I have been wanting to post this for about a week and finally have a free moment...curious, now that most or all of us are in the third tri...which was the best for doing the do, first, second or third?
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For me...first was scary, since I spotted, so we only did once or twice that tri. Second was better, but third is the best, even though I feel like a beast!
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I had crazy sex overdrive 1st trimester, but always felt sick and dizzy afterward from all the jostling. 2nd trimester the sick feeling went away but DH started to get a little weirded out by the expanding belly. Now that we're entering 3rd trimester, we're down to like once a week, and I'M the one that's scared of throwing myself into preterm labor because of nookie.
I'd have to say thrid so far. DH don't actually believe I was pregnant until the first trimester was over. Then I got put on pelvic rest in the second. I guess it's better for us now bc he feels like there is all that time to make up for lol.
Celebratory first tri sex was awesome. I didn't have many symptoms other than being tired, so we were able to get frisky often. Not too much lovin' second tri. So far third tri isn't being cooperative- It's not all that comfortable and we have yet to find something that really works. But the sex dreams are spectacular.
Our sex life has never really changed. Although this is #3 for us so that might play into it as well. Although DH's work schedule has changed slightly and I try to go to bed earlier (10 - 10:30) and get up with him in the morning so it seems like we are going for morning sex more often but I think that has to do with the schedule change and the kids are still sleeping.
Second tri has always been best for me. First tri I was sick, miserable and exhausted. Second tri I got my "second wind" and had lots of energy (in and out of the bedroom, hahaha!), and while I still desperately WANT to have sex with H, the back pain, insomnia, and feeling like the Pillsbury Doughboy are all serious mood killers.
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Haha...I love it! I would say early second trimester was when the most sex happened for me bc I was barely showing and I could still move around. Since then sex for me has been pretty rare, lol.
Up until about 20 weeks I had severe morning sickness so that was definitely not happening for us. I then had a short window where I felt ok and wasn't huge. Now that I'm so big it's really uncomfortable again so it's not happening often.
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This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
Our sex life has never really changed. Although this is 3 for us so that might play into it as well. Although DH's work schedule has changed slightly and I try to go to bed earlier 10 10:30 and get up with him in the morning so it seems like we are going for morning sex more often but I think that has to do with the schedule change and the kids are still sleeping. :
My kids don't sleep. I fall asleep putting DD2 to bed around 9pm. She wakes up at midnight to come sleep with us. She generally wakes up in the morning the second I get up and she's not physically touching me anymore. The last time I tried to have morning sex in the bathroom, I got interrupted by a toddler yelling Mommy, Mommy. I much prefer morning sex.
I did have great sex every day while DH and I took a cruise without kids. That was second trimester... 2 months ago, not that I'm counting.
Annalise Marie 05.29.06
Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
We had a lot of sex through most of the second trimester. It was great. Now I still have an extra high sex drive but I am once again totally exhausted by 8pm so we haven't been having much sex the last few weeks.
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
It's not strict when you are on pelvic rest. Having an orgasm causes your uterus to contract. Clearly her dr doesn't want that to happen.
Pregnancy has really drastically slowed down our sex life. First tri, we did it maybe twice, because we were both so scared of something bad happening (having had a previous early miscarriage). 2nd tri was maybe a little more... Third tri about the same, so far. I'm just not up to it, I've had horrible groin pain sice November.
BFP #1: 5/10/12; 5/22/12: pregnancy deemed not viable (probably CP)
BFP #2: 8/2/12; Due date: 4/14/13, DD born 4/5/2013
BFP #3: 11/2/14, Due date: 7/7/15
Yup. First tri we couldn't really because I had a baseball sized cyst on my ovary and OB said it was best not to until it disappeared. Second tri was back to normal. Fun times! Third has been a dry spell. I think we've had sex twice since November. It's not comfortable for me at all and the drive just isn't there. My husband's been good about it. Though he did very politely and cautiously ask the other day if we could try again soon.
First and third tri's for us. TMI alert, there a little to much goo in the second tri for either of our liking. I am still barely showing though, so position hasn't been an issue for us.
