I never planned to allow DD to bring her own toys to DC.
DD is 19 months and NOT a morning person. Today she insisted that she bring her lovie (that she's pretty attached to at home) in the car when we left for DC. They she cried when we could not bring it in. I did not want to drop her off so upset. So I allowed her to bring her lovie in. The DC provider didn't seem bothererd or resistant to her having the lovie. She actually dropped it and went about playing shortly after we walked in the door.
I'd rather her not get used to having her lovie at DC as it's one more toy the DCP has to keep track of and because I can see other kids trying to take it.
Am I being too strict with DD? Should I allow this if it's ok with daycare? Or stick to my plan?
I'd appreciate anyone's thoughts whose had experience with this :-)
Re: Do you or would you send child's lovie to DC?
If the DCP isn't worried, don't over think it too much.
BUT - I hear you. My DCP actually doesn't like lovies to come - and if they do, she sticks them in their bag as soon as she can. She's an in-home and it's just her- so I understand.
Plus, like you, I don't want his lovies to be things he has to take everywhere. he actually has three - 2 taggies and a little bear. They can come in the car - no problem. If we go inside somewhere, he can pick ONE to bring w/ him (since I usually end up carrying it!).
And sometimes we'll go somewhere where I tell him "we could lose it - do you want to take that chance?" and he'll say no and leave it in the car.
Clearly I don't have a hard and fast rule. I just try to gauge his mood and if this is a time to really force it or not.
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Olivia hasn't grown attached to any one toy/blankie just yet but as long as it was clearly labeled with her name I wouldn't have any problem letting her take it to DC - but I'd probably feel urge to wash it more often.
Disclosure - Olivia is the only girl in her class so the teachers can pretty much figure out what stuff is ours.
This exactly. But, I personally HATE bringing lovies or favorite blankets to school. It's one more opportunity for me to forget to bring it home or for it to get lost/damaged. DH picked up DD the other day and forgot to check her cubby, so she had to sleep that night without her kitty...not good.
We've let DD take a lovey to school since she was a baby and first had a "lovey." School was OK with up until the 3s room - and would let the kids have them as needed. She's gone through a bunch of loveys and now they are just "her guys" Our rule is that she's allowed to bring 2 things max with her to school or "out" in general and that's worked well.
She's never lost anything that she was so attached to that she freaked out. Sometimes we've forgotten something, but once we're home she can normally find another "guy"
DD brings a lovie to DC. Actually, we bought a second that we leave at DC during the week. It comes home on Fridays with everything else to be washed over the weekend.
DD isn't particularly attached to it, but she does cuddle it while sleeping, it's pretty cute
So if you can get duplicates, I would let her bring it for nap time.
I own 3 of each of their loveys. DS is not really attached so no biggie there but DD is, though not in the way of dragging it all over, she just really likes it at bed and sometimes if she is upset will ask for it. They are used to this arrangement b/c they have always had a different one at daycare than at home (different being it is the same item, but there are 2 of them) and the third is the spare which is handy if they puke on the other one or if it gets lost.
We do have a rule that the the home ones don't go anywhere unless we're going on an overnight trip. Hasn't been an issue but again, with the 2nd one at daycare already and them not being attached outside of sleep for the most part it hasnt been an issue. As far as other kids taking it, I have been in 2 different daycares & it has never been a problem for naptime, I have a bag (cubby at old place) that has a blanket for naps & the lovey in it. I leave it on her hook M-F, take home to wash every weekend. Most of the kids bring in some sort of lovey or blanket or whatever for naps- I do think DC probably would not appreciate it as something she walks around w/ all day though, that could cause some problems. GL!
ETA however, on the toy front, I actually do let my kids bring in a toy in the morning & so far (months now) our teachers have not said anything, though part of it is that DS has always had a lot of trouble at drop off even after 3 yrs of DC and bringing something really helps him & I think they know that. I tell the kids that if they bring something in the other kids are going to want to look at it and touch it and if they dont want to share it they need to give it to me before I leave. I also tell them they must put it in their backpack when the teacher asks them to & as far as I know, they obey this... sometimes they'll hand it to me w/out me asking and ask me to take it back to the car or to put it in their backpack. I honestly don't think we've lost a toy yet that I've noticed....hair bows & clips on the other hand..... ugh.
Definitely! DD still has a rough time at drop off but Baby Stella and her blankie make it go so much smoother. She's not particular on what blanket she has so if it would ever get lost it's not a big deal. We bought two Baby Stella's just in case but have never had an issue with it getting misplaced. Daycare is fine with lovies and actually encourages it.
I do, yes. I have ironed on a label and have bought 2 back ups in case he gets lost.
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Sometimes DS will want to take lovie, and I let him take it in the car. I've never let him take it in though. Most days, DS will voluntarily leave lovie in the car. Other days, we have to have a talk about why he can't take lovie. I tell him that we don't want lovie to get lost, dirty, taken home by someone else. I'll also tell him that lovie will be waiting for him when I pick him up in the afternoon.
DCP wouldn't care if DS brought lovie to his class; I'm the one with the hangup.
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