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When you get your BFP...

What is the order of people you will tell and at how many weeks?

I am horrible at keeping secrets so this will be tough but I will swear DH to secrecy until at LEAST 12 weeks! After that my parents and family abroad, then his parents and then the rest of his ginormous family!

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  • I'll tell family probably around 7 weeks. Close friends I'll tell a little after that. I'll tell others after 12 weeks.


  • It is going to be seriously hard to keep a secret for that long! I think I will tell my sister when I find out (and swear her to secrecy), just so I have told SOMEONE. Everyone else will probably be told after the 12 week mark, though I am sure I will potentially slip!

    I refused to buy anything for a baby until there is one though...makes me nervous to think of a baby item staring at me when I have no baby!


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  • DH of course then my parents and in laws.
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  • We'll tell my parents and inlaws right away.  They are people I am ok with knowing and will want the support from if I miscarry.  Extended family after the first U/S and the Facebook world after 1st Tri ends.
  • Telling DH right away obviously. Then as soon as he knows, I'm going to tell my best friend who has been waiting for 6 years for me to have a baby haha. We will probably tell our parents after the first appointment (8 weeks?) and then wait until 12 weeks for everyone else.
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  • I just got my BFP this AM, will double-check with a digi this evening.

    I think "when to tell" is a personal decision.  The rate of MC goes way down after 1st tri, so a lot of people wait until then.  I believe the rate is also lowered after you hear the HB.  However, anything can happen, so I'm not sure that any time is "safe".

    The biggest thing for me is waiting until after 1st tri to tell "the world" and to also wait until after that time to tell anyone who may "spill the beans", i.e. my MIL!  My plan is to call (probably tomorrow) the OB/GYN that I want to be my Dr. and see when they would want to see me.  If it's soon, then I may wait to tell anyone but DH.  If it's not until 8-10 weeks (normal), I may not be able to hold out telling my mom and possibly my BF.  Also, my BF is on "baby watch" with me and makes me drink some sort of alcohol when she comes home (she lives about 3 hours away).  So, if she comes home anytime soon, I'll probably have to spill the beans.

    With the timing, April Fool's Day is exactly 14 weeks for me.  I may tell anyone that we want to tell in person/via phone the weekend before that and then do a facebook announcement on April Fool's Day - keep everyone guessing!

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    What is the order of people you will tell and at how many weeks?

    I am horrible at keeping secrets so this will be tough but I will swear DH to secrecy until at LEAST 12 weeks! After that my parents and family abroad, then his parents and then the rest of his ginormous family!

    Confession: DH is a huge Miami Dolphins fan so I ordered an infant size Dolphins bodysuit to keep on standby for when the day comes to suprise DH with the news!

    I'm a fan too! DH isn't really into football but it will be so cute to get a onesie once I get that BFP.

    I'll tell immediate family at 8 weeks and friends at 12weeks.

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    It is going to be seriously hard to keep a secret for that long! I think I will tell my sister when I find out (and swear her to secrecy), just so I have told SOMEONE. Everyone else will probably be told after the 12 week mark, though I am sure I will potentially slip!

    I refused to buy anything for a baby until there is one though...makes me nervous to think of a baby item staring at me when I have no baby!

    I know what you mean, this crossed my mind too but I gave in since I know this is how I want to tell him and I don't want to wait 5 days for shipping lol.

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  • I will tell my DH right away. He will be forced to look at the pee stick.

    Last time we told parents, siblings, and a good friend around 6 weeks. This was earlier than I wanted, but I was going to be in the friends wedding and I wanted to let her know asap since she was picking dresses. I figured I needed to tell our parents first, so we did.

    We told grandparents at 12 weeks after the NT scan results came out. And we let our parents tell everyone else.

    I told work around 13 weeks.

    I'll probably follow a similar schedule. My parents are out of state and visiting around Easter. I'd love to tell them in person, so if I get pregnant that will play a part.

    I'm switching jobs at the end of May (same company) and would prefer not to tell work before I move. If I get pregnant this month, then that would make me around 16 weeks.


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  • imageatcwag:

    I just got my BFP this AM, will double-check with a digi this evening.

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  • Will probably tell parents around 8 weeks.  Which inevitably means gossip and all the families finding out (especially DH's family) which inevitably means the whole world finds out.  That's the worst part and my only hesitation with telling families at 8 weeks.  But I know my parents would be ticked off if I didn't tell them.  Fine balance.  Although when I was pregnant in 2012 I didn't feel the need to tell anybody at all except DH, our families still don't know about our loss. 

    With regards to friends, sometime after that unless they highly suspect it from my actions. 

