March 2013 Moms
So it looks like I'm on my own.
Just talked to DH and the military denied his request for RR so he won't be here when our son is born. Won't even meet him until he is 10 months old. Seriously they just let a guy come home for his girlfriend to have their baby. This is my freakin husband!
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Re: So it looks like I'm on my own.
If he is in the states...can you go to him where he can be at the hospital? It might be late in the game for you, but if it means a lot, it could be a possibility?
If you are unable to go, could you talk to the hospital about skyping the birth, or face time the birth, so at least he can view it, and you can communicate with him?
Married: 08/04/12
DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17
Hi there, my husband is military too, although thankfully he won't be deploying again until next year. I am so sorry your husband will miss the birth. That really, really stinks.
Can you be on the phone with him or on Skype? A friend from high school wasn't allowed leave when he was in the Middle East, but they hooked him up with a satellite phone so his wife could talk to him during her c-section.
As far as the girlfriend thing goes. I am happy that the guy got to be there but normally a girlfriend is not considered family or dependent by the military they are generally pretty strict about that so I'm wondering how they made that happen and can't for my DH. I know this couple tried to use the Red Cross' services but were turned down because they are not married. I'm not upset with the couple. They are nice people.
Anyhow the military is a major bummer.
Sorry I shouldn't have jumped to conclusions! I'm hormonal and not married myself so I am always a little sensitive to that. I really am so sorry about your situation. At least at the end you will be getting the most beautiful gift. No matter how the labor and delivery happen, the end result will be the same. It may not be ideal but it will still be wonderful and you will still have your baby!
I am so, so sorry. That is just ridiculous! We owe an insane amount of gratitude to the men and women who serve in our military and it makes me really angry that we can't accommodate them around one of the biggest evens in their lives.
I am sure you will be able to do this on our own, but you shouldn't have to.
BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12
BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13
I found myself agreeing with vmihelci, but now I see where you are coming from. I am really sorry that is happening to you