Well I've bn on bedrest and pelvic rest since 10 wks due to incompetent cervix and preterm labor. I got my preventative cerclarge at 10 wks since I had less than 1 cm of cervix left at the appt. I dream of the day my husband and I can be intimate again. I promised to ravish him. lol. It's terrible. I am so jealous of you guys.
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
It's not strict when you are on pelvic rest. Having an orgasm causes your uterus to contract. Clearly her dr doesn't want that to happen.
This. That's why it kills me when I hear my friends say they just don't have the "energy".
I'm sure if you went 3 months without being ALLOWED to show any type of affection to your husband, you would summon enough energy.
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
It's not strict when you are on pelvic rest. Having an orgasm causes your uterus to contract. Clearly her dr doesn't want that to happen.
This. That's why it kills me when I hear my friends say they just don't have the "energy".
I'm sure if you went 3 months without being ALLOWED to show any type of affection to your husband, you would summon enough energy.
That must be tough to actually not be allowed to engage in any type of intimate affection. I didn't realize that was a part of bed rest, sorry Jordan! I'll just pretend that being able to show him affection and er... snuggle... is still good?
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
It's not strict when you are on pelvic rest. Having an orgasm causes your uterus to contract. Clearly her dr doesn't want that to happen.
This. That's why it kills me when I hear my friends say they just don't have the "energy".
I'm sure if you went 3 months without being ALLOWED to show any type of affection to your husband, you would summon enough energy.
Girl, I feel your pain! Complete pelvic rest since 7 weeks here. DH has been amazing about it but man, I'd kill to get after it!
Definitely 3rd trimester. I don't feel fat anymore, I feel pregnant. In my second Trimester I gained 10 pounds. in the last month I have gained no weight and actually lost a pound. I am feeling really good right now and DH, well he is too.
Huge slowdown in the sex department right away when I got pregnant compared to our typical pre-preg routine (especially becasue we were TRYING to get pregnant, so it seems like we were doin' it a lot!) We had a couple of magical weeks in the second tri, and throughout first and second tri we were probably having sex about 1X / week... but the last two weeks he has been totally uninterested, and I'm trying to figure out whats' up with that - if he's weirded out about my changing belly, if he's nervous, if he's just trying to be nice and leave me alone...
On the TMI front -- um, my BOB (and I do not mean the stroller), and I have taken our relationship to a whole new level. Intense orgasms, which I believe are contributing to my wonderfully deep and restful sleep each night!
I feel you pain. I was put on pelvic rest at 13 weeks, taken off it at at 19 weeks, had sex once and such bad bleeding that I was right back put back on it. My doctor tried taking me off it once more around 24 weeks and the same thing happened again. Now I'm on pelvic rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. I'm definitely with the "What is sex?" crowd considering that I was only able to have it twice in the past 15 weeks.
First and second were both great, We were at it at least 4 to 5 times a week but now that I'm in the third tri and bigger its more like 2 to 3 times a week, my drive isn't quite the same!
DH and I have always had a healthy intimate life. Although in 2012 it suffered a lot, from a lot of things. Actually, getting pregnant with this LO was the first time we even had sex since our wedding even! in June 2012.
First trimester though, nothing, because of how I felt. In the later middle or later end of second trimester it heat up for a couple weeks here and there.
Third trimester intimacy... I'm 29 weeks today. The last 2 and a half weeks I am like a sex demon. We've been busy every day, sometimes even twice. We now laugh together because he will playfully tell me to .. Go Away, sometimes as a joke. Haha! What can I say.
Also hubby thinks my belly is adorable, especially with it being bigger and getting EVEN bigger every week. So there's never been any lesser attractive feelings towards me. I'm appreciative of that.
But unfortunately due to numerous personal reasons my hubby and I had to move in with my parents ... making it difficult. My bedroom is off the living room and they stay up soo late!! I feel like I am 18 again and trying to "be quiet..."
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Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
this exactly!
Haha...I love it! I would say early second trimester was when the most sex happened for me bc I was barely showing and I could still move around. Since then sex for me has been pretty rare, lol.