    Anybody at work, they can play a guessing game with me, I don't feel the need to make that kind of announcement. 

    Facebook - wall is already private so no worries there.

     

    We are pretty private. 

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  • Obviously, H right away. We might tell his parents and my dad when we hear a HB. We will tell everyone else, including my mom sometime after 1st Tri.

    I just want to put this out there: having to untell people is the worst experience in the world. I always used to say that I wanted to tell people early in case we had a loss and I wanted/needed support. Well, I've gotten the most support from people I had to tell or found out by accident. My boss, my friends from work, and a few IRL friends who knew about our first pregnancy have been the most amazing support to me. My mother, on the other hand, has a been a burden and is the least supportive of anyone. I thought she would be amazing and she has been the furthest from that. Hence the reason she'll know with everyone else next time.  

    If we even put it on FB, it'll be 20 weeks+. 


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  • imageatcwag:

    I just got my BFP this AM, will double-check with a digi this evening.

    I think "when to tell" is a personal decision.  The rate of MC goes way down after 1st tri, so a lot of people wait until then.  I believe the rate is also lowered after you hear the HB.  However, anything can happen, so I'm not sure that any time is "safe".

    The biggest thing for me is waiting until after 1st tri to tell "the world" and to also wait until after that time to tell anyone who may "spill the beans", i.e. my MIL!  My plan is to call (probably tomorrow) the OB/GYN that I want to be my Dr. and see when they would want to see me.  If it's soon, then I may wait to tell anyone but DH.  If it's not until 8-10 weeks (normal), I may not be able to hold out telling my mom and possibly my BF.  Also, my BF is on "baby watch" with me and makes me drink some sort of alcohol when she comes home (she lives about 3 hours away).  So, if she comes home anytime soon, I'll probably have to spill the beans.

    With the timing, April Fool's Day is exactly 14 weeks for me.  I may tell anyone that we want to tell in person/via phone the weekend before that and then do a facebook announcement on April Fool's Day - keep everyone guessing!

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  • Well, definitely DH right away. Don't think I'll even be able to hold out long enough to do something cute. Probably the best friend right away as well. No one else until after the first u/s. I'm a private person. Almost no one knows that we are TTC.
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  • Right Away: DH, My Mom, My Grandpa and 2 Best Friends...These are the people I'm closest to and I'm around a LOT. I get HORRIBLE all day sickness pretty early in my pregnancies so it'd be super hard to keep it from them...

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  • I'm probably going to have issues when it comes because I'll want to do cartwheels down the middle of the road.  I'll tell my sister right away-she's away at college so I don't have to worry about it slipping-and she's my bestie.  I'm mostly worried about telling my mom before 12 weeks because she CAN NOT keep her mouth shut about ANYTHING.  And I don't want anything shared with anyone until 12 weeks, I think.  I agree about FB-that announcement will never be made, but I'm sure someone will wind up spilling the beans for me.

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  • I think dh and I will find out together.  I imagine we would tell our parents and siblings around 8 weeks, grandparents and close friends around 12, and then facebook people closer to when we find out the gender. 
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  • When we had our CP, we told our 2 closest friends (the only ones who know we are TTC) right away. They'd see right through us if we tried to hide it. As for our parents, not until after 1st u/s because I want to have the picture to give them. Everyone else will find out after 1st tri.
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  • DH will find out when I do and then we plan on keeping it quiet until at least 12 weeks.  I may tell my best friend, she's a doula and I plan on utilizing her throughout my whole pregnancy, and she's the only person that knows we're trying. 
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    I just got my BFP this AM, will double-check with a digi this evening.

    I think "when to tell" is a personal decision.  The rate of MC goes way down after 1st tri, so a lot of people wait until then.  I believe the rate is also lowered after you hear the HB.  However, anything can happen, so I'm not sure that any time is "safe".

    The biggest thing for me is waiting until after 1st tri to tell "the world" and to also wait until after that time to tell anyone who may "spill the beans", i.e. my MIL!  My plan is to call (probably tomorrow) the OB/GYN that I want to be my Dr. and see when they would want to see me.  If it's soon, then I may wait to tell anyone but DH.  If it's not until 8-10 weeks (normal), I may not be able to hold out telling my mom and possibly my BF.  Also, my BF is on "baby watch" with me and makes me drink some sort of alcohol when she comes home (she lives about 3 hours away).  So, if she comes home anytime soon, I'll probably have to spill the beans.

    With the timing, April Fool's Day is exactly 14 weeks for me.  I may tell anyone that we want to tell in person/via phone the weekend before that and then do a facebook announcement on April Fool's Day - keep everyone guessing!

