August 2013 Moms
Jomojack2
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Wayyyyy early
Jomojack2
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But the planner in me is coming out. I have been thinking of what we would need for the new baby. Not too much if its a girl but a few more things if its a boy. I know people will ask what we need so is it bad manners to do a registry even though its my second? I don't think it will be too necessary if it is a girl but definitely if its a boy.
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Re: Wayyyyy early
This. I'm only a FTM, but I assume at least some people will want to buy for a second baby. I would register, so you have it in case anyone asks, and for the discount.
This is for all the caterpillars that never became butterflies. And for all the butterflies that never felt the wind in their wings. And for all the hearts that had hopes and dreams of a wondrous flight together.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
I had always been accustomed to it being "bad taste" for a shower for baby 2, but a lot of people I know have had them lately, and it's been no big deal.
I'll be registering, if we find we're having a girl. With my DS, we registered for all our gear to be neutral in the hopes we'd have another. If we're having a girl, I might register for some cute stuff, but we basically have all the gear I can think of needing right now.
No one that I know has a shower for baby #2, and I would find it extremely tacky if someone did. (There are some exceptions, like if it's a first child between a couple even if one of them already has a child.) But a registry is not tacky, as long as you don't offer the registry info unsolicited.
It's considered bad taste, I think, because its assumed that you have things for baby already. However, I believe large age gaps like yours are the exception to the rule, for exactly the reason you gave.
This! We do sprinkles all of the time. Just a few friends and family and little gifts.
DD2 (b. 9/04/2013)
BFP 2/25/12, m/c @ 6w 3d || BFP 8/1/12, m.m/c @ 9w5d
Quite frankly, 2nd and 3rd (and more showers) are rather tacky, and registries as a whole are tacky. The point of a baby shower is for people to celebrate the blessing that is your upcoming (or already had) baby not for the mother or mother-to-be to be a present whore. Prior to WWII baby showers were held AFTER the birth, so everyone could meet the baby and celebrate it's birth. Which is the tradition my family still holds to. Any subsequent "showers" to number one should be a baby welcoming party.
Parties are not for you to get gifts. Your guests should feel honored to be invited and be a part of this wonderful time in your life. They are not there to be responsible for buying childcare items for the child you chose to get pregnant with.
I will have a Babies R Us registry, but only for my own use, discounts, VIB card, and completion discount. If you have a registry, it's SUPER tacky to put it on the invitation. That's basically commanding your guests to buy you a gift and to buy what you tell them to. How RUDE!
This I registered with #2 just so that i had a list of what i needed and for the coupons and discounts. It wasn't much though. I will do it again this time around too.
A shower is so called because the point is to shower the mom with gifts. IMO, you don't show up to a shower without a gift. If you don't want gifts, you don't call it a shower.