February 2012 Moms
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hours DH/SO works (stolen from wm board)?
Sept07b2b
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So there was a post on the WM board about how many hours your DH/SO works per week. I have to say I was truly amazed at the responses. So many people have SOs that work 60+ hours/week. What about for you guys? And if they work 60+ hours/week do they get to see your LOs?
ETA: My DH works about 40 hrs/week, but he works from home, so he has no commute. We're very lucky with the flexibility that allows.
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Re: hours DH/SO works (stolen from wm board)?
My DH is contracted to work a minimum of 48hrs a week, but in reality, he works a minimum of 55hrs a week and has worked as many as 130hrs a week at one time. I would say he works 60hrs a week on average.
He usually sees DS for at least an hour in the morning, sometimes two. He doesn't see DS again before he goes to bed for the night. He also sees him all day on his two days off.
I was blown away as well! I was also shocked at how many moms work only 40 hours. I would love to match up the moms and the partner responses to see if there are any couples that both work tons or both work 40...and I would love to know some of the industries/roles.
DH here travels at least 3 weeks a month and works 60-80 hours a week. Every Sunday he works for a couple of hours because so much comes in over the weekends. He used to work a few hours on Saturday too - but he is cutting back as the difference in his rating/bonus is 0 between working 10 hours on a weekend and working 2 hours on a weekend.
It's a lesson I had to learn, too.
I think DH and I both work 50-60 hours a week. We minimize daytime hours and alternate schedules (I go in early and he stays with her in the a.m. and then I pick her up early and he comes home a little late. We jump back online to work in the evenings, work during naps and do some work on weekends. Overall though she has a pretty great schedule with short hours at daycare since we are able to cover for each other.
Yes!! Me too!!!
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This makes a lot of sense to me. I imagine staggering work days works really well for a lot of families. I hadn't thought of that option.
btw- do you mind me asking what you guys do for a living?
Edit. He tries to be home at 530 every night to spend an hr and a half with Grey. Weekends he also tries to play with Grey and spend the time Grey isn't napping together. It's a hard balancing act but R really tries to get in as much time a he can
H does 50-60 hours a week, all on the weekdays. He leaves before DD is up, and sees her for maybe an hour - 90 mins at night. Weekends he is all ours.
I work 40 hours, but have a 30-45 minute commute.
Now I'm going to have to check out that thread!
DH works between 50-55 hours a week. On Tues/Thurs he works 2 jobs and is gone until 10:30-11pm. He doesn't see DD except for about 15 min when he stops by to grab something to eat on the way to job #2. MWF he sees her for about 2 hours. Most mornings she is up when I am and I take her to daycare and I am off earlier than he is so I pick her up from daycare.
I work 40 hours but I work 7-3:30 so I have a lot of evening time with DD.
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DH is a teacher, so I'm not sure. School hours are 8:30-4:30.
ETA: I forgot my own hours. I work 32-34 hours a week. I work Monday-Thursday.
M to Th he leaves with us at 7:30 am, and comes home at about 9 pm. He gets Lucia when she wakes at 6:30 and spends that hour with her. On Fridays he cones home by 6ish at the latest so he eats dinner with us. On good weekends he goes to study for only 4 to 5 hrs per day. On bad weekends it is about 10 hrs per day. We are both ready for his svhedule to lighten up!
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Most weeks DH works between 45-55 hours per week. He is DOTD regulated so he can't work more than 60 thankfully. He sees Skyler every morning and he drops her off at daycare at 8am, but most days he isn't home before 8pm. During the slow time of year between February and July he can sometimes get home as early as 6:30, but it is rare. Every now and then he will get off at 7 and he makes it home to see Skyler for a few minutes before she goes to bed at 7:30.
I wish I could keep her up until 8 or 8:30 to see him, but if she goes to bed past 7:45 she wakes up multiple times per night. The good thing is that he has weekends off and we usually spend most weekends attached at the hip as a family. During football season he does watch the Saints game with his work buddies and he goes fishing and hunting occasionally but usually it's the three of us all weekend long.
My work week is 35 hours so it helps that I am not working as much as him and dealing with LO by myself every evening.
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What is your DH in school for? I always hear you talk about him being in school and I always wondered what he was studying. Sorry if you've mentioned it before.