    I was lurking on 1st-Tri and saw your BFP post. Congrats!! 

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  • I will tell DH right away obviously. Then it depends on when we get pregnant when we tell our parents but they will be next. I would like to tell them in person in a cute way so if it is around a holiday or occasion that will be easiest.

    At around 8 weeks I will tell my best and closest friends and the rest of the world after 12 weeks.

    I have to tell this annoying story about my cousin and how they told about their second. They told us they were going to start trying for another one starting last March. On March 25th I saw a Facebook post of her pee stick. Not only is this their second child that they conceived on the first try but their immediate family had to hear it ON FACEBOOK, BEFORE confirmed by a blood test at the doctor, and they didn't even call the family members who don't have Facebook...

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  • We will definitely tell our parents right away.  We will need that support from them after having gone through a M/C recently.  We won't tell anyone else until we've reached 12 weeks.  Even then, I'm still iffy.
  • My DH will definitely be first. Then I will tell my mom, step dad and sisters right away. FIL will find out special. He loves kids and doesn't have any grand children yet. He was diagnosed with bone cancer last year but since it's in early stages they don't have treatment for it until it progesses. He wants grand children really bad and thinks it will be years before he sees his first. So that makes me most excited. Of course MIL and SIL will find out right away too but friends and co workers won't find out until at least 12 weeks.

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  • With DS --> DH right away, close friends around 7-9 weeks, my parents at 10 weeks, his at 12 and the world right after.  We wanted to wait to tell parents in person and had trips planned which is why they found out after close friends.  Since first tri was so awful for me (from being told I did miscarry then bleeding for the remaining 5 weeks without an answer as to why) I needed support at work and from my other close friends.  (I broke into tears pretty much 5 times a day for 5 weeks so...)

     This time around, depending on the circumstances, I'll most likely keep it to myself and DH for a bit, then parents around 10 weeks, then friends at 12 weeks.  Although, it will most likely slip to a few friends before.

                  
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  • DH will be the first person I tell.  Then I will probably tell my internet friends since they don't know my IRL friends and family and are smart enough to not blow up my FB page.  Not sure when I plan to tell other people including family.  I don't really put much on my FB page.  My DH is the FB whore in our family.  He will probably announce on FB after 12 weeks or so. 

    We told close friends and family at 10 weeks with DS and by 12 weeks I think pretty much everybody knew.

  • We will likely do what we did with DD -- tell our parents/BIL right away, tell my best friend and maybe a few other really close friends after we have the confirmation appt. with my OB around 7-8 weeks, and everyone else (ie, extended family, DH's coworkers, neighbors, etc.) after we hit the 12 week mark. I didn't do an "announcement" on FB till after our 20 week a/s and we found out she was a girl -- will definitely wait that long to do that again too. I wouldn't mind keeping it a secret from everyone except immediate family till 12 weeks, but my best friends are really nosy/observant, and will probably figure it out if we got together before that point.
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  • DH will know right away -- I can't imagine sitting on the news!  For DD, we kept the news to ourselves for a couple weeks before telling parents and siblings, and I enjoyed just sharing it with DH in that time. 

    I told work around 14 weeks when I started to show (DH told his work around 8-9 weeks, sigh), and most of the world found out around 22 weeks when a friend posted a pic of me on fb pregnant.  I think keeping it a secret is easier when your first tri isn't so bad -- my SIL was sick from the start, and there was no way she could hide it from work without them thinking something else was seriously wrong.

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  • I would like to try and surprise my DH somehow within the day I get a BFP, but he has been constantly asking about charting/testing etc. so I may not get to surprise him.  I think I would like to tell the immediate families all together (we have G2Gs both sides fairly often) so whenever that first G2G will be probably 4-8 wks.

     

    Edit - I will have to let work know fairly early just due to the nature of my job and need to avoid possible exposure to hazardous chemicals, etc.  

  • With my first I told my H right away as well as my mom (I think she ended up telling my dad).  We waited a few more weeks and told my sisters, his parents and siblings.  I also told two close friends at about 8-9 weeks.  We didn't tell everyone else until after we had the NT scan around 12ish weeks.  I think I will probably end up doing the same this time around.
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  • Unfortunately, at my job I will have to tell the people I work with right away. I work with animals and we do a lot of xrays and such, so they have to know asap that I can't help with certain things. It kinda sucks because if you have a m/c, everyone knows. I will tell my immediate family and In-laws between 6-8 weeks, depending on how everything is going. DH will know right away Wink. I will probably tell my extended family after 12 weeks.
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  • Both sets of parents, siblings and my 2 besties right away. My boss at 8 weeks when we see the heartbeat. then everyone else at 12 weeks.
  • I have been on the fence about this. I was team right away until one of our friends recently had a MC, she had just told everyone then had to untell.
    But DH and my SIL will know right away. Other than that I'm not too sure when we will tell our families.
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  • Well DH and I waited until 8 weeks to tell just our parents - we didn't want to tell others (including siblings)until 12 weeks.  Of course there were leaks (on FB) which really hurt my feelings - I didn't want to share with FB at all - and certainly not before US/heartbeat etc.  And friends found out before I told them and got upset etc. etc. it was terrible!  I'm still mad about that!

