I am really stressing because I didn't get my DS anything for his first Valentine's day. I get like this at every holiday. I actually feel anxious and bad about it. I worry that I'm not doing enough! Does anyone else feel this way??
I hear you! I like doing cute little things for people so I'm excited to do all that stuff for DS, too! But we're on a tight budget and he won't remember I make the day special - put him in a cute outfit with a cute filter frame.
Last year for each holiday my H and I got him a card and wrote him a letter for him to have some day.That could be an idea
I know that it totally sounds crazy. I was like this at Christmas too. I think it comes from the fact that I always assumed I would have more than one child. But, since DS came early he will be an only child. We're not 100% but I'm scared it would happen again and even if I did decide that I wanted another one, I would have a really hard time convincing my DH. So, b/c of this I feel like this is my only shot and I want to enjoy it and make the most of it. I think it may be part of the way I'm dealing with the stress of knowing I won't have another child.
UFP- that is a great idea with the cards! I think I will make him a card and write him a note about how special he is to me and how much I love him. That will be much more of a momento than any stuffed animal
I know that it totally sounds crazy. I was like this at Christmas too. I think it comes from the fact that I always assumed I would have more than one child. But, since DS came early he will be an only child. We're not 100% but I'm scared it would happen again and even if I did decide that I wanted another one, I would have a really hard time convincing my DH. So, b/c of this I feel like this is my only shot and I want to enjoy it and make the most of it. I think it may be part of the way I'm dealing with the stress of knowing I won't have another child.
UFP- that is a great idea with the cards! I think I will make him a card and write him a note about how special he is to me and how much I love him. That will be much more of a momento than any stuffed animal
Thanks ladies!!
You're welcome! I can relate to what you're saying about "one shot" - I only want one child. Preemie-ness aside, that's all. Just one unless there is a surprise. I think it helps me savor a lot of moments I might otherwise slip by.
I don't think it's crazy, I wanted to get my DD something but then I decided she really doesn't care right now, so I'd rather just save the money and effort for when she knows the difference. I also felt bad not inviting some of her little friends to her 1-yr party I'm planning, but again, I decided to save the money and make her a huge awesome party with all her friends in a few years when she can appreciate it! Your baby can tell you love him or her regardless of what toys and gifts you get - you could give her a piece of paper and she will probably think it's the best thing she's ever been given
Preemie mom! Born 10 weeks early but Mommy and baby are both doing great!!
Re: Am I crazy?
I hear you! I like doing cute little things for people so I'm excited to do all that stuff for DS, too! But we're on a tight budget and he won't remember I make the day special - put him in a cute outfit with a cute filter frame.
Last year for each holiday my H and I got him a card and wrote him a letter for him to have some day.That could be an idea
I know that it totally sounds crazy. I was like this at Christmas too. I think it comes from the fact that I always assumed I would have more than one child. But, since DS came early he will be an only child. We're not 100% but I'm scared it would happen again and even if I did decide that I wanted another one, I would have a really hard time convincing my DH. So, b/c of this I feel like this is my only shot and I want to enjoy it and make the most of it. I think it may be part of the way I'm dealing with the stress of knowing I won't have another child.
UFP- that is a great idea with the cards! I think I will make him a card and write him a note about how special he is to me and how much I love him. That will be much more of a momento than any stuffed animal
Thanks ladies!!
You're welcome! I can relate to what you're saying about "one shot" - I only want one child. Preemie-ness aside, that's all. Just one unless there is a surprise. I think it helps me savor a lot of moments I might otherwise slip by.
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