2nd Trimester
Riddle me this, sexually expressive mothers?
So, riddle me this? Why is it SO TABOO that a mother or a mother-to-be is sexual and LIKES it? I like sexy get up and even delve a little into the fetish world (nothing gross or violent). I just feel like...esp now that I'm pregnant...that I get pushed to play the quiet church going lady who runs to the PTA and wears khaki pants and mom type blouses.
That's not me. Never has been. It NEVER will be. I enjoy the dark corners of our world, the scary, the unknown, the weird, whatever you want to call it. I have a college degree, I love my unborn child, I'm not going to raise my son to be perverted or a rapist or a sex fiend, I understand and get the difference between a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets. But, why is it I can't even TALK about fetish boots or a corset or sex positions or ask questions that go a little further than...we only do missionary? It's not fair, and it's an unjust judgement to think that because I won't dress, talk, attend church or do other "matronly" activities that I take my son, family, or friends and less sincere or serious than any other mom would.
That's not me. Never has been. It NEVER will be. I enjoy the dark corners of our world, the scary, the unknown, the weird, whatever you want to call it. I have a college degree, I love my unborn child, I'm not going to raise my son to be perverted or a rapist or a sex fiend, I understand and get the difference between a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets. But, why is it I can't even TALK about fetish boots or a corset or sex positions or ask questions that go a little further than...we only do missionary? It's not fair, and it's an unjust judgement to think that because I won't dress, talk, attend church or do other "matronly" activities that I take my son, family, or friends and less sincere or serious than any other mom would.
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Re: Riddle me this, sexually expressive mothers?
I don't think I understand the question. I've never had this issue, with being expected to be the "good girl" or a prude. I mean...I'm pregnant: It happened somehow! lol
So if you are getting this kind of treatment...I'm sorry. Don't feel like you have to be someone else just because you are pregnant or you have a kid.
Just wait until your kid is 2 and repeating all kinds of random shiit, or a little older and telling kids and teachers at school abou tit. Then you'll understand why people modify their behavior for their children's sake. If it doesn't bother you, then say and do what you want.
I personally don't think babies, toddlers or young children need to know ANYTHING about sex, much less the specific positions and fetishes of his/her parents.
**looks around**
who are you talking to?
Yay! for healthy experimental sex
Huh? for this post.
are you speaking of something/someone specific? Like a previous post or a person IRL?
And also, this.
All of this,
Stop telling people your business. They can't judge what they don't know about.
And maybe you know this, maybe you don't.... you're a stranger so I don't know.... but kids should NOT be exposed to sexual behaviors, language, etc. Their minds can't process it and it damages them.
Why on earth are you talking about your sex life with anyone who you're not sleeping with or wanting to sleep with, let alone people who are going to judge you for it? I'm not saying you have to dress like a soccer mom, but it's really no one else's business how you Do It, and you really shouldn't be making it anyone's business by talking about it. Your sex life isn't anything to be ashamed about, but certain things should be kept private.
You'll probably find a lot of kindred spirits on the Offbeatmama.com website. There are of plenty of women on there who are non-traditional in various ways, including sexuality.
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I know, OP! I'm with you. Why just this weekend I attempted to have a detailed and frank conversation with the teller at Rite Aid about whether she thinks rechargable AA batteries are suitable for my vibrator, and she looked aghast. I was just concerned about whether the housing on such devices would be able to accomodate the slightly larger size of the rechargeable. Also, would the output of energy be different? Would my trusty battery-operated-boyfriend be as consistently good? By the time I pulled my vibrator out of my bag to see whether the batteries would fit, she had called security.
I just do not understand why people don't appreciate my open expressions of sexuality.
FTW.
This, I'm so confused.
win.
OP, no one cares as much about your kinky bedroom antics as much as you do. You are not the center of the universe.
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OMG thank you! I was just thinking about this today. I remember this from when I was in the 2nd tri. I felt like, as soon as your bump starts to show its all "oh its mom blouses for you now" and checkout ladies asking me if I'm shopping for a friends bachelorette party? I'm like hey *** just because I have a bump doesn't mean this jumbo box o' vibrators, ball gag, whip and crotchless panties aren't for me. Gawd it really made me mad and I thought I was alone but I'm so glad to read this.
google offered me this when I searched 'mom blouse'. now THIS is the kind of mom blouse I could get on board with!
In the end I just cut up a few of my work shirts to create this effect. I know they were itching to say something, but I was like - go on, I dare you. Dying to call discrimination on their asses and/or tell them about bedroom stuff. Not sure which they were more afraid of!
Did I miss something?
I can't do missionary position with this big belly.
WAIT A MINUTE. I think everyone missed the most shocking hing in this posrt
...You can wear a Corset at 24 weeks?
Cause I cant wear Ts that arent from Mens or Maternity.
I don't know about you, but this is one of my strategies for having an extra small cute newborn. I figure if I can cut off most of the blood and oxygen to my ute, there's a good chance I'll have a mini baby.
Little Babies are SO Cute...and they slide right out of a "non blouse" wearing vag. Good plan.
I am sitting here CRACKING THE F UP over the pug gif in your siggy.
I want to take it with me wherever I go.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
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That mom's ass on the end is fuckking hot.
I am laughing so hard right now.
OMG! Tears. Rolling. Down. My. Cheeks.
All of this.
I enjoy getting freaky on/under the sheets with MF but we keep it to ourselves. Majority of people just like to keep things private, just because you are having a baby doesn't mean you have to dress like a "prude" or a "good girl".
I also with second PP, when you have a 2 year old who repeats everything they hear maybe then you will clean up how much info you are willing to share.
Yyyyyeah, that part kind of threw me, too.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.