Hey ladies....could really use some support and advice!
I'm currently almost 5 weeks pregnant with baby #2. I had a healthy pregnancy/delivery 2.5 years ago to a perfect baby girl. January 2013 was our first month TTC, and we ended up getting pregnant our first month of trying.
I have NO reason why I should be so worried about losing the baby, but I AM! I was never worried about anything like this with my first pregnancy, but this time around I am paranoid about every little twinge, cramp, bathroom trip, etc. I work as a labor & delivery nurse, so maybe it's because this time around I know too much...?
Anyways, I know worrying does more bad than good, which is why I'm trying my HARDEST to relax, pray, and try to enjoy every moment. Anyone else in this same boat? If not, what are you doing to stay relaxed and worry-free?? TIA!!
Re: Why am I so much more worried this time around?!
I'm in the exact same shoes... In the last 3 weeks my sister inlaw had a miscarriage, and a few days ago one of my closest friends did. Makes me wonder what my chances are, if 2 people I'm that close with had a loss. I'm just about 6 wks and I'm still waiting for my OB office to call and book me in, which isn't helping at all. I'm worried that what if something is wrong, and I don't even know because the damn OB office hasn't booked me in yet. ARGH! It took us 9 months of ttc and I don't want anything to go wrong.I try to not worry but its hard some days, mostly since it's my first pregnancy too. I have no reason to think anything bad, I have no bad cramping or spotting, I don't really even have bad morning sickness. Some days I feel crazy, every time I pee I take a peek to ensure there isn't any spotting, I've even peed on a few tests here and there just to reassure myself that I'm still pregnant. lol
We're one and done!
The 1st trimester is scary, period. You cannot feel the baby yet, some women (like me for example) have to wait til they are 11 weeks before they get their 1st ultrasound, you hear all kinds of loss stories, and you hear about all that can go wrong.
Just try to remember all the things that can (and most very likely will) go right! You will have the ultrasound, see that baby, hear the baby's heart beat, the baby will grow and soon youll feel the baby kick and then the baby will be here safe, sound and healthy.
All you can do is take care of yourself and think positive. If you are a woman of faith, pray and have others pray for you. I pray for the baby everyday and my Sunday school group prays for the baby too.
Enjoy your pregnancy, don't worry it away.
Due to my early scares (I'm also 4-5wks) I feel the same way. This week I just realized to not panic that this is one of our lessons of not having as much control as we want or think and only to focus on the things we can do as mommas. Part of that is trying to relax and not fret over everything. I won't lie the spotting sometimes freaks me out but my SO has been great and lets me make gross jokes about it.
Do something nice for yourself, snuggle up with a really intriguing book or movie, read the boards (this helps me a lot to know many women are facing the same or even different things) and separate the things you can do vs the things you have no power over. My thoughts are with you and know you have a lot of paranoid girls on the same ride with you! *HUGS*
I had this same thought a few days ago. I've had an u/s already and have seen the heartbeat but that was 4 weeks ago. So now I worry "what it the baby has stopped growing". And I wonder if that thought would even be crossing my mind if I hadn't read about it happening to others on here.