    This time around I think we will keep it a secret from everyone as long as we can - I'm sure fat rumours will start earlier because apparently with your 2nd you show faster.  There is something special about just having a secret between you and DH - in the end everyone will know - but at first it's really fun!

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  • Definitely tell DH immediately. I would like to wait until after 12 weeks to tell others but I know I won't be able to keep it a secret that long. My job may know before many people. I'm a cashier at a grocery store so they'll need to know/figure it out if I deal with MS. Same with my mom and dad. They'd figure it out pretty quick because I'm never sick so I can't make stuff up about having a stomach bug every time I see them.

    But I won't go FB official until after first tri is over for sure.

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  • I think I will tell my sister & her husband pretty much right away, or a couple days after the BFP. Possibly two close friends 2 weeks later. Everyone else, once first tri hits.

    I'm torn between the idea of a cute FB announcement and just never saying anything at all on there. I guess I'll have to see when the time comes.  

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  • I'd like to say we'll go:
    - DH - will find out as soon as the test shows up positive
    - family and friends who are close enough to know we are trying: after the first appointment (6-8 weeks, I believe)
    - extended family and friends: 12 weeks
    - facebook: probably as soon as all extended family and friends we want to tell in person know...

     What will most likely happen, since DH and I both suck at keeping secrets:
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  • imageatcwag:

    I just got my BFP this AM, will double-check with a digi this evening.

    I think "when to tell" is a personal decision.  The rate of MC goes way down after 1st tri, so a lot of people wait until then.  I believe the rate is also lowered after you hear the HB.  However, anything can happen, so I'm not sure that any time is "safe".

    The biggest thing for me is waiting until after 1st tri to tell "the world" and to also wait until after that time to tell anyone who may "spill the beans", i.e. my MIL!  My plan is to call (probably tomorrow) the OB/GYN that I want to be my Dr. and see when they would want to see me.  If it's soon, then I may wait to tell anyone but DH.  If it's not until 8-10 weeks (normal), I may not be able to hold out telling my mom and possibly my BF.  Also, my BF is on "baby watch" with me and makes me drink some sort of alcohol when she comes home (she lives about 3 hours away).  So, if she comes home anytime soon, I'll probably have to spill the beans.

    With the timing, April Fool's Day is exactly 14 weeks for me.  I may tell anyone that we want to tell in person/via phone the weekend before that and then do a facebook announcement on April Fool's Day - keep everyone guessing!

    Congrats, and I love your April Fools plan!

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  • imagebornmommy:

    With DS --> DH right away, close friends around 7-9 weeks, my parents at 10 weeks, his at 12 and the world right after.  We wanted to wait to tell parents in person and had trips planned which is why they found out after close friends.  Since first tri was so awful for me (from being told I did miscarry then bleeding for the remaining 5 weeks without an answer as to why) I needed support at work and from my other close friends.  (I broke into tears pretty much 5 times a day for 5 weeks so...)

     This time around, depending on the circumstances, I'll most likely keep it to myself and DH for a bit, then parents around 10 weeks, then friends at 12 weeks.  Although, it will most likely slip to a few friends before.

    The support @ work thing is a big consideration for me. I've had many friends MC, some that have told people early on, and some that waited. I've heard pros and cons for both sides. I'm guessing it would be hard for me to keep it a secret at work, because I work in a small office with almost all women. We talk a LOT...

    I'm sorry for your loss, btw

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  • We will tell our parents at 6 weeks. 

    With DD we waited until 13 weeks to tell.  I was sick with her and had to make excuses as to why I didn't feel like doing anything.  We like to take DD to visit the grandparents a few times a month, so I won't be able to hide it.  I am such a baby when my stomach is upset. 

    We will tell siblings at 12 weeks and then friends sometime after that.




    Anna Catherine 7/23/2012, 35 weeks 5 days, 5 lbs 5 oz (PProm)

    Baby Sam 10/4/2013, 36 weeks 2 days, 5 lbs 14 oz

     

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