Up until about 20 weeks I had severe morning sickness so that was definitely not happening for us. I then had a short window where I felt ok and wasn't huge. Now that I'm so big it's really uncomfortable again so it's not happening often.
Yep, this.
This makes me sad. I've been on bedrest and a no sex rule since 19 weeks. Not even allowed to orgasm! That means I've went 13 weeks with NOTHING. Being told you're not allowed to be intimate with your husband is the worst feeling ever.
My kids don't sleep. I fall asleep putting DD2 to bed around 9pm. She wakes up at midnight to come sleep with us. She generally wakes up in the morning the second I get up and she's not physically touching me anymore. The last time I tried to have morning sex in the bathroom, I got interrupted by a toddler yelling Mommy, Mommy. I much prefer morning sex.
I did have great sex every day while DH and I took a cruise without kids. That was second trimester... 2 months ago, not that I'm counting.
Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
what is the harm in having an orgasm? That seems insanely strict!
It's not strict when you are on pelvic rest. Having an orgasm causes your uterus to contract. Clearly her dr doesn't want that to happen.
This exactly! I am massive and we have yet to find a "position" that works.
BFP #1: 5/10/12; 5/22/12: pregnancy deemed not viable (probably CP)
BFP #2: 8/2/12; Due date: 4/14/13, DD born 4/5/2013
BFP #3: 11/2/14, Due date: 7/7/15
Yup. First tri we couldn't really because I had a baseball sized cyst on my ovary and OB said it was best not to until it disappeared. Second tri was back to normal. Fun times! Third has been a dry spell. I think we've had sex twice since November. It's not comfortable for me at all and the drive just isn't there. My husband's been good about it. Though he did very politely and cautiously ask the other day if we could try again soon.
Gonna be TMI..
Third, although I was lucky with each tri and they were all great, but I can get back on top now and holy mother of god is that stimulating lol
This. That's why it kills me when I hear my friends say they just don't have the "energy".
I'm sure if you went 3 months without being ALLOWED to show any type of affection to your husband, you would summon enough energy.
1st BFP 10/2010.
Twins discovered @ 6wks.
Natural Miscarriage @ 11 wks, 01/2011.
2nd BFP 05/2011.
D & E Due to PPROM, 8/2011
3rd BFP 8/2012
Preventative Cerclage @ 14 weeks
???EDD APRIL 7, 2013 ???
It's A GIRL!! TEAM PINK!!
That must be tough to actually not be allowed to engage in any type of intimate affection. I didn't realize that was a part of bed rest, sorry Jordan! I'll just pretend that being able to show him affection and er... snuggle... is still good?
Girl, I feel your pain! Complete pelvic rest since 7 weeks here. DH has been amazing about it but man, I'd kill to get after it!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
Lololol
Huge slowdown in the sex department right away when I got pregnant compared to our typical pre-preg routine (especially becasue we were TRYING to get pregnant, so it seems like we were doin' it a lot!) We had a couple of magical weeks in the second tri, and throughout first and second tri we were probably having sex about 1X / week... but the last two weeks he has been totally uninterested, and I'm trying to figure out whats' up with that - if he's weirded out about my changing belly, if he's nervous, if he's just trying to be nice and leave me alone...
On the TMI front -- um, my BOB (and I do not mean the stroller), and I have taken our relationship to a whole new level. Intense orgasms, which I believe are contributing to my wonderfully deep and restful sleep each night!
We can't wait to meet our Blake Katherine!!
First trimester though, nothing, because of how I felt. In the later middle or later end of second trimester it heat up for a couple weeks here and there.
Third trimester intimacy... I'm 29 weeks today. The last 2 and a half weeks I am like a sex demon. We've been busy every day, sometimes even twice. We now laugh together because he will playfully tell me to .. Go Away, sometimes as a joke. Haha! What can I say.
Also hubby thinks my belly is adorable, especially with it being bigger and getting EVEN bigger every week. So there's never been any lesser attractive feelings towards me. I'm appreciative of that.
Third for me
But unfortunately due to numerous personal reasons my hubby and I had to move in with my parents ... making it difficult. My bedroom is off the living room and they stay up soo late!! I feel like I am 18 again and trying to "be quiet..."