I am amazed that so many of you tolerate working such long hours! I have never had a job that required me to work more than 8 hour days. Sure, I could have stayed late or gone in early but why? The work will still be there tomorrow. I make a point every.single.day. of leaving by 4:00 (I start at 7:30). If something is urgent I will stay but that is very much the exception - not the rule.
Maybe I'm lucky? But it helps that I have no desire to "climb the ladder" at work. I work to live, not live to work. I would rather spend my time at home than trying to "catch up" or "get ahead" of my work. Like I said, it will still be there tomorrow.
DH works 41.5 hours a week. He only works OT if no one else will take it, but he always tells the other guys if they want it they can have it. I can't imagine him volunteering for OT because it means time away from his family.
When it comes down to it, time with us is more important than money.
I am NOT saying you all don't feel the same way so put the flame guns away...I'm just saying how it is in my house. 60 hour weeks are unheard of (even when you count my hour each way commute!).
I, too, am very curious about this! Especially since I think you mentioned he'd have to do grad school after he finishes his current degree.
I work around 15 hours a week but I commute over an hour each way.
H and I both work from home so we don't have commute time unless you count me taking the boys in and picking them up. H starts work about 7am while I take the boys and start work by 9am and we eat at home while we work so maybe 30 mins for lunch. I leave to pick up the kids around 4:45 and H usually works until 3:30 and then he goes to help his dad for awhile. So H works about 8 hours a day and I work 7 1/2 give or take. But we do work on weekends as well and sometimes in the evenings when I get back from picking up the boys I do more.
I'd say we work about 45 hours each per week, more or less depending on where we are in our project. When H travels, he works more because there is no reason to stop early in the day and he would rather get it done asap and get home. So those times he works probably 50 or more hours. We are day rate contract workers, so hourly time doesn't count. We have a set amount of time to complete a project and they don't care if we work a week straight and take off a week - as long as it is in their hands when the deadline hits. So we can take off a week as long as we bust our butts the week before/after.
DH's schedule goes from one extreme to the other. When he is working in the home office, he cannot go over 40 hours. He could work less as long as he completes all of his work. When he is out on a job, he will work anywhere from 50-84 hours. It depends on how time-sensitive the job is, how much work there is to do and how many other guys are working with him. The average is about 60-66 hours when he is on a job. He's out on a job over 50% of the time. He's only in the office in between jobs, so that usually only lasts a week or two. So, more often than not he is working 60 hours, as well as commuting, and he also travels frequently.
I work about 10 hours a week and it's pretty much just for fun. I'll be quitting before LO #2 gets here and probably won't return.
Also, my DH has no choice but to work OT. That is great for you ladies who don't have to work overtime, and whose H's don't have to, but some people do not have a choice. It's not just about getting ahead, choosing work over family or anything like that. My DH literally would not be able to work in this field if he refused OT. Also, that OT is basically the reason I get to SAH for the most part. I don't want to put it all on my DH, and have gone back and forth with my own feelings on that quite a bit. But, because of his travel, I can't work FT and PT wil not pay for child care for two LO's. So, OT is necessary for DH to have a job and for our family. It sucks, but some people just aren't so lucky that they can work 40 hours and that's it. No snark, just trying to explain that it's not always by choice.
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I'd say my husband logs 60 hours a week at the office and another 20-30 at home. He sees L for 1.5 hours in the morning during the week. That's it Mon-Thurs, although we do meet him for lunch sometimes. On Fridays, he is home in time for her bath and bedtime routine, and then he is home on the weekends. It is a lot during the work week but he very rarely works on the weekends which I am very thankful for.
We are both attorneys and I've previously held a job that demanded a high number of billable hours, so I understand the demands of his job. While it makes for long days, he loves his job and colleagues (I don't know many other attorneys at big firms who can say the same thing) and the pay is lucrative.
DH works about 60-70 hours a week. On the days he works he sees Emily before work and after work for about an hour. He works 4-5 days a week only. His days off alternate.
He actually spends more time with her than I do, I work about 50 hours a week. He stays home with her at least 2 days a week but usually about 3-4 days a week he is home with her. I feel like he gets more quality time with her where as I get rushed around getting her ready to leave, giving bath, feeding...time with her.