DH and I definitely want more babies after this LO. But we have been discussing when to try for our second. I know that our best bet is to wait after this LO is here and see how things go. We are kinda afraid because it took us 2 years to have this baby and are worried they it may take that long again with our future babies. I told him watch us try right after and get pregnant or wait a year or more and it take a Long time again, but of course we'd rather it be sooner than later. How long are you planning on waiting to have more wee ones??
Re: If any of you are wanting more babies after this LO...
We won't try for another for awhile. We're not sure how long; probably anywhere between 3 and 5 years after this baby comes. This LO was a surprise, and we weren't financially prepared at all. That, coupled with the fact that I have been on bed rest since 24w with no income, means it is going to take us a long time to bounce back and build up savings/pay off some debt. I hate that finances are the main factor when it comes to our family planning, but that's life I guess.
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After I had my DD I was ready right away to get pregnant again. My DH was as well, he's 13 years older then me and we didn't want to waste any time.
However, it took 5 months for my period to return because I exclusively pumped. When it did return my period was CRAZY. I had 2 really long cycles that were a mess.
Once I stopped pumping completely when my DD was 8 months old my period returned to normal and we got pregnant that cycle with this LO.
I would love one more but this time we're going to wait longer, I need a break!
Getting pregnant again after you have your LO I guess just depends on your body and if you decide to BF or not. I have heard a lot of stories of people that take a long time the first time around to get pregnant that decide to try right away to not waste any time and get pregnant super fast the next time. I hope this is the case for you!!!
I'm leaning toward this one being our last, but ask me in a year or so. I nursed DS for 13 months and I had no desire to start another child during that time. I told DH that I need a few months to myself, my body, my life. I stopped nursing in February of last year and then we started trying in July and got pregnant on the first try. I personally needed that time to regroup and wrap my mind around doing it all again. To me it felt like my body didn't belong to me at all during those 2 years or so.
As for assuming that it will take you just as long to get pregnant the second time around, my friend tried for 3 years before conceiving her son. Then she was pregnant again when he was just 6 months old even with exclusively breastfeeding. She didn't prevent because she figured it would take just as long again. A pregnancy can sort of reset your body.
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My Husband and I have not talked about more kids... But when we first started trying my husband said he wanted them back to back, but I think with having had 2 miscarriages it may have changed his mind.
But I did tell him that IF we had another one, it would be at least 3 years. Then again lets see how this goes. Who knows after I have her I may want to try again after 2. Who knows.
We are similar to you, it took us over two years of trying (no medical help except us counting days, etc) for this baby girl. I'm also 32 and would like to have 2nd before I'm 35. We will probably wait 5-6 months and then start trying again and just let happen what happens (but praying it's not right away or two year later. lol)
We are going to wait about three years before we try for our third. We want four children, so these two are close in age (20-21 months apart), and then there will be a bit of the gap, and we will go for two under two again. Also, the long wait will help us decide if 4 is the right number for us.
The whole thought of TTC/going through the IF roller coaster again kind of sends me into a panic attack. We have 2 frozen embies that we will transfer fall 2014. Because we've been told by two RE's that we have a 1% chance of conceiving on our own that will be it. But I am a big believer in miracles and pray that we get KU by a HUGE surprise.
I've enjoyed pregnancy so much. It's bittersweet that it's coming to an end. I really hope I get to experience this again.
We talk about this often, given our situation (Male Factor infertility and the inability to conceive naturally)..... Also DH is 38 and I am 33. So age is not totally on our side.
I'd really like to be done with children by the time I am 35 and DH hates that he feels like an old dad as well, so we'll probably go for number 2 quicker than I ever imagined I would.
I'd like to go for number 2 after a year, DH wants sooner....Either way, as long as we are successful with round 2 - I think we'll have 2 in the 2 year apart timeframe.
Of course this will also be somewhat dependent on how easy this one is and how things play out financially.
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As long as everything goes smoothly with the birth of this one (our first), we plan on trying for another pretty quickly. Personally I'd like to try in January (I'm being selfish and want to be able to drink on my 30th this December) which would put them at 18 months apart if we got pregnant right away. Financially things will probably be tight, but if we want our kids to be fairly close together. As far as more after that, we'll just have to wait and see!
We are taking a wait and see approach to when we want to start trying for #2. We've agreed we like a 2.5 year age difference between siblings. DH would like to start trying after LO is 14 months, and I would like to wait until she's at least 18-20 months.
22 1/2 years sounds like a nice big gap =P.
I think we are going to wait 1.5-2 years until we try for another one. I got my palm read for fun about a year ago, and she told me I would have 3 girls and then 1 boy. I really wonder if it'll pan out that way in that order! Weird if it does...I would love a big family if we have the time and money to provide for them all.
We haven't prevented since dd was born 6.5 years ago...so there's that.
In all honesty, I'm not expecting a #3 - mostly because I'm 36 and I honestly don't want to be pregnant at 40. However, if we get another miracle in the next 1-2 years I'll be ecstatic. If we go much longer without conceiving, dh will probably get snipped.
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We are planning on having another child, but are waiting to see how things go with this LO first. Ideally we would like to wait until LO is 1.5 - 2 years old before we try for #2.