you sounds like a great friend to each other.

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  • imagecruelsound:
    I'm failing to see why you're so obsessed with her being pregnant or not. Let's say she's lying, how does this impact you at all? Will you somehow feel superior or think, "HAHAHAH! Now I can try to get pregnant before her again!" so that you can start this stupid game all over again?
    For me it isn't a game. You and PP are right. I am horrible. 
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  • I don't think I would be friends with someone that told me they wanted to get pregnant before me. That is a little too b*tchy and competitive for me!

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  • I was hoping you would not forget to update us! Sorry she won the baby race, but who wants to tell their child they were conceived after the condom went missing and came out after she peed?
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  • imagekrdesi:
    I don't think I would be friends with someone that told me they wanted to get pregnant before me. That is a little too b*tchy and competitive for me!
    Thank you. I totally understand being in your 30's and wanting to have a baby but the way she said it rubbed me wrong. I should have faded our friendship out then. 
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  • imagecruelsound:
    I'm failing to see why you're so obsessed with her being pregnant or not. Let's say she's lying, how does this impact you at all? Will you somehow feel superior or think, "HAHAHAH! Now I can try to get pregnant before her again!" so that you can start this stupid game all over again?


    Exactly what I was thinking...didn't read it all though, too much crazy in one place.

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  • imageSlapptastic:
    I think she's an AE that's trying to legitimize herself.
    If I cared enough to make an AE I would have after the first time I was flamed or my drunken rampage night. This is the Internet. This board is fun and interesting. Hopefully you or I will get our BFP this month so won't bother you with my posts anymore. 
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  • imagemacylynn27:

    imagekrdesi:
    I don't think I would be friends with someone that told me they wanted to get pregnant before me. That is a little too b*tchy and competitive for me!
     

    Agreed. After my husband and I got engaged, his ex girlfriend (I've known her for many years but she is not what I consider a friend) got engaged and married in two months. She later told me she did that because she had to get married before I did. Then she got pregnant (more power to her, nothing wrong with that, obviously!) but told me that she is happy now because she has had a baby before I could. WTF. She is now in my phone as 'don't answer' because she is NOT a friend. I don't want anything to do with her and every time I talk to her i become a b!tch because she infuriates me, so I don't talk to her.

    Sounds like you two just need to go your separate ways. If she only brings out the worst in you and vice versa, don't be in contact with her.

    I"m going to try to be strong and start ignoring her. PP's are right, she brings out the worst in me. 
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  • I found out I was pregnant last time at 4 weeks and some days. I called my family practitioner to ask what the next step was, and she had me come in to her to have a pregnancy test done to confirm (just a urinalysis). It was positive and she called an OB for me, but my appointment wasn't for almost 2 months later.

    I agree with pp, maybe she has some problems (or since you say she's a sl*t, maybe she has some STDs that should be taken care of right away?). But like you said, she could easily be lying as well.

    I think she is a biatch for saying she wants to get pregnant before you. That's incredibly rude (even if she doesn't know about your TTC journey). She seems very dramatic and into herself. I'd side eye her majorly and question if she is pregnant or not. Just know that you are the bigger person, because you didn't say that you wanted to be pregnant before her, and also because you want her to have a H and H 9 months. Screw her for being a biatch.

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    imageCrayChristi:
    imageSlapptastic:
    I think she's an AE that's trying to legitimize herself.
    If I cared enough to make an AE I would have after the first time I was flamed or my drunken rampage night. This is the Internet. This board is fun and interesting. Hopefully you or I will get our BFP this month so won't bother you with my posts anymore. 
    So you both can't get a BFP this month? Oh wait, that's right, pregnancy is a competition.
    Oh, FFS, that is not what I meant. I'm not trying to compete.
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  • imageLuckbeababy:
    I was hoping you would not forget to update us! Sorry she won the baby race, but who wants to tell their child they were conceived after the condom went missing and came out after she peed?

     

    HAHAAHHA so true!!!  And like PP's have said; who cares?  Sounds like you really don't like her anyway.  Why would you even want someone like that in your life?  Sounds like bad vibes to me....... 

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    I was hoping you would not forget to update us! Sorry she won the baby race, but who wants to tell their child they were conceived after the condom went missing and came out after she peed?

     

    HAHAAHHA so true!!!  And like PP's have said; who cares?  Sounds like you really don't like her anyway.  Why would you even want someone like that in your life?  Sounds like bad vibes to me....... 

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    imageLuckbeababy:
    I was hoping you would not forget to update us! Sorry she won the baby race, but who wants to tell their child they were conceived after the condom went missing and came out after she peed?

     

    HAHAAHHA so true!!!  And like PP's have said; who cares?  Sounds like you really don't like her anyway.  Why would you even want someone like that in your life?  Sounds like bad vibes to me....... 

    Yeah, hopefully the baby isn't allergic to latex. Thanks, I was talking to DH about it and he made me feel better, too. He never liked her. Looking back on our friendship I can see how it was one sided. Today she kept asking if I was mad at her. I said no. I really am happy for her just hurt on how she told me. I guess it could have been awkward for her, too. She said she'd been rooting for me all year and now I "really have to get pregnant" I just wanted to say, Ok! and be a smart ass I just told her good luck and got off the phone.

    Thanks for listening.

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  • imageSlapptastic:

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    imageSlapptastic:
    I think she's an AE that's trying to legitimize herself.
    If I cared enough to make an AE I would have after the first time I was flamed or my drunken rampage night. This is the Internet. This board is fun and interesting. Hopefully you or I will get our BFP this month so won't bother you with my posts anymore. 

    Where did I say that?  I never said you bother me.  Ever.

    I failed to quote.  Someone asked about you, I was replying to them with my guess.

    FWIW, here's the post I meant to quote:

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    I'm confused.  First you were a MUDdy troll and now you're trying to 'actively' participate.  Are you a troll meister or just overly dramatic?

    oh sorry. 
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  • oh man. gotta love it when someone brings a life into the world to spite someone else...

    seriously, neither of you are good friends to each other. cut your losses and go your own way.
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  • To address the least BSC part of this...

    Since at ovulation, you are considered 2 weeks pregnant, 3 weeks and 4 days would be 11 dpo. So no, it's not too early for a BFP.

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  • imagenlscroggins:
    oh man. gotta love it when someone brings a life into the world to spite someone else... seriously, neither of you are good friends to each other. cut your losses and go your own way.

    One of my mom's friends got pregnant right after she had me. The friend was holding me one day and my mom caught her saying to me that she was glad I wouldn't be getting all the attention for too much longer.

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  • I also missed the OP from this story-and not too say I pretty much could care less
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