April 2013 Moms
amy715
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This isn't 1950!
amy715
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I live in a major city, but commute over an hour to a small town for work everyday. It's not exactly an ideal place to work, but I got offered a large raise to transfer to that store, so I did. I knew that town was a little backwards, but I didn't realize just how backwards until I got pregnant. My store is in a very small mall, so news travels fast. As soon as I started showing, everybody knew I was pregnant. Well while I was buying something in a neighboring store the other day, their manager told me she was really going to miss me after I had the baby. I told her that it's just till June and then I'll be back. She looked at me like I'd grown a 2nd head and asked what I was talking about. I said that I'd be back from maternity leave in early June. She was still looking at me like I was crazy, and said, "But you can't work after you have the baby! You need to stay home and take care of your daughter". I asked her if she'd lost her mind and reminded her that she knows that my husband only works part time right now because he's in school. I asked just who she thought was going to pay my mortgage if I quit. She answered that it didn't matter, and if I was going to be have a baby, I needed to stay home and take care of her. Since this conversation, I've had the same conversation with at least 3 other people. I think it's crazy that they can't accept a working mother in 2013!
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Re: This isn't 1950!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
Wow! Can you believe people actually say stuff like that out loud?!?!? I have run into that a handful of times myself . . . And I sort of am in the same place as you. I make more than DH does - AND my company offers way better benefits, so I carry our health insurance, too. Of course I am going back to work after our son is born.
DH actually had to explain this to HIS boss, which was a crazy convo that I wish I had been able to hear. He even said that if anyone was staying home with the baby, it's going to be him!
Giod luck with everything after you go back to work . . . .if they're that quick to offer judgement and "advice" now, I'm sure you're going to get plenty more after your daughter arrives.
I wholeheartedly agree! The point is to have a CHOICE! I will probably be ready to go back to work too. I doubt I'm cut out to be a SAHM, but I'd be a killer houswife - how do I apply for THAT job?