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Spoiling a newborn
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Is this possible? Since last week my lo refuses to nap during the day anywhere but in my arms. Within 5 min of putting him down he cries to be picked up. My mother has been all over me about this saying that I am creating bad habits. Can you really spoil a one month old baby? Also, is anyone having a similar issue? any tips to resolve it? I dont like to swaddle during the day because we swaddle at night and I feel like he knows thats a sign its time for bed. At night we are getting 5-7 hours.
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Re: Spoiling a newborn
There he explains you can't spoil a newborn. For nine months LO had all of these comforting things. There they felt swaddled and held and rocked and had white noise 24 hours a day. Now they are by nature less spoiled than they were in the womb!
Also, I would swaddle for naptimes in the day. It will really help LO settle. They figure out day vs night on their own eventually, and you can use a dark room to help signal nighttime instead.
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No, it's not possible to spoil a newborn. My advice to you would be to just go with it (and ignore your mother). Your LO will grow out of it and start napping on their own eventually.
FWIW, DS wouldn't nap anywhere but on me at first either and I did a lot of things that some people would probably consider "spoiling" to him. He's a very well adjusted 3yo that likes to play independently and has always been a "good" sleeper. When he was in the stage of only wanting to cat nap while being held I just periodically tried to lay him down on his own (which initially just resulted in him waking up, which was obviously bad because he needed his sleep any way we could get it otherwise he would get overtired!) and when he was ready for it, eventually he did fine on his own. It was just something he had to grown into.
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Also, I have to say, the first place I was able to get DS to nap successfully that wasn't while I was holding him/wearing him was on our bed and I used the same trick of laying my hand on his chest to keep him sleeping. I think it helped to transition him to napping on his own because the bed smelled like me and he knew I was right there with him. He would sleep overnight okay, but he was adjacent to our bed and I was right there where he could still hear me and sense me, you know?
I'm a big believer in the "4th trimester". The first few months are definitely a time of transition and your LO needs to be comforted by your presence as much as possible!
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I am in the exact same boat as you. The last few days she only wants to nap on me or in the stroller during a walk. I also only swaddle at night and I dont want to swaddle at naps in case it messes things up.
I agree that you cant spoil a nb but there is such pressure to have a good sleep asap. for now, she is just going to nap with me and every day i will try putting her down during one nap to see how things go.
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I don't think the time of swaddling matters. Like PP said, I've found swaddling lets him sleep more soundly...day or night.
Our local baby expert who leads our Mommies & Me class says that you cannot spoil a baby for the first 6 months of their life. They need the bonding with you and learn to trust you this way as well.
Also, search on YouTube to watch "The Happiest Baby on the Block". It's a great video! The 4th trimester concept is pretty amazing and right on.