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I just called my friend to RSVP to the baby shower she is throwing herself for her second baby
An absolute smorgasbord of tacky to begin with, but it gets better
I asked her if she had registered, and she said "no, I'm only accepting gift cards"
um
She isn't from this country, so I had kind of chalked it all up to her being foreign.... until this last conversation. She is a good friend, and I will go to her shower (and give her the outfits I had already picked out and would give her shower or not) but I just needed to share this. I just don't even know. I just don't
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Re: Tacky friend
She's only accepting gift cards? As in, she'll reject other gifts?
Wow.
Well, I assume we'd also be able to bring cash
I am giving her the outfits I already purchased, so we'll see if I'm allowed in the door!
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
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Exact words.
I was just making conversation by asking if she had registered because I already picked up a few outfits for her, and I'm not planning on buying anything else.
She went on to add that she preferred Target or Baby's R Us, but that Buy Buy Baby would be nice too.
I'm genuinely horrified that this conversation occurred. The throwing your own second shower thing is super duper tacky but whatever.
I just didn't know what to say to her
I would question a friendship with this person. Seriously.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
I agree with you guys. I swear though, this whole baby shower thing is the first time I've ever seen a side of her like this
We became friends at a lactation meeting when our LO's were babies and hang out about 2x month. Our kids are friends and our husbands have also become friendly. Sometimes we all go out to dinner
She's not my best friend or anything, but she is a friend. This has me questioning her character though
What would you do? Would you do or say something? I already technically RSVP'd
Is she thinking that if she doesn't register she'll only get gift cards? Maybe that's why she made the comment...?
IDK what you could say to her without offending her. (Rude people are always so easy to offend.)
I would either:
A. Go and bring the gift you already bought.
B. Decline and give her the gifts when you see her after the baby is here.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
Yeah--super tacky.
But here's the thing I've learned fairly recently: A lot of peeps didn't grow up with any sort of etiquette drilled into them. Because of this, they do what they want and whatever sounds like fun.
So, I've been to second showers, and I've been to showers hosted by the MTB. I've been because it would have been socially more awkward for me *not* to have gone to those particular showers.
I honestly just don't think people really think before they plan things, "Will this be tacky/rude/gift-grabby?" They just do what they want and what works for them.
Well this is over the top. Why would it be a good idea to trash a friendship because your friend seems to not know American shower etiquette? It is far more "tacky" to be the one who will only socialize with people exactly like herself.
Just go, and bring the gifts you already have. Just remember that's she's pregnant! So she's probably a little hormonal and will be more blunt at times. You already know she's a good person from all the other times you've hung out. Give her the benefit of the doubt...I know that I can be EXTREMELY blunt when I'm pregnant!
Have a good time at the party and think of it as just that: a party to celebrate her and her family.
I could see someone also telling her that putting registry/gift info on the invite wasn't okay, but that it's alright to tell people what you want if they ask. Add on that some things don't translate well, such as her choice of "accepting," and I can totally see it.