I've been stressing about when to tell our parents. Ideally, we would like to tell our parents together. I wanted to wait until my prenatal intake appointment, at which point I'll be about 6-7 weeks. Is this a good time?
I talk to my parents at least 2-3 times a week and am feeling so guilty for not saying anything. I just found out 3 days ago, so I shouldn't feel that bad, right?
I know we'll be very selective about who we tell after that, but knowing our parents, the whole world may know after them.
The standard for telling any body else is after 12 weeks, right? I can wait to tell other people until then, but I'm itching to tell the parents.
Re: When to tell parents = stressing big time
My dad was the second person I told, but I know he doesn't go around blabbing. As for my husbands parents, we've been holding off from telling them, because I know the second his mom finds out, she'll be on facebook telling the entire world. I understand she's excited and all, but its not her news to tell, at least not on facebook. We don't mind if she tells other family and family friends etc,but we aren't ready for it to be leaked out onto facebook.
We're actually taking his parents out for a dinner tonight to tell them, its getting harder and harder to hide mainly due to my really bad m/s. All we can hope is that she respects us enough to not put anything on facebook. (which of course we will ask her not to).
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With our last pregnancy we shared as soon as the pee dried. We, sadly, lost the pregnancy at 13weeks. It was horrible to "un-tell" and I didn't always feel a lot of real support. Just the "everything happens for a reason" and "God has a plan". Which are HORRIBLE things to say to a person grieving the loss of a pregnancy.
This time we are waiting until Easter when I will be 12 weeks. I would do whatever feels best for you. I am dying to tell my MIL & FIL because this will be their first grand-baby. I am also having a hard time not telling my parents too.
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Its really up to you. If you know they wont respect you asking them not to say anything then wait. We have not told anyone yet. I plan to tell my parents after the dating u/s where I will be around 6 weeks. My sister and SIL probably after my official OB appointment (not sure when that will be. I have not made my first OB appointment yet until I get my dating u/s). I imagine that will be around 8 or 9 weeks. My ILs cant keep a secret so I was thinking after the NT scan if I am feeling like I am showing. When that is I will tell everyone else too.
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I told my parents, brothers & sisters the day after we found out. I figured I would want their support in case anything happens and already i'm so happy they know just for little advice i'm getting here and there as well as little gifts from my mom to help with m/s.
We are waiting to tell DH's parents until after my first apt as they live out of town and will be visiting. I also don't trust his mom to keep it a secret for very long so at that point she'll only have to hold it in for 2-3 weeks.
To each their own ... do what feels comfortable to you based on the relationships you have with your parents.
We just told my parent's today! (I'm 5w3d). This is their first grandchild so my mom was freaking out.
I told my husband we can't tell his parents until at least after our 1st appointment (on Monday), because I don't trust his mom not to say anything. I really don't want the world to know through Facebook without my consent.
We haven't told them yet and didn't tell them about either loss.
Dh really wants to tell them, I'm not ready to. Maybe after my ultrasound next week, if it goes well.
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Our first pregnancy we waited till week 11. I felt like we couldn't tell one parent and not the others... people talk about MIL's but my FIL is the biggest blabbermouth...nice guy but it isn't really even like he can't help it he thinks he has the right. My DH cousin told his own mom when they were preg. and she blabbed and it just went like wild fire. They were really sensitive too because they had a m/c. but they never found out everyone new already...when my FIL told us I said see this why we don't tell you things. He actually rolled his eyes and giggled and said quote "blah blah blah" so disgusting if you ask me. This time I think we may tell our moms early....both our parents are divorced and remarried.