March 2013 Moms
jvarney07
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Valentines Disappointment
jvarney07
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My husband really struck out this Valentines Day. He didn't even get me a card. I can understand not spending money on a gift since we have our little one due March 11th, but some attention or recognition would have been nice. Even a foot or back rub for once those don't cost a thing and would have been wonderful!
Also, I'm now up at 5am because my tossing and turning in bed was apparently annoying him his alarm goes off at 5 anyway so he should be up getting ready for work. Heaven forbid I disturb him as I try to get comfortable with my large belly and swollen feet.
Also, I'm now up at 5am because my tossing and turning in bed was apparently annoying him his alarm goes off at 5 anyway so he should be up getting ready for work. Heaven forbid I disturb him as I try to get comfortable with my large belly and swollen feet.
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Re: Valentines Disappointment
I hear you! DH didnt even say Happy Valentines Day to me until he sent me a text later in the day. He only sent the text becasue my coworkers husband and my husband work together and she emailed him about it lol. I didnt get home until later after my Dr. apt so we didn't go out but he went and picked up Applebees but didnt get a card. He only picked up Applebees because I really didn't want to cook I was so tired.
I know he loves me and it is just a 'Hallmark' holiday but come on you could at least say Happy Valentine's Day I love you!
I could have written your post myself.
I wrote him this really nice card and surprised him with dinner and a bottle of wine. So we ate dinner and fooled around a little bit (not to my benefit I have to add) whereby he then had a nap and worked for the rest of the night. I even told him flat out- a massage would be great babe. Nuh-uh. Squat. Yesterday was also my last day of work. Think he'd mention that? Congrats, you made it - nothing
His mother is visiting us now for the next 4 days from across the country. This will be my first meeting with her. Guess who's tidying up our place last minute before she arrives? That's right, this kid.
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Valentine's Day has been a disappointment for a really long time now, no matter how hard we try or how nice he is, it marks a very sad anniversary for me so I'm not really a happy camper about it. Today and tomorrow are going to be worse. He knows that and so while being supportive, he also lays low...
It would have been nice to get a card or a single rose, but we had Fondue and called it a night. Happy V-Day I guess...
I guess I'm in the minority here, but I told my DH not to get me anything, not even a card. I've never bought into the hype surrounding Vday and always feel pressured to do something nice for him because he always does something nice for me. This year he finally listened and ended up feeling horrible because I bought him a cupcake to share. It was sweet he felt bad but it was also a bit silly.
I can, however, understand that if it's important to you that you may feel a bit let down. The only thing you can do is discuss it with him.
mine kind of went two ways, I wrote him a really long message about this past year and how much i love him and how amazing he is. Inever got a response... later I get a text that says 70 for tulips wtfffff, I found some for 40 but they are roses. want them?
Seriously? i told him no because I dodnt want him to waste the money butreally it was because of how he asked!! Then he comes home with 5 dollar daisy's from walmarta box of choclates and a card. He says : the flowers are really for me because I know you wont like them, and can you open the chocolates, I want so carmel." I didn't even eat a piece... they are all gone.
But then, I opened the card and it had a sweet message about buying me more flowers and how he's excited to have this baby... and he gave me a necklace from Tiffany's!
It ended good but I was in such a pissy mood the whole time and he totally made it about him even though i got us dinner, we watched his action movie and gave him great gifts.
I may forget Valentines Day from now on to avoid the disappointment.
I don't like Vday -- Hallmark Holiday here too. I had commented on needing an alarm clock for our room for the times when we forget to turn on sounds on the cell phones and can't hear the alarm going off (happened a few times now) and dh agreed. So....
In the midst of him and ds1 being sick the past few days, he went out and bought a cheap, electric alarm clock for us. While he napped, I went in started to make myself some supper as we had agreed that it would be a fend for yourself kinda night.....I wound up making chicken fried rice for the whole family -- just cause that's what sounded the best to me and it worked for all.
That's my kind of V-anyday -- where you each do something special for the other, just because you can. Knowing my wonderful dh, he will borrow my car sometime this weekend and return it with a full tank of gas and sometime while he's working I will "magically" make his dresser drawers/closet full of clean clothes.
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We are both very aware of the coming expenses with a baby due that has a serious heart defect, so neither one of us wanted to spend a lot of money on something for Valentine's day. We never even talked about it, it was just kind of assumed. I looked at cards at Target, but I just couldn't bring myself to spend 5 bucks on a card. So I took a piece of red construction paper and wrote him a note telling him what I really feel in a heartfelt way.
When he came home from work, he had a small boquet of purple flowers (my favorite color) and a snack size McFlurry for me. I was thrilled with the simple gift. I even praised him for not wasting a ton of money on roses that die fast and instead getting me some less expensive flowers my favorite color. After 12 years together and almost 6 years of marriage, he knew what was just right. I couldn't be happier with his choices.
The funny thing was that a woman at his work gave him a hard time about what he bought. She told him that he wasn't getting me enough, he should do more, she'd be pissed with just that, etc. What he found ironic about that was that she literally has no money, to the point of being on government assistance, and yet she insists that her partner spend money they can't afford on gifts. What sense does that make?