Postpartum Depression
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dead inside...
my DD was born almost 1 month ago. and since her
birth, i've been feeling nothing. i had a very rough delivery
ending in an emergency c-section. while i was in the hospital, all the
drugs and hormones flooded my mind and i figured my not connecting with
DD was from that. now, i'm off the drugs, and nothing has changed. i
have spent many days crying b/c i feel like ive let her down, and let
everyone down. and, on top of all this, i developed an infection from
the c-section. during this time, my milk production decreased greatly
making me feel more like a failure to her. i tried to talk to my
husband about it, but he only took it as i'm depressed and i want to
harm my daughter, which isnt the case at all. i'm afraid of taking any
antidepressants b/c i dont really want to be reliant of them to be
happy. i'm hoping maybe talking it out with other people who are going
thru this will be helpful.
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Re: dead inside...
I also had bf issues but persevered. I guess what I'm trying to say is you definitely aren't alone. I posted something earlier you should read. Husbands don't get it. And it's frustrating. Maybe talk to your ob, you can't be a lost cause and medication can't always be a solution. Maybe talking to a therapist, work on how you can bond......it will happen. Just for you it may take a little work and that is normal. Don't feel defeated and don't feel alone. Good luck.
I went through PPD after my first child. I believe it was exacerbated by feelings of inadequacy (milk supply issues) and a miscarriage that occurred very shortly after my daughter's birth. I fought going on meds for a long time (over a year).
I finally gave in after I recognized the damage I was doing to my relationship with my husband. I decided that my family deserved the best version of me, and I was certainly not giving it to them.
It took a little time, but I started to feel like myself again. My doctor put me on them for six months, at which point, I was weaned off of them. I am so thankful that I did it.
Please get the help you need. You have nowhere to go but forward. Good luck. (hugs!)
What the fuking hell is wrong with you? You don't tell a woman who is depressed to give up her daughter. Honestly that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life. And she sounds unhappy? Well no ***, she very well may have PPD and that is not her fault at all, not something she can control. The fact that this woman is reaching out, the fact that he cares how she feels, that she wants a connection with her daughter means she does love her. And no one is perfect, we all have issues and thing we need to work though or on. Some of us will be working through issues for the rest of our lives, it doesn't mean we don't deserve to have a child to love. You're ignorant. Seriously ignorant and I hope the op ignores what you have said.
OP talk to your doctor. Taking something is not a bad thing and you won't become dependent. I am planning in talking to my doctor as well soon. I hope that you are able to find happiness and that you find that bound with your daughter that you want and deserve.
My point of view for this statement: If I were anemic (i.e. my body wasn't producing enough iron on it's own) I would take a supplement to give myself what my body needs. I am depressed. My body doesn't produce enough serotonin. My medication is a supplement so I can get the serotonin. I think of it like a vitamin. Like how I take prenatal vitamins so I can take care of my daughter--I take my Prozac so I can take care of my daughter.
DID YOU SEVERELY MISREAD HER POST???
In what way does she sound like she has tons of personal problems???? That is reallyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy assuming a lot.
There is NOTHING in her post that is a red alarm for you to "truely believe her case is different."
If this is the junk people on this site are spewing these days, then no, she hasn't come to the right place. Wow.
ANYWAY-
Original poster- You are feeling the way a lot of women feel. A lot of us feel like we haven't met expectations after birth, whether it's for the baby, our husbands and significant others, or just ourselves. Talk to a doctor. Either your Ob/Gyn, or even your primary care if that is more comfortable for you. They can collaborate and try to steer you in the right direction.
You are NOT alone. And there are people out there (and here) who understand you and will help you through this.